Big problem....HELP!

[redmann]

Ok so i am gay and i really really have a huge crush on this guy my age. he is so....well perfect. but sadly he is most definitely straight. i have liked him for like 2 years and i just cant shake it. how do i get over him cause it sucks really bad

[humanesquire]

I can't give you some immediate advice to completely cure yourself of affection to this boy, but what I've done in the past is distancing myself and spending more time with other people

[Infidelitas]

I have this same problem. I love the guy, i truly do, but I have to spend time around him, knowing Ill never be with him. It breaks my heart. All I can think is why is he so damn good looking. It might pass one day, but it also might not. Just prepare for heartbreak

[Sosaku]

lol, seems like a trend, because the same is happening to me now, except i know i MUST get over him by May 25th of this year, so i don't miss him over the summer, and for the rest of my life, i most likely wont see him ever again. You can force yourself to crush on another guy, but be careful...and be prepared for heartbreak...sadly i cried for a while last night, because i'm so damn confused.

[salty]

Give it up and move on. What if you had a girl in love with you? Would you turn straight

[Sosaku]

Give it up and move on. What if you had a girl in love with you? Would you turn straight

You don't "turn straight" otherwise, i'm sure many people would try, just so they don't have to feel like crap all the time...I mean, if you are trying to symoblize that exact thing, and that we cant have what we want most, the ignore this...i can't really think correctly anymore

[Tristin.]

moving on can be hard for alot of people, infact i rarely see peopl who find it easy to. Iv had to move on once or twice and iam at the moment moving on. you need to realise that no matter how much you wish something to happen, it wont. for me, i had to realise i didnt need this person, that i can do things without him, its taken me 7 months of hell but im almost there.

try staying away from him, or even just ignore him. either way, there is no one way to move on, find something that works for you

tris x

[The Dudeh]

Moving on is something you can't make happen. It will happen eventually, but for now you just have to deal with it. If you want, you could try and get closer to him and find out if he truly is completely and utterly straight - 'cause you never know what people are hiding!

[itsthat0n3kid]

idk what to tell you on this one dude. unless he is a gay basher i think you should just tell him. good luck dude

[redmann]

Give it up and move on. What if you had a girl in love with you? Would you turn straight

um no i would not it doesnt work that way.
oh and thank you everyone for the advice i will try those ideas. its good to know your not alone lol.

[redmann]

if you want, you could try and get closer to him and find out if he truly is completely and utterly straight - 'cause you never know what people are hiding!

its a nice thought but highly unlikely.

[Infidelitas]

I can tell you what, id turn straight if i could. Like everyones been saying, you dont just choose your sexuality like you choose what you have for breakfast. Its nowhere as simple as that. It can be really hard for us.

[Alexithymia]

I also have the same problem. I'm trying to move on, except it's just so damn hard. I have to do projects and whatnot with him, so I can't just ignore him. I'm trying to just enjoy the time with him, but also realize I'll -never- be with him.

[redmann]

I can tell you what, id turn straight if i could. Like everyones been saying, you dont just choose your sexuality like you choose what you have for breakfast. Its nowhere as simple as that. It can be really hard for us.

i totally agree with you. its not that simple.

[smitty35]

I honestly dont have any tips for you to get rid of the urge to fantasize that you want to be with a certain guy. I honestly dont know. I have the same "problem" I suppose. I just keep on going with life and sometimes see myself with a that certain guy.