Break-up?

[Discomposure]

Okay, I've not posted in a while, so hello :)
I've recently got into a relationship with someone, literally the beginning of this month. At first, I think I was happy to have someone who I know cares about me and stuff. But for a week now, I've totally gone the opposite way... It sounds really stupid because we've only been together 5 minutes but, he told me he loved me, and it's really put me off. How can you love someone in such a short time of being with them?
Not just that, I've realised I really want to get my life back on track, sort my problems out once and for all, so they won't come back, so I won't be like I am for the rest of my life, and I don't think I can do that while i'm in a relationship. I just dont think i'm ready for a relationship, need my time on my own!
Has anybody got anyway I can let him down gently, because he is actually lovely, and I'd love to still be friends. I just dont want to leave it longer and hurt him more.

Thanks.

[Bluesman]

Explain this to him. If you think that he's lovely maybe you guys will get back together once you have your problems sorted out. Just tell him that you need some time.

[Myrnodin]

Talking with get you far dear. But I do would encourage trying to find some other solution than just breaking up. Maybe he could actually help you sort out your issues? Love does wonders at times. Talk to him, not necessarily in a break-up plan, but measure the possibilities a bit, it could reveal some other path.

[Kelsey123]

break it off for good. don't play with his mind that is not fair.

[music is my soul]

to answer your first question, yes you can fall inlove with someone that fast.i knew this girl for 2 days and i fell in love with her. i still have nightmares and i havent seen her in seven months maybe eight.
and to answer your second question, just say im not ready to be in a relationship right now i need to sorrt some things out. if he really does love you he will understand and he will be waiting for you when you think its time to get back into a relationship.

[Andymoto377]

Some people can fall in love very easy and others it takes a lot longer you but if your at diffrent stages it will most likely end bad. Breaking up with people sucks but it has to be done. Tell him you think he is sweet and you really like him and that you may have jumped in to this relationship fast and you don't wanna see him like that anymore but you really wanna be his friend. He should understand but maybe not you just gotta bite the bullet

[music is my soul]

on the other hand i agree with andymoto. but if it has to happen just say it dont go into the long way out. just like your ripping off a bandaid. fast and easy. it might kill him even more if you try to candy coat the break up. do either one you think would go easier for him.

[Great Perhaps]

talk to him. be honest with him. the best thing in a relationship is honesty. if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. you have plenty of time to find someone you are truly attached to. don't worry, this happens to a lot of people, and you'll get through it. it may seem hard now, but you'll be better off on the other side no matter what happens.

[Luves Everything x]

I think it kind of depends on the guy. If you feel he would rather know now, and get it over and done with, you should do that, but he would probably prefer if you sat down and explained like you did here. This would also mean he has an opportunity to try and help you through any issues you feel you have

[Totality]

You need to talk to him, make him realise what your going through, you never know he might help.

Also, does he live locally to you? If he does, it would be easier to let him down in person.

[electricfeel]

Just say that you cant see yourself being ina relationship right now. (not just with him, but a relationship in general.) And That maybe later on you guys can get back together. ITs better if you just be honest with him, because hes gonna find out eventually so dont lie. By the way, some people can love someody quickly, some cant so dont think that hes lying about loving you. :P

[swindy43]

You need to talk to him

[bob skull]

there's NO way you can break it to him with out hurting him if he has strong feelings for you.just be honest with him and tell him the whole truth

[Spook]

Yay! This is finally my 250th post!!! Woohoo!

Anyways, like Cian said, if he has feeling for you, you can't let him down without hurting his feelings.

But here's a way you could tell him: "_______, I really need to sort out some things in my life, and you are a really nice guy, but I need time for myself. I hope you understand and we can still be friends."