Did I break his heart?

[theoneandonly]

Hey Guys,
Last night I broke up with my boyfriend of 4 months. He was a year and half younger
than me so I drove us on the dates which was awkward. He was immature (which is to be expected...he was a year and half younger than me) and he seemed to lack common sense on alot of basic things. Along with the fact that I needed time to sort some things out and focus on some more important things...anyway, I LOVE his family to death and they love me too and I'm pretty sure he loved me...his mom constantly was telling people how he was "head over heels for her" and how he had found a perfect girlfriend. When I called him to break up he seemed extremely heartbroken and upset..and I feel worse because there was no warning to me breaking up with him. I have such a heart for other people more than myself and knowing that I hurt him is KILLING me inside. I can't stand it and now I don't know what to do. Sorry for the novel but has anyone else been in a situation like this? I still wanna be best friends with him but is that possible now? What should I do? Thanks so much guys!

[Spook]

Hmm...I think you were right to break up with him if you didn't feel comfortable with him and felt like he was immature. I can also completely understand that you want time to yourself. If you still want to be his friend, you should talk to him. Maybe explain to him why you broke up with him (in a nice way) so he's not left wondering (like you said there was no warning). If you do happen to stay friends, however, it might be a little awkward, considering your past together. That is how it was with me and my guy friend when we broke up, but over time we got over it and now we're best friends! Good luck and wish you the best ~Caitlin :D

[scuba steve]

Meh, if he can't drive yet i'm assuming he's around 15 depending on where you live. Anyway four months isn't really all that long, he'll get over it and if you didn't like what was happening then you shouldn't really feel guilty for it, just move on.

[The Madness.]

If you don't feel the same way anymore, don't regret anything. He'll bounce back after a while, it may take 6 months or a week. You never know. If you still want to be friends with him, give it some time then start talking to him and just try to be friendly and go back to your friendship.

[itsthat0n3kid]

well it probably depends on how you did it. did you do the "its not you its me" line? because that just makes it worse.

[music is my soul]

whe you first ask if you guys can still be friends hes probably going to be up tight with the answer. my only question is did you ease him into the break up or was it just bam andits over with? if you eased him into it dont be suprised if he dosnt want to be friends for a while because in my eyes and the eyes of a few of my friends thats the worst way to do it.

[SirRawrsalot]

At 15 he has plenty of time to get a new girlfriend. There isn't a maximum amount of relationships per lifetime you can have. :P

Try not to totally ignore him, unless he isn't very kind to you, but it's much worse when your ex won't speak or look at you. Other than that you have no obligation to be his best friend or anything and shouldn't feel that way.

[Bluesman]

Try and help him through it? I mean if you don't hate him then there's no reason why you guys can't be friends... That'd probably help to know that even if you guys aren't in a relationship you're still friends and if he needs you then you'd be there for him.

[AutumnDae]

I know how it feels to hurt someone else. You don't want to hurt them, but then again, you have to do what's right for you.

Just talk to him and explain why you did it, and that you care about him still (If you do) and everything you're feeling.

[swindy43]

I don't think so.