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Old December 7th, 2018, 12:06 AM   #1
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The last few months of my life has been a huge learning experience for me. I've realized that I've needed to take more advise from others, and that there are various things that guys ought to know to be successful in relationships, professionally, and in everyday life. This is aimed at guys specifically, though many of these can be applied for gals as well.

Relationship Advice: The best gift to give your crush is not material, if you want her to remember you then the best gift is simply being with her. Talk to her, get to know her, let her know you. Time together, even in a casual setting, is the best thing to get her to remember you.

My best friend told me this, as I recently came out telling him that I was interested in a friend of his girlfriend. Fully supportive, he shared this with me saying that this was the best advice he's gotten. And I've found it to be very true. Sure it's a slow and steady approach, but I'm making solid in-roads that I know will last in her mind.
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Old December 7th, 2018, 08:59 PM   #2
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Relationship Advice: Building on the last post, if you do decide to give her a physical gift, make it something personal that will always remind her of you. Don't go overboard, as you'll just scare her away. For example, since I'm good with woodworking and my crush loves Christmas, I made her two wooden Christmas ornaments, while the rest of my friends got store bought items. A good friend of mine with much more dating experience than me said it was a very smooth move. You don't have to make it yourself if you don't have the skills, just focus on the little personal things, not the price tag.
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Old December 7th, 2018, 09:06 PM   #3
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Know when to accept when you are wrong, it makes you humble. People in general will appreciate you more and have more respect and admiration for you for that.

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Old January 21st, 2019, 11:54 AM   #4
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Dress to impress. Jeans and t-shirts might be fine casual attire, but don't be afraid to class it up when doing something a bit more formal. Just goes to show you are respectful, and just makes you look better.

And guys, if you are going on a more formal date with your gf and you know she is dressing up for it, try harder than just a wrinkly button-down. Nothing annoys me more than a girl all prettied-up going out with a guy who looks like he pulled his outfit out of the hamper. Be classy guys, put on a clean shirt, slacks, and dress shoes. She's dressing up for you, dressing up for her is the least you can do.
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Old February 4th, 2019, 12:03 AM   #5
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Own a coat and tie.

This is mainly for the older guys here, who are beginning to come out of their parents' wing and form their own path in life. So as you probably know from my prior post I think a guy should dress well. In most cases, dress pants and a button down are all you really need, however there are cases where something extra is need, aka a coat and tie. Weddings, funerals, formal gatherings, professional job interviews, these are all cases where having a coat and tie will impress. Despite the stereotype they aren't too expensive, as long as you aren't buying some custom tailored italian cashmere money-pit. One thing I've found is that Goodwill and Salvation Army generally have plenty of high quality coats and suits at a fraction of the retail price. I went there this last Summer looking for 2 coats to take with me to college, and instead walked out with 4 suits and 3 coats, because they just fit me nearly perfectly and were a crazy good deal.
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Old June 21st, 2020, 08:41 AM   #6
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If a bully makes fun of or assaults you, simply walking away defeated is not "being the bigger man". It's taking the easiest way out of that encounter. Bullies exist purely to get that response out of you, they want to see you defeated and whimpering before them. You should instead respond one of two ways.

Either don't fight back, but don't give them the satisfaction of you being defeated. Your refusal to give in will infuriate them and ultimately cause them to give up on you since you're too difficult to get that emotional reaction they want. It would also indirectly show them their own pettiness by having them question why you wouldn't break. This is the "Turning the other Cheek" Jesus spoke about.

Or you fight back. Just be careful with this. I wouldn't make it your first choice, but if it gets to the point where the bully won't stop, then I would say it's appropriate. Just don't escalate it and don't let your emotions overtake you. Don't start beating him to a pulp if he's poking fun at your clothes. But if he's getting in your face and is a reasonable threat, a quick punch to the gut should be enough to force him down and for you to continue on your way. Not the most PC action, but for some bullies it's the only way they'll learn.
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Old June 24th, 2020, 01:14 AM   #7
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All these things are really helpful! I think learning from others is incredibly helpful, it's great to have these things here.
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Old June 24th, 2020, 11:28 PM   #8
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I guess I'd have to say that it is important to appreciate the little, simple details in your life. The type of things one usually takes for granted. For example, good health could be one thing, or having a place to live, food to eat, clothes to wear. It's important to be appreciative of all these things. Having someone to talk to, having parents you can turn to, or a brother or sister that you love and you can trust, or even really really good friends is something to be deeply thankful for. My advice is to appreciate the time you spend with such people, the conversations that you have with them, and the activities you do together, and never regard such things as a waste of time. Everything will change with time, and things won't always be the way they are now. Be thankful for and appreciate what you have now, and make the best of everything you have now while you still have it.

I'll also add that things haven't been too smooth or easy in my past, but going through it all with my little brother really changed my perspective on many things. We never had all the latest video games that other kids had, or the fancy designer clothes, or large social groups where you can hang out and go to each other's houses for birthday parties, etc. And while it might've been nice to have all that stuff - and I certainly do wish we had had all that - I'll say that going through the toughest years in my life with none of that stuff, but only having my little brother to count on and to talk to and trust, it really made me appreciate having him and appreciate all the other little things and details across the years, even the small, kind things that other people did for me/us, all the way to the family we have now, the parents that took us in as their own sons.

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Old June 25th, 2020, 11:59 AM   #9
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Being honest in life can be difficult, especially when you need to own up to something you did, and know there will be consequences for your actions.
Iíve made a lot of mistakes in my short life, most I am not proud of, others Iím ok with, it is what it is and I had to do what I had to do to survive at that time I guess. But changing that way of thinking isnít easy. You live so long with a certain track of thinking, and you donít even realize how wrong it is, till itís to late. And itís hard to re build than it is to build.

So establishing trust, credibility, being honest even when faced with consequences you know will be painful, thatís what a guy does, he doesnít throw someone else under the bus, a guy, stand up guy takes his own shit, and doesnít give it to someone else.

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Old June 26th, 2020, 09:16 PM   #10
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Adding to our dressing well section, own many ties. It's bad form to wear the same shirt two days in a row, and the same goes for ties.

No frills, no thrills, no fuss.
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Old June 30th, 2020, 03:34 AM   #11
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Never forgive.
Never forget.
Know your enemies.
Cultivate your hatred cause it keeps you going.
Read and study science.
Learn to be dishonest ans slimy when its necessary. Dont just make it a habit.
Drink modestly.
Hone your fighting skills. Learn how to use violence and then choose to use it wisely.

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