I need a bit of advice!!!!!

[DomSoulWraith]

Okay. I have a girlfriend, but not everyone knows. Mainly just my friends and her friends. I hate rumors so I made it as low key as possible. I got an email from a girl (I don't know where she got my email address, but anyway) and she asked me out. This, of course, is where the advice is needed. I don't want to tell my girlfriend because they are.... kind of friends, and I don't want them to play mortal kombat in real life over me. (I know my gf will. Trust me. It just may not be physical violence. She can get mean sometimes.She's a nice person and doesn't get angry easily, but she's having a rough time at home and stuff so she's easily angered, and I understand why.) I don't want to be the one to be mean and tell the girl I'm already dating, because I know how hard it is to ask someone out even through the e-mail. I don't know how or what to say to to the girl, or wether or not to tell my gf, but I'd probably say not to tell her. Somethings are lied about for the better of someone, but I'm interested in your opinions. Please help! Thank you!

[Phantom]

Hmmm

I would probably say that you would go out with her (to not hurt her feelings)

But you currently have a GF (don't tell her who)

[DomSoulWraith]

??? Go out with her not to hurt her feelings, but not tell my current gf? If I could possibly pull that off without guilt or just not being able to be with two girls at once. Then, If I got caught I'd lose them both. If that's not what you said tell me.

[Physicist]

I think what he meant was, go meet with her once, tell her that you already have a gf and aren't interested, and don't pull anything funny.

Then again, I don't know your gf, is she the type that this could be a trick? Then you might wanna just say "no" without arranging a meeting as you never know when she could jump out and say "ha! I caught you cheating" before you can tell her friend to take a hike. Especially since she somehow mysteriously got your e-mail, this could be the case. Your gf could be testing your honesty, and wants you to tell her.

Finally, the last option is just to pretend you never got the e-mail. :)

[DomSoulWraith]

You mean to test me in a sorts? No. She trusts me with her life I swear. That's why I freaked out when he said that. I don't want to break her trust. I will probably do that, but I don't go back to school for a while. Could I just do it over the email? I guess that might be to.... harsh maybe could be the word to use.

[Physicist]

You mean to test me in a sorts? No. She trusts me with her life I swear. That's why I freaked out when he said that. I don't want to break her trust. I will probably do that, but I don't go back to school for a while. Could I just do it over the email? I guess that might be to.... harsh maybe could be the word to use.

To play it on the safest side, am email with something like:
"Oh I'm sorry I am currently already serious with someone but I would be happy to still meet with you as friends [blah blah blah you can make it longer and more euphemistic]"
Would be best.

[Sapphire]

If you and your gf have complete trust then theres no reason you can't tell her about it. Tell the girl that you are taken already, will be easier for her that way. Be honest with your gf about the email (possibly neglect to tell her who its from straight away, if she asks then tell her) and reassure her that you weren't tempted or interested, that you only have eyes for her etc etc.

That way you don't actually lie to either of them, you don't cheat on either of them and your gf will trust you all the more for opening up to her.

[DomSoulWraith]

If you and your gf have complete trust then theres no reason you can't tell her about it. Tell the girl that you are taken already, will be easier for her that way. Be honest with your gf about the email (possibly neglect to tell her who its from straight away, if she asks then tell her) and reassure her that you weren't tempted or interested, that you only have eyes for her etc etc.

That way you don't actually lie to either of them, you don't cheat on either of them and your gf will trust you all the more for opening up to her.

I'm not saying all the other advice wasn't good, but that was...... really good. Thank you all! I did the above. It worked out, and she did ask who it was from, and she seemed okay. Thnaks again. lol

[Sapphire]

No problem, glad it worked out :)