My parents and frustration

[Alias]

Ever since a few years ago it seems as though my parents have caused
Me a very large amount of frustration so where to start.
I think I will start with my grades. I am a mostly straight A student. However,if I make a C. Then my parents will talk about how I will never achieve (insert goal I am working towards) and how im lazy. The worst part is how even when I take harder classes. They still expect me to make straight As in all top classes (And I will be in all the top classes next year.)

Next is my father's drinking habits, which I don't want to go into,but I will say that ,even though he has stopped a little, I still see him drink every know and then, and the previous memories of him drinking are so terrible I cone to tears when I think of them.

Also whenever my parents are "dissapointed"(which means i have done anything else kentioned)in me. They act like they hate(this goes mostly for my dad) me. He will give me a hate stair, which makes me feel very bad. If I cry he will yell at me for crying, which will make me cry more. He might threaten to hit me with his belt. It's really just a cycle of stares and yelllings.

Not to mention the double standards. for instance, my parents will give me a choice. But If I pick the wrong one then my parents will be "disssapointed" or force the other option on me. My parents will severely scorn me for mistake I make, even when they make them themselves.

Thank you for reading. I do t know if I'm just a whiny brat who never wants to get punished or if my parents aren't treating me right. All I know is that I'm sad

P.S. If I try to talk to my parents It usually ends with "I'm the adult"

P.S. I'm writing this one IPod so I'm sorry for spelling mistakes

[lightkun]

Well really, it seems to me that even though they go about punishing you in a harsh manor, it's because try want the best for you.

I live with my mom and i got caught smoking (I'm 16 btw) and I didn't even get punished. She just told me not to take any of her cigarettes. Which I didn't. She was just concerned about spending more money. I have to say, she never used to be like this. I use to get in trouble and yelled at for grades. Now she doesn't care. It's like she gave up on me. And let me tell you, it's actually a lot worse than when I would get punished for me. I feel like she stopped caring about my choices. Idk, but this change is probably because of the things that's happened. My bro died in Afghanistan and she just went through a divorce. And now she gets drunk in front of me with her son of a bitch boyfriend :'( [I know exactly how you feel about the drinking]

I promise you, if they stop caring like my mom, your gonna miss the structure.

As far as advice, I would say getting your feelings out by talking to a counselor or writing in a diary. Maybe communicate your feelings to your parents on a good day and see if they might be able to lighten up. But don't use an example of a particular situation because that would more easily lead to an argument. Talk calmly. Ask dad not to drink in front of you because it hurts you and brings up bad memories. Don't get upset, even you are inside. They probably wont listen if your yelling. They'll just yell back :/ be calm and composed. If you start to cry, that's ok. It'll show dad your hurting.

[Alias]

If only things were so simple. I almost never yell back, when I do try to talk in a calm manner I still get yelled at. Also I'm kinda scared to talk to my dad, since it usually results in him getting angry at me. And my dad is very defensive about his drinking. He will always say that he is the adult and that he makes his own decisions. It doesnt matter what it's about so long as it's about his drinking(which isn't as bad anymore since he tripped and busted his nose one night, and the hospital gave him a sheet about alcohol addiction

[lightkun]

Well if you can't talk to them, then you have to live with it. For something to change, you have to be assertive. Look at it this way, at least there isn't physical abuse. If you decide to stay quiet, then at least try your best to just let what they say/do just roll off you back. Don't ignore them, but don't let them hurt you. "Sticks and stones luv." -Jack But try talking to a friend or a counsoller. Getting your feelings out really helps. I used to be an addict because that's how I coped with my issues. But I started talking to my school counsoller and now I don't use pills anymore because I don't need them. It really turned things around for me.

P.S. Don't you ever ever EVER let yourself try drugs. They are just horrible and they rip your family to shreds. You can get addicted so quick. Just don't even resort to that.