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Old February 22nd, 2019, 05:08 PM   #1
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I have read elsewhere on the internet of "testimonials" of people changing their orientation. And on the internet there are places that advertise that parents can send their kids for sexual conversion therapy.

If you had the option to change, would you pick some other sexual orientation that different than what it is now?
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Old February 22nd, 2019, 06:33 PM   #2
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I love my self as I am and I'm sexual openminded, so no I wouldn't change a thing
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We should love ourselves as we r.
That's what makes us-Us.

Conversion therapy is "bull".
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Old February 22nd, 2019, 06:47 PM   #4
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We should love ourselves as we r.
That's what makes us-Us.

Conversion therapy is "bull".
One thing is what we should and another thing is what we do. You probably noticed, not nearly everyone is quite satisfied?
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Old February 22nd, 2019, 06:47 PM   #5
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Nah, I love being gay

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Old February 22nd, 2019, 06:50 PM   #6
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First things first to get it out of the way: conversion therapy is both pseudo-scientific and, in cases of minors, blatant child abuse.

Now that we have that out of the way, the fact that I'm bi is a component of who I am - not ALL of it but an important part - and to wish it away would make me a completely different person facing completely different experiences. Therefore, I'd pass.
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Old February 22nd, 2019, 07:01 PM   #7
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One thing is what we should and another thing is what we do. You probably noticed, not nearly everyone is quite satisfied?
Well if u r not going to love urself it will
rub off and then no one will want to love u.

All through puberty I was questioning myself
of whether I was Straight or Gay. I was turned
on by each but I was not comfortable cause I
didn't know y I had these feelings. I said to my
self Im just going to let it play out and c if It will
change but it didn't. I considered myself Straight
but as I turned 18 I realized this was not going to
change so now I consider myself Bi but only to my
self and no one else needs to know and its no ones
business. I don't think anyone can say they can or
b converted from this to that. U were born that way
and that is how it is.
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Old February 23rd, 2019, 12:11 AM   #8
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First things first to get it out of the way: conversion therapy is both pseudo-scientific and, in cases of minors, blatant child abuse.

Now that we have that out of the way, the fact that I'm bi is a component of who I am - not ALL of it but an important part - and to wish it away would make me a completely different person facing completely different experiences. Therefore, I'd pass.
I'm kinda super suspicious about that conversion therapy stuff, I have read its mostly fake stuff trying to change people in ways that don't work, kinda like trying to make a right handed person, left handed, or vice-versa. Or trying to change a person's eye color. Maybe they try to brain wash people, making them think something fake and not true, but I just can't see it really working for very long. Besides, at school when we learned about body development and stuff they never said anything about people changing if they want to. And plus my gyn dr never said anything either.
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Old February 23rd, 2019, 01:39 AM   #9
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If you had the option to change, would you pick some other sexual orientation that different than what it is now?
no, would not change, even though i am not sure (yet) what it is. but whatever it is, i will be fine with it

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Old February 23rd, 2019, 03:55 AM   #10
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Well if u r not going to love urself it will
rub off and then no one will want to love u.

All through puberty I was questioning myself
of whether I was Straight or Gay. I was turned
on by each but I was not comfortable cause I
didn't know y I had these feelings. I said to my
self Im just going to let it play out and c if It will
change but it didn't. I considered myself Straight
but as I turned 18 I realized this was not going to
change so now I consider myself Bi but only to my
self and no one else needs to know and its no ones
business. I don't think anyone can say they can or
b converted from this to that. U were born that way
and that is how it is.
I agree everybody is better off loving them selves and other people will have a more positive view of everybody.
But it's difficult to say to people, who wants to be different: "That's wrong. You should love your self" and then expect they immediately change their views
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Old February 23rd, 2019, 06:18 AM   #11
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No, I'm happy with my sexuality. I was a bit surprised in the beginning when I realized I was bi, but I've never felt ashamed about it. I'll keep it, thanks.

I see myself as a diplomat. Got a problem with that, asshole? Huh??
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Old February 23rd, 2019, 09:50 AM   #12
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NOPE! If i wasn't attracted to boys my boyfriend wouldn't be in bed with me right now. He's sleeping over and we're just goofing around on the internet, nothing else LOL
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I'm very happy being bisexual, and wouldn't want it to change. It's healthy and normal for me.

I think it's very wrong for parents to try to "fix" one's sexual orientation. It's NOT broken!!!!!!

Gender is a separate issue, which I'm quite familiar with since my little sis used to be my little brother but has since decided to present as a girl 100% of the time. I feel that if someone sincerely knows they are identified as the wrong gender their family should do whatever is necessary to help them get reassigned. In the case of my sis, genetic testing proved that there is no clear gender identification so he was right all along in telling us he was not a boy but felt like a girl.

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No I would not change a thing, I love who I am.

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I'm straight and happy with that. I wouldn't change it. I'm also very aware I have it easy as a straight person.

I'm glad to hear gays and bi's are fine with their orientation. But I wonder if in an earlier era, when it wasn't as accepted as it is, some gays might have wished they were straight. Of course it would have been better for society to accept them as they were, but that not being the case...

As for conversion therapy, in the US I believe it's illegal to subject a minor to that, both for the parent and the therapist and I think the psychology associations say it's not considered legit.

I think we're far better off to push for acceptance in society, than have people change.

Another great question by the OP.
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I'm straight and happy with that. I wouldn't change it. I'm also very aware I have it easy as a straight person.

I'm glad to hear gays and bi's are fine with their orientation. But I wonder if in an earlier era, when it wasn't as accepted as it is, some gays might have wished they were straight. Of course it would have been better for society to accept them as they were, but that not being the case...

As for conversion therapy, in the US I believe it's illegal to subject a minor to that, both for the parent and the therapist and I think the psychology associations say it's not considered legit.

I think we're far better off to push for acceptance in society, than have people change.

Another great question by the OP.
As far as I know there's no federal law about conversion therapy so some states have banned it completely, some only allow it for legal adults and some (likely Bible Belt states) have little to no restrictions on the practice at all
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As far as I know there's no federal law about conversion therapy so some states have banned it completely, some only allow it for legal adults and some (likely Bible Belt states) have little to no restrictions on the practice at all
I just looked it up; you're right. The information I was given was regarding a pending federal bill.

I don't like the idea of conversion therapy, but I'm not sure I think it should be made illegal. I think it's better that professional organizations use pressure, rather than politicians determining what is and isn't appropriate psychotherapy.

We had an era where 'repressed memory syndrome' was all the rage with therapists and patients and it turned out to be mostly bunk. A lot of innocent people were hurt by that, but lawmakers didn't legislate against it.

What if it could be successfully performed? Would it be ok to do that?
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I'm kinda super suspicious about that conversion therapy stuff, I have read its mostly fake stuff trying to change people in ways that don't work, kinda like trying to make a right handed person, left handed, or vice-versa.
It's interesting you brought up right handedness/left handedness.

When one of my great aunt's was a child, it was clear she was naturally left handed. Her mom always took the spoon, crayon, whatever, out of her left hand and put it in her right hand and made her right handed.

At that time, being left handed was quite an obstacle in life. Classrooms only had right handed desks. An entire classroom might only have one pair of left handed scissors, or even none. Teachers didn't know how to teach writing to left handed students, so the students would do this weird twisting of their wrist so they could pull the pen.

My great aunt became right handed and it made things much easier for her in school. It was then easy for her to become ambidextrous.
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It's interesting you brought up right handedness/left handedness.

When one of my great aunt's was a child, it was clear she was naturally left handed. Her mom always took the spoon, crayon, whatever, out of her left hand and put it in her right hand and made her right handed.

At that time, being left handed was quite an obstacle in life. Classrooms only had right handed desks. An entire classroom might only have one pair of left handed scissors, or even none. Teachers didn't know how to teach writing to left handed students, so the students would do this weird twisting of their wrist so they could pull the pen.

My great aunt became right handed and it made things much easier for her in school. It was then easy for her to become ambidextrous.
yeah, it possible to force people to be something that they are not. So I guess you are suggesting that gay people should be forced to be straight, and after a while (many years) they will just accept it because it most people are straight.
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