Do your parents care if you are overweight?

[atomsmasher]

I know that by any standard I am too fat. I am 14 years old, 5'5, and 200lbs. Here is my question for all of you chubby, fat, overweight and obese kids out there: do your parents care? I am comfortable with my weight around everyone in my family and all my friends, except my dad. Any time I find myself shirtless around him he always remarks that I am getting tubby. Or I am gaining weight. Or I have gotten too fat. Or I need to start working out. Sometimes I'll be sitting on the couch and he'll say something about my double chin. Or my stomach is going to get bigger if I don't get up. I know I'm fat. Believe me, I see my gut all day every day. I don't know why he feels the need to tell me he wears 32's or that I have 40 pounds on him.

My mom on the other hand is fine. She stops me when I eat excessive candy and things, but she doesn't tell me I'm too fat or heavy. She doesn't give me funny looks when I order a half pound hamburger from restaurants or have an extra bowl of ice cream.

If you are chubby, overweight, fat or obese, do your parents care?

[anonymous53]

Yeah, they probably would for me. I already get comments from my father about me being fat even though I'm in the normal range.

[broseph92]

my parents are health freaks, and so are me & my siblings. We were never allowed to eat unhealthy food. No fastfood, unless it was something like Subway. So yeah, my parents would definitely care if any of us got overweight, they'd have us working out ASAP until we got thin again.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

I'm a little over weight, but my dad doesn't care. He only cares that I'm healthy.

My mom on the other hand, ohhhh yeah. She even went to the extreme when I was little to make sure I didn't gain any weight. I vaugely remember rumaging through the fridge when no one was looking because I was so hungry. I had only gained one pound from the ages of 3-7...Although, I sometimes wish I stuck to that because then I would still be super skinny...

I usually wake up happy with the way I look, but people I hang out with sometimes make little comments, to the point that I can't look at myself.

[A.J.]

When I was overweight when i was younger, my dad consantly ragged on me to lose weight. I played sports and didnt eat junk food, we hardly had it in the house. I just needed time to grow into my body. He does the same thing too my younger siblings

[Immortal Love]

I'm 5'3, and last time I checked I was 156. My Mother, Grandma and Grandpa always bug me about it. I'm on a diet too, of Chicken and Brocoli (Spelling?) and it still dosn't help. So yes, they do care, but also I'm dispositioned to extra weight due to the family genes. My father was a big guy, and it runs in his side of the family. Along with major health issues like Diabetes.

[PAfarmerkid]

No, Im 6 foot and 275 pounds, but I have a large frame, Im not just fat. I was betweeb 290 and 300 at the beginning of the year but put myself on a little diet. I never eat junk food (never did, never is in the house) but I drank alot of pop and I cut that. Like I said my mom or grandma dont care, they are both alittle over weight themselves. One of my uncles will make a remark once in awhile bout my size but not lik e"oh, your fat, you need to lose weight" My grandpa has started getting on me after he lost 45-50 pounds. So now Im workin on losin some weight and hopefully getting alittle more skinny. I was skinny when I was really young but when I was 7-8 I started gettin chubby :p

[Apollo.]

I was overweight about 2 years back, yes my parents went on at me, but they also helped me they stopped buying junkfood into the house bought me a gym membership and made me actually use it. I didn't think much at the time but I'm really happy they did now. Maybe tell tour dad to help you do something about it instead of just complaining all the time.

[Craig1995]

I think it would be a bad thing if they didn't care. I'm under weight and my dad got mr on a doctor diet and I'm only aloud to do a certain amount of exercise and I'm not allowed to do hill walking now :(

[whodatbe]

i think my parents would because they love me and they want me to be healthy. Also, a lot of people in my family have died from weight related problems, so i think they would try to help me lose weight

[Rayquaza]

my mum makes occasional insults to me from time to time but it doesnt bother me because my whole family is overweight (not fat)

[restricted NA]

no they worry im too skinny , like scary skinny

[atomsmasher]

Well I think I figured out why my dad has been ragging on me so much lately. I went to the doctor a few weeks ago, and I usually request them to not send a report home. I must've forgotten, because I found a letter from the doctor saying that I am 200 pounds, am now obese, and am 35% bodyfat. I have a feeling my dad may start forcing me to work out.

[lardlad2002]

I have a feeling my dad may start forcing me to work out.

I am in the same boat. I am fat and my dad makes me and my fatter brother go to the gym at least twice a week. If we're not sweaty when he picks us up, he'll leave us there longer. What I usually do is have a wank in the bathroom and then sit in the sauna for 20 min. Blubber heats you up fast so I am usually dripping by the time he comes. Works great and I get a little bit of a workout.

You should also try a bit of a diet. I hate excercising, and I just wont. I've been watching what I eat (a little) and I've only gained few pounds in the last 4 months. (Last year I had gained about 13 pounds by this time)

[atomsmasher]

I am in the same boat. I am fat and my dad makes me and my fatter brother go to the gym at least twice a week. If we're not sweaty when he picks us up, he'll leave us there longer. What I usually do is have a wank in the bathroom and then sit in the sauna for 20 min. Blubber heats you up fast so I am usually dripping by the time he comes. Works great and I get a little bit of a workout.

You should also try a bit of a diet. I hate excercising, and I just wont. I've been watching what I eat (a little) and I've only gained few pounds in the last 4 months. (Last year I had gained about 13 pounds by this time)

If I was dragged to the gym I would feel bad if I just jacked off and then sat on my ass. It would be a waste of money I think. I would probably swim or something. And I've been trying not to shove my face full of fatty foods since my doctor told me I'm obese. It's helped a little, I've only gained 5 pounds this year.

[swisss21]

I am not overweight also not underweight. But my mom is always cautious about my food. She gives me right amount of fat and protein food. she asks me to not to avoid fatty food so that i can have some more fat on right place.

[swisss21]

I am not overweight also not underweight. But my mom is always cautious about my food. She gives me right amount of fat and protein food. she asks me to not to avoid fatty food so that i can have some more fat on right place.

[Niukas]

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[Ambrosia]

Hey i am 14. 5"5 and 110 lbs and doctor says that im fat. Is he wrong?

Make your own thread for that. The question wasn't anything about that...

I'm not fat or anything. My body type just isn't meant to be super thin. I'm 5'3 and have that short look to me. My chest is huge so my stomach is really not noticable because no one really has a chance to look (Lol).

My mother is constantly telling me I need to diet. She always tells me what size SHE wears in pants and then looks at me like "Yeah, way less than you". My 26 year old sister and I are always listening to her drone on and on about how she lost ALL her weight when she was our ages, had kids, and lost it again.

[Weeping]

I don't know if they'd care a lot. They really didn't (at least show that they) cared when I was underweight (from eating disorders).

Though, in my opinion parents should care about things such as overweight. They shouldn't complain, but they should try to help their kids being more healthy.

Hey i am 14. 5"5 and 110 lbs and doctor says that im fat. Is he wrong?

110 lbs isn't much at all for that lenght! O_O

[atomsmasher]

My mother is constantly telling me I need to diet. She always tells me what size SHE wears in pants and then looks at me like "Yeah, way less than you".

I know! My dad always tells me he wears smaller pants then I do. I've just stopped having him buy me pants. It was bad enough when I told him I wear 34's. No way I'd ask him to get me 36 or 38 pants. I'll get them by myself.

[TheMatrix]

i'm 1metre ~82cm, and weigh roughly 52.5kg.

i'm far from fat/overweight, but my parents would DEFINETLY care if i was overweight.
they keep telling me to "get fatter", but i don't want to.

hmm.....

[Hatsune Miku]

My mom doesn't really care. She wants us to be healthy. Both my mom and sister are overweight, so if I was they wouldn't judge me. I'm actually very slim though.

[aaliya]

My Parents always used to tell me, That no, You are looking completely Okay, Even I think that in these days, I am putting on my Weight. But In this I am completely helpless, Hope that I can do something in this.

[SometimesThere]

I was slightly overweight when i was younger, and it was because of my parent's persistant nagging that I eventually lost the weight.

[Ryunosuke]

I Don't have Parents, Either Way I Don't Think You're Big Bro.

[Eagle63]

Im not exactly skinny (5'9", 165 lbs.), and im not proud of it... its a mixture of fat and muscle, but all the fat is where it's easiest to pick on a kid for. My dad and mom know this, and they urge me to get to work to change it, but I live in the north and the snow and weather only allows for 5 months of legitimate excersize (running, biking, etc.) outside. They always tell me "How about an apple instead of some chips?", but its not too bad.

[randy.boii]

I use to be rly fat but I started running and lost weight my parents don't care about size they always try to fatten me up

[Charleigh]

My mum could not give a rats ass weither im fat or not.

[glacier]

Im kinda chubby and my parents hate it my mom's a doctor so she always tells me how i gotta change for my health and my dad wants me to exercise more but he can't talk because he's huge! So they can't be that strict.

[Triceratops]

Holy cow, if I was overweight I think my parents would disown me lol. My parents are very, very, very image-conscious. Even if I wasn't chubby but slightly curvy with a couple of pounds to lose then, oh boy, wouldn't I know about it. They would nag and nag and nag me to eat less and exercise or something until I lost the weight. Luckily they always tell me I look good the way I am, because I think my self-esteem would have taken a true battering.

[Jody Jackson]

I'm not fat, but I will contribute my thoughts. My answer to that question would be yes and no. If a 3 year old is 75% body fat, and yes, I have seen that, then it is the parents fault. The older you get the less it is the parents fault, but they also could be setting the example by not eating healthy and not exercising.

[NomSan]

I'm not very overweight, but I was when I was around the age of 14, but my parents never said anything. Maybe my dad, but not directly, he just wanted me to start excersicing and eat healthier, and I did and the weight fell off in almost no time.

[Continuum]

My parents do care, but in a minimal fashion. They don't moderate my food intake, but still they tell me to wear slimmer clothes, and go on a diet. I'm only marginally overweight, however.

[Drake14]

Im one of those jerks who doesnt gain much weight without even trying so no not really. I f I were way big so much it was causing problems probably.

[imightbe_wrong]

My parents think "there's nothing to me" but my mum occasionally tells me to "get off [my] fat arse and [verb]" and I don't think she realises how much it affects me. Thankfully she hasn't done it since I recently voice concerns about my weight to her.

But with both my parents not being particularly skinny themselves they don't say anything, thankfully. I don't think I'm fat, but I don't like my weight.

[kai99]

they don't

[atomsmasher]

My mom likes to say "honey, you don't need all of those calories." whenever I'm snacking or eating candy.

[NomSan]

I think your father is rude. He shouldn't say those things, it's not very encouraging.

[Wildflower]

Shew my parents yell at me for being to little, let only if I were over weight there would be no pleasing them they are obsessed with being perfect .

[Hairy14uk]

Well I'm a little overweight and my parents mention it all the time. They aren't particularly negative about it, but they just constantly talk about it and talk to me about it. I just find it amusing because if you compare my weight to the average for my age and then theirs, they are way more overweight...

[hokeypokey]

Sometimes, I've got a fat face but the rest of me is a okay, maybe a little pudgy. My mum just keeps saying i need to exercise and stuff

[ShatteredWings]

I think they'd care if i was fully overweight, but im only maybe 5-10 over, so the jabs are food related not weight related.

care as in hound until I go on a starvation diet *eyeroll*

[Spock]

my parents dont car because iam physically active iam 236 and iam 14yrs old

[high-school108]

your father is just pressuring u into losing weight because he doesnt want you to get made fun of, i get made fun of alot so i work out and stuff

[SinfulWolf]

My mother does but she doesnt try hard to keep me from eating the way i do. I now i do needa lose weight hell I'm 15.330lbs and 5'7"

[phish]

They should because it's not good for your health nor is it socially beneficial. If you're overweight during puberty somethings really need to change, your metabolic rate is as high as t will ever be during puberty.

[Drew7]

yup, they comment that I'll get fat if i keep eating so much.

[atomsmasher]

your father is just pressuring u into losing weight because he doesnt want you to get made fun of, i get made fun of alot so i work out and stuff

Yeah see, I barely get made fun of. I am perfectly fine being shirtless. Hell, I don't even wear a shirt if its a nice day out. I need to tan my big white gut. I was more embarrassed to go shirtless last summer when I first got armpit hair.

[lardlad2002]

I feel the same way. I'm fine with my weight and my dad always lays into me about it.

[LifeisLife]

I think my mom and dad care too much because they give me too much vegetables and force me to eat fruits. They also forced me into doing a sport (swimming) which is very healthy and all but I dont like the people at my swimming club and sometimes dont even like the sport.

[Fiction]

My mum comments when I binge, saying i'll get fat and she encourages me when I want to lose weight, but she doesn't have a problem with my weight atm.

[Ace007]

I think All parents do care for us, to be healthy.....etc.....My family do....

[atomsmasher]

My mom just told me I should stop eating so much. We were out all day and I was hungry, so I asked her when dinner was. She said "we just ate lunch 4 hours ago, are you really hungry already?" I said, yeah, I was really hungry. And I asked her "how aren't you hungry now?" To which she replied "Honey, look at yourself. You are so much bigger than I am. You eat way more. If I ate like you do I would be big too." While motioning at my belly. And said that when I snack all day all I do it eat and get bigger, and I should try eating less.

So shocker, my mom notices my belly...

[Lethe]

My parents always criticize me when I eat in front of them, so I don't. Still, they tell me I'm fat always. They don't like that I'm 156lbs.

[atomsmasher]

My parents always criticize me when I eat in front of them, so I don't. Still, they tell me I'm fat always. They don't like that I'm 156lbs.

Yeah, I stash candy in my room so I don't have to eat it in front of them. If I do my dad tells me that all the candy I'm eating is making me fatter. And since its in my room I end up snacking constantly right before bed, which I know is really fattening.

[Lethe]

^ I don't eat candy. I hardly ever eat sweets actually. I don't hide food either. I just make something quickly and eat it by myself in my room. Still, my parents do the same thing. They always accuse me of being fat because I eat "too much" when I only eat about 1000-1100 calories a day...

[DerBear]

well from what i can tell your mum and dad are doing what they call the good cop bad cop game

your dad insults you
your mum is gental

your parents want the best for you

excersise for me is fun like i found what i like doing and turned it into a work out like i do parkour and i love it keeps you active and is rather cool

so i wont say your fine and as long as you are happy as you are treating your parents like crap you may find that one day you look back and you regret this

and you may die young maybe maybe not and as for the i am ok in public thing take it from someone who helps people with issues at school its not until your older that you will feel concious


(you guys may disagree with me and i dont care... i am telling him how it really is and i was going to say something diffrent but when i read that he does have a gym membership and just has a wank and then goes in a sona that made me write this)

only saying how it is...

[Andrewa]

im not overweaight im only allowed sweets nce a week and take out once a week i dony like vegetables and i only eat for dinner chicken and pasta

[HeartCoreHannah]

Don't think you dad doesn't love you, because he does. But maybe he's just trying to make light of your situation. Your parents aren't going to care how much you weigh as long as you're happy and healthy. If what he says hurts your feelings, tell him. Explain to him it upsets you and you would like him to stop. If your too scared to approach him about it, talk to your mom and have her do it for you.

[DerBear]

Don't think you dad doesn't love you, because he does. But maybe he's just trying to make light of your situation. Your parents aren't going to care how much you weigh as long as you're happy and healthy. If what he says hurts your feelings, tell him. Explain to him it upsets you and you would like him to stop. If your too scared to approach him about it, talk to your mom and have her do it for you.

You see i think his dad does love him no question of that as he has gave him everything in his power to help.....but its frustration...you see his dad is doing everything he can to help i.e helping him diet and giving him a gym membership and all hes doing is treating him in away that getsa him angry he loves his son but he knows what the outcome of all this is if he continues to he the way he eats

[ThatMetalHead]

i wish they cared..... they feed me like a pig and im like 30 pounds overweight. i try my hardest to loose it but its hard when ur around so much junk food

[Scoob]

Yes.

I'm in great shape. One main reason was because my father is strongly against unhealthiness. Always wanted to live in the model he wanted so I work out all the time and maintain my physique. If I ever let go my father would be highly judgmental about it.

[atomsmasher]

i wish they cared..... they feed me like a pig and im like 30 pounds overweight. i try my hardest to loose it but its hard when ur around so much junk food

Yeah, I'm always eating because we have so much food in the house. And I have too much candy stashed in my room that I snack on before bed. I don't like being hungry. It always feels good to eat. My parents lay into me to lose weight but they stock the house with fattening cookies and candy.

[DerBear]

The problem is you have no will power do you?

They stalk the house full of crap but no one forces it down your neck do they

[LKIFMRUG9556]

I'm not being rude. But do try and lose weight.

[atomsmasher]

I'm not being rude. But do try and lose weight.

Ok Dad.

[DerBear]

Ok Dad.

hes not being rude hes being suggestive

[Emiil]

I'm not overweight or anything but if I was they would care.
btw: you do realise they say those stuffs cus they care about you?

[Amaryllis]

Well, after anorexia... My own head is enough criticism for me. They don't need to tell me I'm getting chubby. I know it.

[Emiil]

Yeah, I'm always eating because we have so much food in the house. And I have too much candy stashed in my room that I snack on before bed. I don't like being hungry. It always feels good to eat. My parents lay into me to lose weight but they stock the house with fattening cookies and candy.

don't eat the cookies&candy then? and get rid of the candy that you are hiding in your room

[pmon]

Why don't you just not eat. It's easy. Just don't eat. I'm sorry but I agree with your parents. Actually, I'm not sorry but nvm. They're not forcing you to anything irrational, they're trying to make you better. Being overweight is dangerous for your health, and if you have a weight problem now at your age, who knows into what that could develop 20 to 30 years from now. So I'm telling you for your own good, just like your parents, lose weight, you'll be healthier and you'll deffintetly feel better about yourself and be happier. It's not that hard.

[dontcare97]

I'm overweight but I'm tall so it balances out. My mom wants me to be healthy and happy because i got made fun of alot. I joined weight watches and lost a couple of pounds.

[MonsterBear]

my mom cares so much about looking perfect. she tells me all the time that im fat.
im 5'4 and im 130 but its muscle and fat.

[atomsmasher]

my mom cares so much about looking perfect. she tells me all the time that im fat.
im 5'4 and im 130 but its muscle and fat.

Dude you are fine, I doubt you are fat at all at 130.

[Kujiro]

Im not overweight, but they are pretty fussy about me being underweight.
And its not that im not eating, just metabolism @ work.

But i'd suppose they still do care.

*giggles*

[christcenteredlife]

i'm far from overweight, i'm really small and at 14 haven't begun puberty yet, or, if i have i've just begun. now my foster brother is quiet big. and my foster parents are on him about it constantly. they don't call him names or anything of that nature, but they do make sure he's exercising and moving everyday.

[lardlad2002]

I moved out a month ago and my dad just texted me the other day to ask if I've gained any weight at college! He won't leave me alone. But at least he can't bother me every day. I know I'll hear hell for the freshman 15 though.

[Nicci]

My dad does the same thing-pretty much for my whole life. "oh, your getting chubby" "don;t you want to look like a Fanta girl?" "you need to look good to get a good job". I know he doesn't say it intentionally to hurt me-I just think it's his way of expressing himself since he isn't the best at it. My mom brings it up but not as much. I think it sucks because they try to make a joke out of it, or say I need to wear certain types of clothes so that I can look good. It's an outside pressure,

[Short Circuit]

Try replacing your cookies and candy with fruit and vegitables, celery is very filling, but hardly any calories, same with carrotts (sp) 5 or 6 grapes instead of chocolate is also a good for you, and will take away the craving for something sweet.

Hope this helps

[atomsmasher]

I'm pretty sure its illegal to not hire someone because they're too fat.

[DerBear]

I'm pretty sure its illegal to not hire someone because they're too fat.


Yes but image is sometimes needed for a lot of high paying Jobs these days.

[Spook]

My friend was like minorly chubby, and his parents always bugged him about it, told him he was getting fat. We used to have to sneak food to him. Then because he wasn't losing any weight, his mom started hiding 'Alli' weight loss pills in their food. Yes, 'their'. His 8 year old sister had pills in her food, too. I looked it up online...and Alli can cause internal bleeding in children under 18 years of age. I mean, wtf? His mom...it's just so wrong.

[lea59]

My mom is obese and my dads slightly overweight, so if I were fat, they'd be damn hypocritical to nag me about it, though i'm sure they'd try

[lardlad2002]

Just try not to get too fat during high school. Wait until college to get fat. No one cares then

[Neptune]

I am not fat, but, if I was - they would care. If you know you are fat, why don't you try to lose weight? I'm probably stepping out of my boundaries but I'm just wondering.

[junebug]

I'm obese and my parents couldn't care less. They're obese too. Its kinda normal here (Mississippi). Most of my friends are overweight and quite a few are obese. We always have fried food for dinner. I've been fat since I was a little kid. It doesn't bother me thought, I just feel normal.

[Jupiter]

My parents don't care. I've never been obese, either.. so idk, .

[Carlyle]

I've gotten a bit on the chubby side, but never overweight... I would assume they would though, since they warn me not to stop exercising and gorge on junk foods.

[botwa]

I was raised by my grandparents and my grandmother was always worried that I'm too thin when I was under 10 years old. When I got 12 I started gaining weight and now I get very offensive comments on my body from her. My grandfather doesn't say anything to me personally. But I heard him saying to my grandmother some offensive things. I feel awful about this. And the worst thing is that I remain in the same condition for a long time and don't gain more weight. But they keep saying that I'm even bigger than before. I hate this. I measure every day and stay the same, I'm tired of proving to them that I'm no bigger than before. My grandmother even tells me to get bigger sizes of clothes but I'm fine with my old things.

[White]

My mom and dad are both about 200 pounds. Me on the other hand, I keep in great shape. As do my brothers. My sister, not so much. I literally couldn't live with my self if I was fat.

[KICKASSKID]

No, but i do.

[junebug]

I don't know what its like to be skinny, so I don't really have anything to compare being fat to. I was chubby since I was a little kid and then I got fat when I started 1st grade grade and my mom went back to work.

[LuckyLuke]

My parents are overweight and nearing obese and I, for a long time, was too.

I lost 83 pounds 3 years ago through diet and exercise and I feel amazing, it was a great decision.

To answer your question, no- my parents couldn't care less either way.

[atomsmasher]

My parents are overweight and nearing obese and I, for a long time, was too.

I lost 83 pounds 3 years ago through diet and exercise and I feel amazing, it was a great decision.

To answer your question, no- my parents couldn't care less either way.

What did your parents say when all of a sudden their fat child dropped 80 pounds?

[Antagonist]

My entire family nags md v.v it hurts so much..

[Antagonist]

If anyone up here is fat, its definitley me. Dont feel bad, it'll go away whether you exercise are stop eating candy (which isnt good before bed, but i bet its good candy). Me and you are in the same boat.

[lardlad2002]

Wait until you're in college! No one cares!

[xChrisVx]

My parents don't really mind. I'm a little bit overweight but they say I'm ok. They just say I'm a bit stocky

[RayRay]

My mom doesnt really care but my dad sounds just like yours.

[Say It Aint Tim]

if they really love you they won't care how big or small you are.

[dkp123]

I'm 14, 6ft and weigh 180lbs. My parents are separated.
I don't really think that my mum is bothered that I am overweight, I know that if I started to develop health problems from being over weight she'd do something about it, and I'm not really confident around any of my family shirtless.

[Mtc 10]

Being im a sports enthusiast.. My parents watch my weight like crazy.! They make sure I eat a healthy diet. And make sure i stay lean.. Mine are too obbsesive