Asexual..

[love is louder]

someone mentioned this to me and i have read a little bit about it.
is this like a faze or a perminent state. like once you are you are.
Cause to be honest i dont think iv ever been anything else i just thought id grow into my sexuality. but now im thinking maybe not :(


forgive my ignorance can anyone give me a bit of advice?

[purplebreez95]

ill try to help you... but the only thing i get on asexual is a type of reproduction and humans cannot possibly do it.. is the asexual like being attracted to the same sex?

[love is louder]

No its kinda like not being attracted to anyone i think? this is why im confused :P

[Bluesman]

Are you still attracted to people romantically even if its not sexually?

[purplebreez95]

ohh... well than thats a choice... and your not being ignorant your probably just confuzed... have you been with people from either sex?

[love is louder]

Iv pretty much stayed straight
if i dont really care for either id rather stick to what i know i guess
and i have a boyfriend now. And i dont want to lose him
i am not attracted to girls but at the same time im not attracted to boys
and i havent got a clue about how i feel towards my boyfriend!

[love is louder]

as for romantic feelings. i really have no idea! its not that i dont want to have sex with my boyfriend i just kinda get half way through and think whats the point?

[Syvelocin]

There's two different types of asexuality, just making this clear. There's the orientation, and the reproduction. A lot of people get confused by that. The reproduction is a type that single-celled organisms and some plants and such do, and the orientation is a lack of sexual attraction. It could mean you just don't date at all, or that you still have attraction but no sexual attraction exactly, ie. emotional attraction.

It's just like any other orientation. Like, I was still pansexual even when I thought I was straight. You may say you're asexual for a couple years, and discover that you're not. That's how it goes. Sexuality is just a label. It's what you want to call it. Because sexuality is so complex, there's not clean-cut hetero, bi, homo. For instance, I'm emotionally attracted to guys, but not physically or sexually. However I'm fully attracted to girls. There's no term for that, is there? But you just have to sit down and say, "Well, do I want to call myself straight, or asexual? Or does this other term fit me better?"

[love is louder]

this is just confusing me more and more
i know people fight off being labelled but id love it
id love to know what i am for a change and to know there is other people out there that feel the same as me
i just cant seem to find one

[AussieBiBoy]

I once read a newspaper article on an asexual lady. She had experienced an orgasm but said she would prefer reading a good book. It is normal for some people to be asexual. Though this doesnt mean you wont get married and have sex, it just means you dont get attracted to people and have that urge for sexual contact like most people have.

[love is louder]

Yea that sounds like me
pretty depressing actually
so deffinately not something i'll grow out of then :(?

[smitty35]

being asexual is not being atracted to either sex.

[Dunce]

It's like any other sexuality. You might grow out of it, you might not. It sounds weird saying "grow out of it" but I know what you mean. People's sexuality does change. I knew a guy who thought he was gay his whole life. He's 16 and now he's attracted to girls. He might be bi, but all I know is that he has a girlfriend now.
You hear of people who have gotten married and then gotten a divorce because they were gay. These people didn't get married for no reason. In most cases they did have feelings for their spouse, but their feelings got lost when their attraction for the same sex started to show.
So, it's just like other sexualities, you could find out you are something you once thought you definitely weren't. You need to experiment. Experimenting will help you find out if you find other sexes attractive.

[crocbait231]

From what i know/understand bisexual is both girls and guys homo is same sex hereto is other sex and Asexual is yourself aka u get seriously attracted to your self

[Wicked_Syn]

From what i know/understand bisexual is both girls and guys homo is same sex hereto is other sex and Asexual is yourself aka u get seriously attracted to your self


I have heard other wise. I hear it's basically, you don't have a strong sex drive. So if the opportunity came up for sex, whether man or women. You will take either because the sex doesn't really matter to you?
I don't really know. I can't really classify "asexual" as a sexuality or preferable preference because it just doesn't seem to exist. We All have slight sex drives in us...that drive us to what we think is suitable to ourselves.

[User Deleted]

hmmm i feel as im in a simalar situation but i have no girlfriend or boyfriend (definitly not gay) ive wonderd but never been particualrly intrested. still some feelings arent permanant theyre from hormones

[Spook]

Hmm asexual means that something reproduces in a non-sexual way (meaning not intercourse), so I don't really understand your question unless you are a sea sponge. :P

[Dunce]

From what i know/understand bisexual is both girls and guys homo is same sex hereto is other sex and Asexual is yourself aka u get seriously attracted to your self

It means you're not attracted to anyone. To be attracted to oneself is called autosexuality. I think you're getting your logic from the way it's used to describe plants. Plants and humans are different. Google it if you're unsure.

Hmm asexual means that something reproduces in a non-sexual way (meaning not intercourse), so I don't really understand your question unless you are a sea sponge. :P

This is called asexual reproduction. Asexuality as an orientation is different seeing as asexual reproduction is impossible in humans and animals. Again, google.

[Syvelocin]

My god, I thought I just explained this.

The prefix a-, means without, or not. Like I said, there's a type of reproduction some plants and bacteria go through, and there's an orientation.

A- + sexual. You can define it without google as well.

There is, as well, two (well, if you count the different facets of it, like homoromantic, more) types of asexuality, complete lack of attraction, and lack of sexual attraction.

These facets, define it even more. There's pretty much one for every typical orientation, except applying you have a lack of sexual attraction. Heteroromantic, homoromantic, biromantic, panromantic, transromantic, aromantic, etc.

[Aspiringanonymous]

Asexuality is lack of sexual attraction.
Aromantic is lack of romantic attraction.

One can be asexual without being aromatic.
Romantic attraction and sexual attraction are different things, despite the tendency of sexual (aka non-asexual) people to stick them together.

Sexuality is fluid. This applies to straight, bi, gay, pan, ace, etc etc etc. Everything and everyone has the potential to change in one way or another. That doesn't mean they actually will, but we recognize the nature of impermanence in all phenomena.

We will know when we have identified correctly when we feel in alignment with our true selves inside. This realization can take time to reach. After all the confusion and mental judgments calm down. Be patient.