Denial and its Results

[AlwaysConfused]

so ive been denying or holding out on my sexuality but its super hard....i feel way to much other than my feeligs for guys. so from time to time (and especially at the wrong moments) i get overwhelmed like at school or when im with family. so ive like really hardened my heart. i dnt feel any feelings but stress and headaches and im not the same person anymore. what do u guys suggest i do?

[tpzy94]

well just take it slow and your overwhelmed because you feel like your alone so tell someone how you feel and they might help you out...i mean ive been in positions when ive had many girls like me and i dont wanna hurt any of them so i just ask my closest friend and he usually helps just take it slow and you will eventually get your answer

[Dunce]

This was the same with me. I bottled up my feelings because I was afraid of them. In the end, the only thing you can do is come to terms with how you're feeling and accept yourself. Things will only get worse if you don't, your feelings could escalate into depression and you could be left with that even after you accept your sexuality. That's what happened to me anyway.
I know for some people it's so hard to accept your sexuality, but when you think about it it really doesnt matter what gender the person is that you're attracted to. Take your time, you don't have to rush into it. Just don't be so hard on yourself, it'll get easier :)

[AlwaysConfused]

see i have told two of my friends and i guess a lil weight is lifted because i told them some of my experiences and stories and dreams. but u know its so lonely i mean i meet people online like u guys buuut noone near my area someone i could like tangibly relate to. but u kno. and yea the same incidents over and over a girl likes me and i wanna like her but i dnt i mean i like some girls but yea its hard to differentiate feelings

[smitty35]

If you have one of those really close/best friends, they are really helpful people to talk to and let those feelings out. Now are you wanting to come out of the closet or what? I'm a little confused. I always tell the people that I know that are about to come out the following: How gay/bi friendly is your school/town? Is your family ok with gays/bi's? Also consider what is best for your health, if you come out and you get beat up and harassed, that isn’t so good. Think about yourself, overall.

[AlwaysConfused]

no not trying to come out just trying to become comfortable with myself