please help...so desperately confused

[vanhalenftw1539]

any advice or similar experiences you guys can give me are greatly appreciated. (also im sorry if you already saw a similar thread by me, i needed more advice)

i've grown up straight, having crushes on girls, etc. as soon as i started puberty i've had off and on sexual curiosities for guys, which is normal, i understand. that didn't change the way i felt about girls, although my romantic feelings for people in general weren't as strong. nothing too major; anyway, the point is, i knew i wasnt gay or bi because i grew up liking girls only and never had any emotional attraction to guys whatsoever. now im so worried that i cant even think normally.

i think i might have a crush on child star zachary gordon. im not sure if its a crush, i saw his movie the other day with my family and i thought it was cute how much he liked the girl in the movie, both of them being fairly young kids and all. but then i watched some interviews with him on jay leno, rachael ray, etc and thought he is the most adorable person i've ever seen. the way he's so mature for his age, the way he laughs, his personality (i feel like such a queer writing this). i have no idea what to think of this. i spent basically the entire day yesterday watching interviews because he is so cute.

im literally worried sick, and its affecting my daily life. im eating less, losing sleep, either from these feelings or probably from the slight chance that i may not be straight. im so confused, being a teenager is awkward as hell. ive never felt anything like this in years, ESPECIALLY not for a guy. (who is 2 years younger than me, by the way. i even thought he was younger.)

i posted this because i didnt think i could talk to anyone else; most of my friends are straight males, and my parents...definitely not. this is the first time ive felt truly "un-straight" and other than that im not feminine at all. if i turned out to be gay i'd be the straightest gay person alive. i've had crushes on girls all throughout my childhood and never a guy to my knowledge (i'm 15). also, most of the fantasies about me and zach are us becoming friends, not like dating or anything. but i find him to be the cutest human being alive and i cant control it.

im just so desperately confused and worried...somebody please help...will this blow over? he's the only guy i've ever really found attractive; when my female friends mention like taylor lautner or justin bieber i just roll my eyes because like i said i dont find any of them attractive because theyre guys. but this is just worrying me sick. is it hormones? im a nervous wreck...help!!!

[MustangRacer35]

Hey don't worry about it. You said you've never had a crush on a guy before so one isn't a big deal. Just because you think another guy is cute, that doesn't mean you're gay or even bi.

[JonTyler]

Ya dude it's pretty much hormones.. You're going through puberty which mostly all the time means you will be attracted to anything walking.. nothing you can control and this is fine

[grstl]

I used to have a crush on Jonathan Taylor Thomas.....but then I turned out gay. I tried to be straight and stressed so much that I decided to just be me.

You are on the other side of the coin. Enjoy trying some new things or the new feelings you get.....then enjoy where it all leads you. You may end up comfortably straight with experiences to help the next worried guy on VT! If not, trust me, there are lots of opinions here on how to work out your bi-ness or gay-ness.

As for me....I ended up thinking myself as gay with a girlfriend. I don't thrill about sex with her and often think about guys then, but she knows and I still make her happy enough that she remains my very best friend knowing who I really am inside. I do love her for that!

Life can be complicated......don't stress.......just enjoy each part of the journey and pour out your heart here if you feel too alone. It helps! I no longer feel completely alone.....I hope this helps you.

[Fruit_Tart.]

I used to have a crush on Jonathan Taylor Thomas.....but then I turned out gay. I tried to be straight and stressed so much that I decided to just be me.

You are on the other side of the coin. Enjoy trying some new things or the new feelings you get.....then enjoy where it all leads you. You may end up comfortably straight with experiences to help the next worried guy on VT! If not, trust me, there are lots of opinions here on how to work out your bi-ness or gay-ness.

As for me....I ended up thinking myself as gay with a girlfriend. I don't thrill about sex with her and often think about guys then, but she knows and I still make her happy enough that she remains my very best friend knowing who I really am inside. I do love her for that!

Life can be complicated......don't stress.......just enjoy each part of the journey and pour out your heart here if you feel too alone. It helps! I no longer feel completely alone.....I hope this helps you.
This is great advice^

Follow what you think is right and not what others say is right for you.

Your crush can turn into something bigger or maybe it's just that you're a major fan of Zachary Gordon or something. It doesn't necessarily mean you're gay. If you start growing emotions for other boys, (actual people you know) then you might be bi at the least.

You shouldn't think being gay or bi is abnormal, just think of it as who you are. In the long run it'll only get harder for you to realize you are gay or bi, if you keep denying it. It doesn't hurt to try something new, and if you don't like it just simply stop, but this seems like a start of something new.

I hope you find figure out who/what you really are. Good luck in doing that and vteen will always be here to help. PM/VM me, if your comfortable to.

[clr9823]

When this kinda thing happened to me, I felt similar but it was due to knowing that I'd never be able to get them and that it was completely stupid... okay, I kinda developed a crush on a cartoon character :s BUT the point is that when I've had these kinda feelings, they were similar to how you described them but passed really quickly, maybe don't watch his movies and your crush/whatever for him should pass.

[MasterChief0000]

Hey!!!! did you already solved your problem??
having the same problem
don't know what happened, I was just watching his movie, but after that, things got very bad.
do you know that I repeatedly watched his movie for 1 week (1 movie/week)
I don't understand Zachary, even guys are getting attracted, maybe he's using some sort of magic, black perhaps hahaha :):)


and oh!
those fantasies happened too, thinking of us being friends
need some help

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