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Old February 15th, 2019, 12:54 PM   #1
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Hey,

I started talking to a girl over a month ago and it felt like things were clicking until now. I her and I have mutual feelimgs towards eachother, however she didn't want to start dating yet because she has trust issues. I totally understand. However, yesterday was valentines day and I wanted to do something nice for her. I asked her to be my valentine, and she never gave me an answer. We then continued our conversation and we came back on the topic of valentines day. I told her some of my feelings that I didnt want to tell her cause I didnt want to pressure her, and how I felt confused and that I'm starting to feel like I'm not good enough for her. She then said she'd be my valentine. Then as the night continued, she said she felt sad and I asked her why, she then said that she felt I pressured her to give me an answer she wasn't ready to give. Now I feel like a bad human because of it. Then we terminated our conversation and said goodnight. We texted a little bit during lunchtime because I injured my back yesterday and she said that she feels sad because of yesterday and that I'm not at school today and for an unknown reasons. I just don't know what to do, because she's not ready for a relationship, but I don't know how much longer I can last until I start being sad all the time.

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Old February 15th, 2019, 01:14 PM   #2
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The thing is you have to seriously ask yourself is how much you care for this girl and how much you are willing to respect and wait for her to be ready. I think if you respect those wishes she is really going to see that you really care for her and that is going to make a positive impression on her. I know it is got to be hard on you to wait, but you have to ask yourself is she worth the wait. That is an answer only you can answer and no one on here can help you with. I truly hope it all works out for you. Keep communicating with her and caring for her.
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Old February 15th, 2019, 02:36 PM   #3
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U only know her a month. In a way u did
pressure her but a boy or girl just asking
"B my Valentine" is just in a shy way to
say I like u-do u like me. Tell her u over
stepped in asking her to date and sorry
that u may have come on too fast and
now lets only b friends. Give her time
and b friendly and u two gain a little
more acquainted and then c how
things will work out.
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Old February 15th, 2019, 07:05 PM   #4
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I don't agree that you pressured her into answering you.
You asked her a question and the polite thing to do is respond. She didn't, so you asked again.

I imagine the real situation was that she didn't want to be your Valentine, but lacked the assertiveness and integrity to tell you. So she took the easy way out, lied to you and then blamed you for making her feel bad for lying.

tbh, being someone's Valentine shouldn't be that big a thing. It's a one day commitment.

There's no reason you should feel you are a bad person. You did nothing wrong.

But it does seem it might be good for you to give up on her and move on.

Good luck
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Old February 15th, 2019, 08:20 PM   #5
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neither of you sound mature enough to handle an actual relationship. stick to just being friends for now.

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Old February 17th, 2019, 11:31 PM   #6
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Update:

This might be a surprising update, but her and I were planning on hanging out tomorrow (or today depending on where you live). The original plan was at a park, but it got switched to her house. I've already meet her family and I'm in good standing with them. Sooooo, inching closer to maybe dating? Her and I have already gone to the library by ourselves. I'm excited.


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Old February 17th, 2019, 11:59 PM   #7
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Good luck Devin-hope all
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Old February 18th, 2019, 12:04 AM   #8
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We, as people, tend to tell ourselves stories especially when it comes to love so don’t get your hopes up dude. But despite that, still wishing both of you luck

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Update:

This might be a surprising update, but her and I were planning on hanging out tomorrow (or today depending on where you live). The original plan was at a park, but it got switched to her house. I've already meet her family and I'm in good standing with them. Sooooo, inching closer to maybe dating? Her and I have already gone to the library by ourselves. I'm excited.
Good for you.

How old are you, btw?
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Old February 18th, 2019, 11:49 PM   #10
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She’s just not that into you maybe?
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Old February 21st, 2019, 02:26 PM   #11
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This might sound cold, but time to walk away. She is not ready, DO NOT try a force your feeling on her.
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Old February 21st, 2019, 08:27 PM   #12
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I'll give another small little update; her and I have started talking about our views on relationships here and there. She likes me and shows a lot of hints. She knows I like her. I'm giving her time, as well as making sure she knows I'm still interested. Its a work in progress, but I believe with time she'll be open to the idea of dating.


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