Acceptance & Sleeping

[Revolution]

I know these two questions are unrelated, so feel free to reply either or both.

What are you views on acceptance?

I'm not saying people should stop trying to self harm, it's obviously not healthy for yourself. However I have suicidal thoughts day in, day out; wishing that I won't wake up the next morning. Self harm has became part of my life and I constantly battled with urges and the fact I know it's no good for me and I should stop. Then I thought to myself, why can't I just accept that I self harm? Is that so wrong?

Do you have problems sleeping without cutting?

Over the past few weeks I've found myself really troubled when trying to sleep; after I cut I'm finally able to sleep. Has anyone had this issue? I take sleeping pills but the more I use them, the less they work.

[SirRawrsalot]

I've heard and asked both of those questions before.

Embracing self harm as a required activity is essentially addiction. The reason it's not normal is because you are cutting open your skin with a knife or some other sharp object... that doesn't seem a little bit odd to you? Sure you and I may understand why it's done, but that doesn't make it alright to do. Self harm, when given enough time to brew, can lead to devastating events in a person's life.

The sleeping one is a bit related. Think of something you do every day always, now imagine you didn't do that today. You're so used to cutting and dependent on it for relaxation sleep is near impossible. I had issues with it too. I would just attempt to go to sleep sooner so I'd have more time to roll restlessly.

If you have more questions post them or PM me if you prefer. Hope I helped.

[love is louder]

I know these two questions are unrelated, so feel free to reply either or both.

What are you views on acceptance?

I'm not saying people should stop trying to self harm, it's obviously not healthy for yourself. However I have suicidal thoughts day in, day out; wishing that I won't wake up the next morning. Self harm has became part of my life and I constantly battled with urges and the fact I know it's no good for me and I should stop. Then I thought to myself, why can't I just accept that I self harm? Is that so wrong?

Do you have problems sleeping without cutting?

Over the past few weeks I've found myself really troubled when trying to sleep; after I cut I'm finally able to sleep. Has anyone had this issue? I take sleeping pills but the more I use them, the less they work.


Question one. i accepted that i was a cutter probably a while ago and its fine with me but its not fine with other people which is my problem

and as for the second. YES if affects my sleeping alot. if i want to do it and try and put it of i cant sleep! and then when i do i have really bad dreams. even if what im doing in the dreams isntbad i still wake up all sweaty and out of breath!

[Ambrosia]

I accepted that I was a cutter when I FINALLY realized that what I was doing was self-harm (I knew what self-harm was at a very young age and I stuck my nose up to it, I call it karma. I hated people who did it. Until I realized I was doing it only somewhat worse than people I knew who had done it...). I know I do it, and I could be fine with it for the rest of my life. The problem is that OTHER PEOPLE won't accept it. It's not "Socially acceptable" and I know for a fact that when I'm older it will be even more weird to others.

I can fall asleep quicker after I cut. But it plagues my dreams all night. I don't sleep BETTER, I sleep worse. Restless, I guess. Because I start dreaming that my cuts won't stop bleeding, or that someone notices them, or so on. Like last night I cut my arm (Deepest I've ever gone) and I dreampt that it was bleeding through the bandages while I was at work, and running down my arms, and that I couldn't hide it. Even though I feel asleep right after I did it I woke up feeling like I had just ran a marathon.

[Fiction]

Yeah I kinda accepted it a long time ago, and sometimes I wish other people would just accept that this is what I do too. Doesn't effect them, just me so surly I can do it if I want?

I always sleep better after I cut too. That's why I mostly cut in the early hours of the morning. I suppose when i'm alone and can't sleep. If i'm trying to sleep and I have urges I just can't sleep until they go away... and often to easiest way to get rid of them is to cut :/

[FullyAlive]

I suppose I accepted it too, it was a private thing (it still is sort of) something I did and made me feel better. For that reason I never really questioned it, I accepted that for the time being this would be my way of coping. Now I still accept it but other people don't, they don't understand how I can be so calm about the thought of cutting myself, they don't accept that for me this is perfectly normal.

And again I too find it difficult to sleep. Once I'm triggered and the urges have started I'm really bad at not cutting. I cut quite often late evening/early morning. As once I'm alone trying to sleep I can't help but see opportunity and the urges get stronger until I cut. But after I'm fine, I sleep normally.

[The Dudeh]

Yeah I accept that I'm a cutter or whatever and I accept that my friend is as well - but I suppose that's because I'm a cutter myself. My other friend the other day was going on about how he doesn't get why people cut, because it's "stupid" and "attention-seeking", which is ridiculous.

And yeah, sometimes I like have to self-harm before I sleep or else I can't relax. And other times, when I just can't sleep I begin to think a lot and then I end up triggering myself and have to self-harm. Often, I feel it's a lot easier to sleep after I self-harm as well.

[UnknownError]

I accepted the fact I cut a long time ago. Tbh I don't even want to stop, although a part of me does ofc.

And yeh I sometimes stay up all night if I haven't cut that day. I've kinda gave myself a 'no cutting between 7:30pm and 7:30am' rule. :P

[lamentation]

i accepted it, but i kind of gave up on curing myself.

and about the sleeping part. my legs are going to itch if i don't do it and i keep thinking i'm missing something and then i can't sleep. so yea

[Love.Hate]

I have learnt to accept that this is me. I am who I am, I wish people would just accept that.

I find I sleep easier with it, but i don't need it to get to sleep.

[adudewhodoesdudes]

It took a bit of time for me to not need to look at my wrists to know that I SH. I am still unsure of whether or not its me but I haven't really felt like myself recently or felt anything for that matter.
As for sleeping I had trouble sleeping in the lead up to starting to SH and now still do somewhat but I do have nights where all I can think about its cutting and that doesn't help getting to sleep.