I don't know what to do with my life, please help me! :/

[High]

I am 14 years old, 5"6' and I am 140 pounds. I'd like to clear that up before I get deeper into my story. Bottom line is..
I have no clue what to do even do with my life, for example. I'm going to admit, I'm not ugly at all I am pretty good looking.
I get a lot of girls from the other towns/schools. But all the girls from my school just think Im a douche bag or creepy and weird.
What the hell? I only have one friend I can go talk to but he has been an asshole and has changed alot this past year and is hard to talk to now.
Okay first off.

My Personality:
I am very humourus, I love to crack jokes and make people laugh. But sometimes I take it way to far, and I act very immature in class.
I piss off my teachers, I get by in class by copying off my friends. I always slack, don't listen and I just do my own thing. I acknowledge this
and I really do want to change, but I can't! I do believe I have Attention deficit (or however you spell it) and I may believe it could be causing some of this.
I do some bad things, I drink, smoke occasionally I am in sports. But I'm not really sure what kind of personality I should have, this sounds ridiculous but I hate myself
and the way I act, I am very immature and obnoxious around other people which is why the girls in my grade don't like me that well. Cause believe me, I do have the looks but I just act
Like a complete idiot. I really want to change this, and I have set goals in the past to overcome this maturity but I can't. It seems right when I get back into that class room I
Go straight back to my old ways. Please how can I change this? UGH At heart, I'm a farmboy who likes motocross and snowmobiles stuff like that.

MYSELF:
Really I want to be that guy that everyone likes and can get along with it, I want a lot more friends that are girls too. I need to somehow change the way I act and treat others. People
tend to talk shit about me too, it really frustrates me. I am also insecure about some things about myself, I have moderate acne..It's really not that bad too be honest but I just hate it cause
the few pimples i get just look disgusting. Two is my weight, I'm not fat at all but I have a little gut. I want to get a six pack so bad it's killing me, how can I get this?
I've tried in the past but I failed, I had no motivation. I had a great diet going on but the working out part is tough to do.
Another thing is Clothes, what kind of clothes should I wear? What do girls find attractive? I live in Minnesota. i wear things like Fox racing, Rockstar, Alpine shirts, mainly racing related clothing.
I also wear some Preppy clothes, like American Eagle and Hollister. What kind of clothes should I wear and what do women find attractive? And shoes, what kinds? Should I get shoes like Nike shox or Osiris.


Too be honest, I wish I could just transfer schools but I know that'll never happen. What can I do? Sometimes I just come home all depressed and it bothers me so much. Please If I could get a nice specific answer
you have no idea how much i will appreciate it.

[SuperSuraj]

You honestly don't seem that bad, I think like you said the one thing you have to change is your behavior with other people. I went through the same thing you went through and luckily I was able to change and now I've almost won most friendly in middle school. All that will come with age though, you're just 14 so you have a lot of maturing to do and thinking before you speak will help a lot, you just have to learn that there is a fine line between joking with people and hurting their feelings, that all comes with trail and error because everyone has different limits. And with girls that limit is extremely low lol, joking is fine but douche baggyness isn't something that they tolerate very much, once again just think before you speak and try to be as diplomatic as you can, don't offend them and they will love you, if you have the looks you keep saying you have lol.

As for the way you dress, don't change that. Looks are subjective, you don't have to dress for anyone but yourself because everyone has their own specific taste in guys.... but i've owned osiris shoes and they get a lot of compliments... just saying hahah.

I hope this helped :)

[smitty35]

Ok, let me just say that you have a SHITLOAD of questions in this one post. Never have I read one with that many questions. I can tell that you are really confused on what you want to be/do/act. I will try to answer your questions as best as I can.

What I like:
-I like the fact that you are 14 (just like me)
-I like the fact that you are humorous.
-I like it that you can be a class clown
-I like the fact that you strive to change your ways.

What I dislike:
-I dislike the fact that you smoke, drink.
-I dislike it that you act obnoxious just to annoy people.
-I dislike the fact that you hate yourself.

Ok I could add more but then my post would be longer than yours! :)

Ok, here is the advice part: I think you should STOP smoking/drinking. I think that you should stop worrying about your cloths. People shouldn’t judge other people on what they wear. I know they do, but they shouldn’t. I think that you should stick with that mentality. I KNOW that if you keep on working out you will get rid of that excess "chub" on your stomach. I think that you need to do you own class work. I think that you need to stop relying on other peoples class work. I think that you need to pay attention in class. I think that you should stop being that class clown.

I know this all sounds harsh. But if you do as I said, then you will have more friends and be that likable guy that you want to be. But to do so you have to make some major changes. Only bother doing it if you are 100% committed.


P.S. This is probably my longest post ever, but I think it is worth it if you become a better person. :D

[High]

Thank you, anyone else? Too be honest I don't think I'm too worried about my looks anymore. I'm just going to take my health seriously and quit smoking and excercise. But my main problem is maturing and stop being a dumbass in class. I'm having huge problems with it..

[Bimmerhead]

Thank you, anyone else? Too be honest I don't think I'm too worried about my looks anymore. I'm just going to take my health seriously and quit smoking and excercise. But my main problem is maturing and stop being a dumbass in class. I'm having huge problems with it..

Maturity comes at different times for people. Basically all you can do is be nice and be yourself. Confidence is also a huge thing! Dont let people push you around and DONT let people think you have a low self esteem. School is like a jungle in some ways and kids really do prey on the weak. I think you will do fine though. Lay off on the substance though your still really young.

[tpzy94]

ok dude well you have it pretty damn gravy...first off be real to yourself and just be you. Dont be a doucher cause girls dont find that attractive..this isnt the movies... and it doesnt matter if your ugly or not girls will date a not so attractive guy aslong as he is funny and down and just laid back. Next thing you do is try to start picking up your grades and cut back on the jokes and stuff cause class clowns get old. Its that easy just sit back and relax and friends will come to you if you start being a leader and not a follower...

[Quick_Sylver]

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