High School Social "Classes"

[Wolfy B]

Ok so I've got two main questions. Numero uno is for the ladies (preferably 16ish +): what do you find more attractive generally, a "justin bieber" hairstyle or a much shorter (almost buzzcut) type. Just wondering since lately I've become increasingly annoyed by my long hair.

Second do you think social "class" would prevent two people in high school from dating. For example: I am a kinda quite/shy guy around strangers but around my friends I'm the loud jokester, also I am completely un-athletic (more of a video gamer myself). Would somone like me "have a chance" at dating a girl who plays multiple sports, really outgoing, not shy at all, etc.? We have a lot in common personality wise and that I think is more important than most other things. Also its not like I would be completely un-willing to go to sports events or other stuff like that.

Any feedback/opinions are appreciated. :D

[anonymous53]

"Any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet.They just need the right broom."

Read more: "Any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet. They just need the right broom." -Will Smith/Alex Hitchins, from the movie Hitch.

This pretty much sums it up, if you have a good personality, and the person isn't extremely shallow it doesn't matter what social class you're in. The ones who won't date out of their social "class" aren't even worth the time :)

[biffen94]

I'm a girl, 16 =)

So to answer question numero uno:
It really does depend on how your face looks like. A buzz cut can be sooo hot on one guy and totally not on another =P Guy with buzz cut: Wentworth Miller, omg, incredibly hot! It's not this bullshit talk about letting your facial features come out, I think it's the fact that he's so picture perfect allround that the fact that he doesn't care that much to have super glamorous hair makes it hotter on him. It makes him special.

Somebody who looks hotter with more of a Bieber length hair:
Zac Efron. I don't know why but I think he looks good in it because he's a typical ''babe''... I don't like that word x) He'd look weird in a buzz cut. The haircut Bieber had before was awkward to look at x) Looked like a wig.

It really does depend on your face shape. It depends on what you wanna achieve with your look as well. Buzz cut=edgier image, more of a tough guy. Justin Bieberish: Sweet guy, more of a nice guy. It depends on the guy. Like Wentworth, he'd be too perfect with perfect hair. Like any other movie-star. Nothing special with him. Zac Efron makes himself look like a really sweet guy by having a really cute hairstyle(imo). I'm sorry for the incredibly long reply x)

Numero dos.

I really don't think so. Maybe yes, if you think about it this way. How likely are you two to have a conversation? That might make it harder, but once you have contact with each other I think you'd have an equally fair chance with the girl as any other ''class''.

[Wolfy B]

Numero dos.

I really don't think so. Maybe yes, if you think about it this way. How likely are you two to have a conversation? That might make it harder, but once you have contact with each other I think you'd have an equally fair chance with the girl as any other ''class''.

Yeah, I wasn't so much asking about the first part because I have no problem just walking up and talking to her but I was mostly worried because you don't see people like that together too often.

[Aelfwyn]

I don't mean for you to take this as a reason to not go after her, but I often feel restricted by the unspoken class system of my school. The fellow that I have been attracted to is not quite super popular, but he is much more popular than I am. I feel like I am way beneath him, and that he won't stoop down to my level because it will drop him down the class scale to not have a babe on his arm.

Granted, this boy is a douche bag that is superficial and only cares about himself.

In conclusion, the class system only affects things if the person in a higher position is a stuck-up, self-centered jerk who knows what power they hold over the "lower" person. So if this lady is deeper, kinder, and less self-centered than my fellow, you have little to worry about in terms of social status.

Granted, keep in mind the whole possible dating scenario. Will she want to go hang out and play some sport or another with you while you just want to chill or whatever? (Forgive me if I am assuming something wrong about you). Do you get along with her friends and she with yours? Do you share anything in common beyond personalities? Having one shy person and one more outgoing person in a relationship is not necessarily a bad this, as many relationships have one more dominate person, in this case more dominate in social settings.

Just go for it. Better yet, write her a letter. No one writes letter anymore, so it will seem like you really put time into it. :P

[Wolfy B]

I don't mean for you to take this as a reason to not go after her, but I often feel restricted by the unspoken class system of my school. The fellow that I have been attracted to is not quite super popular, but he is much more popular than I am. I feel like I am way beneath him, and that he won't stoop down to my level because it will drop him down the class scale to not have a babe on his arm.

Granted, this boy is a douche bag that is superficial and only cares about himself.

In conclusion, the class system only affects things if the person in a higher position is a stuck-up, self-centered jerk who knows what power they hold over the "lower" person. So if this lady is deeper, kinder, and less self-centered than my fellow, you have little to worry about in terms of social status.

Granted, keep in mind the whole possible dating scenario. Will she want to go hang out and play some sport or another with you while you just want to chill or whatever? (Forgive me if I am assuming something wrong about you). Do you get along with her friends and she with yours? Do you share anything in common beyond personalities? Having one shy person and one more outgoing person in a relationship is not necessarily a bad this, as many relationships have one more dominate person, in this case more dominate in social settings.

Just go for it. Better yet, write her a letter. No one writes letter anymore, so it will seem like you really put time into it. :P

Not sure about the letter thing but thanks for the advice anyway :D
She's definitely not stuck up or superficial either which is why I like her so much honestly, there aren't many girls like her in high school.
Not sure wht you mean by having stuff in common besides personality but we probably have different definitons of it.
Also aren't relationships largely about compromise anyway? So I wouldn't mind if she wanted to go play sports with some of her friends and I could go hang out with mine.
I've also heard the saying "opposites attract" many times before ;)

Now as for you. If you'd like my opinion you seem like much to nice of a girl to be into a guy like that! Anyway that's just my 2 cents, thanks again.

[The Madness.]

All girls are different concerning their preferable hairstyle with guys. I personally like longer hair on guys, not like Justin Bieber, where it's so neat, but messy kind of. On some guys though I prefer shorter hair because it just looks better on the guy.

Some people are different, the ones that think social classes matter. If two people like each other enough and they're mature, they won't care about 'social classes'.

[Aelfwyn]

By a letter I mean a classic love letter, listing why you like her. I'm a romantic at heart, so I really dig things like that; however, it may be too gushy for some people.

And by having things in common, I mean are you both in similar classes or both like the same things, like say drawing or photography.

Compromise is definitely needed in a relationship, but some people just won't get along well no matter what. Make sure that you consider how much work may be involved in the compromise.

Love is a battle, and if you care enough, you should be ready to wage war :)

I am going to be honest, this boy is below my standards. I don't mean to be elitist or full of myself, but I've seen him look at girls like they're pieces of meat, smiling like a hyena about to make a kill. I like to say that my hormones like him, but my reason hates him.

[Wolfy B]

By a letter I mean a classic love letter, listing why you like her. I'm a romantic at heart, so I really dig things like that; however, it may be too gushy for some people.

And by having things in common, I mean are you both in similar classes or both like the same things, like say drawing or photography.

Compromise is definitely needed in a relationship, but some people just won't get along well no matter what. Make sure that you consider how much work may be involved in the compromise.

Love is a battle, and if you care enough, you should be ready to wage war :)

I am going to be honest, this boy is below my standards. I don't mean to be elitist or full of myself, but I've seen him look at girls like they're pieces of meat, smiling like a hyena about to make a kill. I like to say that my hormones like him, but my reason hates him.

Yeah I do know that she and I have some things in common already. I'll admit I've had my fair share of fleeting high school crushes but I have NEVER felt this strongly about any of them before, which is why I'm taking it so seriously. And after I met her I really do know what people mean when they say they can't stop thinking about them (not to be too gushy XD). Oh and btw I love that quote, really cool.
Also I know EXACTLY what you are talking about and yes, it is your hormones and it will most likely pass within a month or so. Although it could not be hormones it sounds a lot like what I went through and then got over it very quickly.

[theoburray]

High School "Classes" are terrible, that's why the best one really is to be not part of a stereotypical group. I know I was, got along with everyone and I know I have no enemies and I won't get any stick for talking to 'unpopular' people but at the same time I can go up to any 'popular' person and talk to them.

But I doubt it should matter too much, just work on your self image ;)

[goofball]

Q2

In a school environment, probably not.

[Apollo.]

I like longer hair, I really do not think about social classes much.