Dont want to ruin it

[derkderpderp]

Hey guys, ok, theres this girl, whos a friend of mine, and shes great, we get on really well, and idk, when we talk we both have (ach this is kinda cheesy) a 'spark', lol, i.e we both get easily interested in what the other is saying or doing, we are always laughing and yeah we both have crazy trust for each other.
Now the thing is, me being the guy i am, i cant understand the female emotions when it comes to dating etc, lol.
She seems interested, and i have feelings for her, i just havent told her, but i mean, im afraid that if i ask her, and she doesnt feel the same (i.e shes just being a close friend and ive just misunderstood it) then whos to say it wont mess the friendship up? I mean shes awesome, i think it would be awesome if we got together, but i mean, id much rather have her as a super close friend than a friend with who theres a little bit of awkwardness with?
eep idk what to do?!
i really like her!:wub:
help?!

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[Sage]

You can take a risk and accept the consequences (be they good or ill) or you can keep your feelings to yourself and wallow in shame until you possibly get over it. There's no easy solution. Take your pick.

[derkderpderp]

thank you, what im thinking of doing, is idk, giving it some time, say a week or two, and if im still believing she may like me in return, then il just ask her out?

[Sage]

thank you, what im thinking of doing, is idk, giving it some time, say a week or two, and if im still believing she may like me in return, then il just ask her out?

Why wait?

[The Dudeh]

I know perfectly the situation you're in. I like my best friend as well (but she has a boyfriend ¬¬), but she does know that I like her. But the thing is, even if she was availabe I don't think I want to 'be with her' or whatever. Our friendship's too great to risk losing it all.

But I know a lot of people who do take the risk and are happy they've done it. It's really up to you. You have two options really:

1) Ask her out, see what happens, accept that there's a chance you'll never be that close again.
2) Don't ask her out and just like her from a distance until you get over her (The easy option).

[MassiveAttack]

thank you, what im thinking of doing, is idk, giving it some time, say a week or two, and if im still believing she may like me in return, then il just ask her out?

yes, i would suggest doing this because i thought the same thing before and i tried this option and i found out that after giving it time, that not only did i have a passing feeling about her, she didnt really like me that much either. as far as i could tell anyways.

[derkderpderp]

thank you people, your help is greatly appreciated, we have our easter holidays from college pretty soon, and yeah, thats time apart, so i suppose if things are still going strong after those, or idk if we meet up during the holidays and things havent changed or theyve become stronger then il just ask her out.

Thank you for all your help guys.
:)

[Totality]

Life is full of risks and consequences. If you don't the risk, you will most like end up regretting it.

If your such good friends, then confessing your feelings won't ruin the friendship.

Remember, the most stable relationships come from those who have been friends. I've known people who have been friends for ~10 years before they went out with each other.

Life has its' ups and downs, it risks and moves. It's good and It's Bad.

But afterall, its the risks that make us Human.