Sex...age?

[Spook]

Okay, I am not writing this post to ask about me personally, just to let you know firsthand. I want to know your thoughts...what do you think is the appropriate age to have sex for the first time? I read blogs on VT from alot of 13-14 year olds who have had sex. Personally, i do not think that it is appropriate for that age group. It can also be illegal. What do you think? :what:

[smitty35]

Well it is illegal, unless you are in Mexico ( you can have sex there at 9!, I know shocker). The legal age varries upon state. In some it is 16, 18, or even 21 in certain countries. So it depends on where you are and they always tell us to wait until we are married too. So it could go either way. It's up to the person to make the decision.

P.S. In certain places in the world, you have to be married to have sex or you will punished in a harsh way. I think that it is in Arabia, not sure though.

[Spook]

9?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Sheesh I hope they're using protection. xO

[Kaius]

I don't think there is an appropriate age. If you personally feel you're ready for it and you're not being pressured into it or anything then Its up to the individual when they do it.

[justmehere]

Okay, I am not writing this post to ask about me personally, just to let you know firsthand. I want to know your thoughts...what do you think is the appropriate age to have sex for the first time? I read blogs on VT from alot of 13-14 year olds who have had sex. Personally, i do not think that it is appropriate for that age group. It can also be illegal. What do you think? :what:

i think it depends on the person,wether or not they're ready emotionally(and physically)
it differs from person to person i suppose.

[FullyAlive]

I too think it depends on each person, their maturity level both emotional and mental as well as physical. If someone feels that they are ready to have sex I think age is irrelevant. But if you think you're ready for sex you should also be ready for any possible consequences that might come of that.

[Syvelocin]

The only thing is I don't think much younger can you correctly gauge whether you're ready or not. You might think you are, but really you're not.

There's always the law, but everyone likes to disregard that. And as long as you aren't doing adults at that age and get caught, there's not much to worry about as far as the legality of it.

My typical moral is at least 16. But you could still be immature and stupid then as well. Theoretically I mean, I'm not calling you that XD But I typically disapprove of it under sixteen, unless the person in question is different from most under-sixteen individuals. Mature under-sixteen teenagers are a bit harder to come by though. But that can be said about any age.

[Raiders]

Well, I was 14. Looking back now that im 16 I think thats a little early, I mean damn 16 isnt very old

[Andymoto377]

Kids grow up way to fast now a days. Id say 15+ anything under that I think would be to young but its really when ever you think your ready.

[Magus]

P.S. In certain places in the world, you have to be married to have sex or you will punished in a harsh way. I think that it is in Arabia, not sure though.

Oh, so Arabia is a country? Amazing!

From where I am, you can marry once you have reached puberty. But sex outside marriage is certainly not acceptable.

[Lights]

9?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! Sheesh I hope they're using protection. xO

I think at 9 years old, they won't actually need protection. What 9 year old boy can cum, seriously?

In my opinion, I think sex should happen for the first time simply when it feels right. Only when it feels like you're with the absolute right person should you break that virginity. I think 16 is a good legal age of consent.

[Fact]

I don't think there is an appropriate age. If you personally feel you're ready for it and you're not being pressured into it or anything then Its up to the individual when they do it.

The problem with saying that, is you get a lot of 12-14 year olds that read this and think they're ready, but they have no idea what they're actually getting into or even why they want to have sex, so they regret it when they're older/ruin their lives.

I read blogs on VT from alot of 13-14 year olds who have had sex. Personally, i do not think that it is appropriate for that age group. It can also be illegal. What do you think? :what:

I agree with what you've said. There comes a tie in your life when you realise sex isn't all it's made out to be, so what's the point in it? There are other ways of getting pleasure without endangering your health and potentially creating a new life that you have no means of taking care of, so why bother?

As for the 'right' age, it should be when the person is old enough to make an informed and level headed choice - not when they have raging hormones and view having sex as a social status or think 'it's just what teenagers do'.

[Limelight788]

IMO, you should not have sex until you graduate from high school. By then, you'll be much more informed about what you want to do and you'll make better choices. I would prefer a person finish college up as well to ensure that if he or she end up having a baby a bit early, they can support it.

In the end, thought, I think sex should wait until marriage, which then is sex encouraged.

[JonTyler]

16 or 18.. You can be physically ready when your younger, but deff not mentally ready.

[UnknownError]

The only thing is I don't think much younger can you correctly gauge whether you're ready or not. You might think you are, but really you're not.

There's always the law, but everyone likes to disregard that. And as long as you aren't doing adults at that age and get caught, there's not much to worry about as far as the legality of it.

My typical moral is at least 16. But you could still be immature and stupid then as well. Theoretically I mean, I'm not calling you that XD But I typically disapprove of it under sixteen, unless the person in question is different from most under-sixteen individuals. Mature under-sixteen teenagers are a bit harder to come by though. But that can be said about any age.

This exactly is my opinion.

[embers]

This exactly is my opinion.

Same. And I also agree with Symone - there's too many people, in my year, the year below me, and so on, that think they're ready for sex. What's more, some go around fucking people in their twenties... I think it's just wrong.

[AussieBiBoy]

I dont think there is an age that it is suddenly appropriate for everyone to have sex, everybody is different and will be ready at a different time. However, I would argue that not until you are at least 16 and preferably whenever its legal in your country/state. Though I dont agree with 21....

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Personally, like many other's have said, I think it should be when the person feels ready.WARNING: I'm about to sound all Disney-ish in a moment.... I think it should be something you share with a person you love so it can mean something. 13 just seems really young to have sex, and being 13 almost 14 my self, I don't think 13 year old's are emotionally, or mentally ready. At least, the 13 year olds I know, and my self , don't seem ready. The kids I know, are just as imature about this subject as me. We giggle in class when we hear something that may sound "dirty" , and make "that's what she said" jokes. But, it's different for everyone. Some 13 year olds may really feel ready. The two question's I'll probably ask my self when I feel ready are:

"What if pretection fails, and I end up getting pregnant? Am I actually ready for parenthood?"

Or "What would happen if I got an STD? Would it be worth it?"


....yeah, stupid questions, but I'll probably ask my self that..in like 10 years........... lol........

[Happz]

Well one, you should be 100% sure your ready and willing to have sex, second, it should only be with someone who you feel that you love, to me, it really doesn't matter what age you are, only how responsible the choices you make are. This doesnt mean you have to get married, just wait for that one person that really feels special.

[Spook]

Personally, like many other's have said, I think it should be when the person feels ready.WARNING: I'm about to sound all Disney-ish in a moment.... I think it should be something you share with a person you love so it can mean something. 13 just seems really young to have sex, and being 13 almost 14 my self, I don't think 13 year old's are emotionally, or mentally ready. At least, the 13 year olds I know, and my self , don't seem ready. The kids I know, are just as imature about this subject as me. We giggle in class when we hear something that may sound "dirty" , and make "that's what she said" jokes. But, it's different for everyone. Some 13 year olds may really feel ready. The two question's I'll probably ask my self when I feel ready are:

"What if pretection fails, and I end up getting pregnant? Am I actually ready for parenthood?"

Or "What would happen if I got an STD? Would it be worth it?"


....yeah, stupid questions, but I'll probably ask my self that..in like 10 years........... lol........

Definately not stupid questions. I will be asking myself that, too. :D