Do you regret it?

[georgiamay]

Honestly, do you?

I know, self harm is bad, and I certainly don't recommend it. But I would never have found VT if it wasn't for me started to SH, I never would have met any of you guys. Not just that, but I wouldn't be the person I am today, as cheesy as that sounds.

I'm not promoting self harm, and I wish I could have avoided it in some ways. But it's kind of taught me a lot about myself and about some other shit that I cba to go into. And tbh, I probably would have killed myself by now if it wasn't for self harm. Half of me says yes, I do regret it. But the other half says no.

So honestly, do you regret starting?

[RAWWR]

No. For all the reasons you just said. I do not regret my self harm. I sometimes regret letting it to get to the level it got to. But I don't regret it.

[UnknownError]

The same as both of you.
If it wasn't for my SH I wouldn't of found VT and met all of you.
I've definitely became more mature than my friends/classmate-majigs.
And I feel like I know myself better...

Really, it's done good and bad for me.

[Fiction]

If it wasn't for my self harm i'd have never have met some of the most important people in my life. I'd never have met the people keeping me alive, and self harm as kept me alive at time. Although I wonder without this addiction, would I have needed "keeping alive"?

[Syvelocin]

I say no only because I'm a 'no regrets, can't change the past' person. There's everything you guys have mentioned, but that's my main reason.

[love is louder]

For me its a way of dealing with my stuff alone its the only private thing i have thats only mine. and although i dont have thoughts about killing myself it, in a sence has kept me gonig. like when i do it it recharges me?
i never regret anything i do. it has all contributed to how i am today.
dont get me wrong sometimes i regret the scars and they make me uncomfortable around certain people but i think i would have lost the plot big style if i hadnt turned to SH

[Izzybella]

sometimes cutting is the only thing that has kept me from killing myself

cutting is what got me out of an abusive home and into foster care someone found out about my cutting and told the teacher once I was in therapy they started investigating what was going on at my house and "why" i was cutting now my little sisters will never have to go through the stuff I did.

alot of times i wish i never started but i dont regret it

[HeroesAndCons]

http://www.mymilkglassheart.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/02/I-regret-nothing-chicken.gif

I wouldnt have been able to meet cool people.
It was the only thing that kept me sane.
i wouldnt have become closer to one of my BFFLs

[FullyAlive]

No, for many of the same reasons mentioned. I've made good friends on here which wouldn't have happened should I not have needed help with self harm. I think I've become more mature in a way, as I've had to grow up and deal with the reality of self harm. And my self harm wasn't serious until last year when it helped me deal with my uncles death, if I hadn't been cutting then I honestly think I would of killed myself. I know cutting wasn't the most productive but at least my family didn't have to deal with two deaths. And cutting has also helped me become a lot closer to certain people. So in a way I think I should really be thanking whatever caused me to self harm, I know without it i would be a completely different person, a lot less understanding person. But also it's kept me an alive person so I suppose that's good too.

The only thing I regret is the scars, they're going to be with me so long, but I don't completely regret them I welcome them. It's more for my family and friends who have to see them that I regret it.

[Love.Hate]

I don't really know if I'm honest, last night I was in the position of putting myself back to when I first started. I know I didn't regret it then, it has been with me through good and bad. I have grown up, I'm now the "mother figure" according to my friends. :P
So in a way no I don't regret it, I would probably be dead if I didn't have it. I have also met some amazing people on here, everyone is so mature and just lovely. The thing I regret is hurting my family and loosing their trust. I also regret the scars, I couldn't hate anything more.

So I'm 50/50

[Harley Quinn]

Nope, i don't regret it at all. Sounds strange me saying that but it's the fact that because of it i feel that i have become a better person due to fact that i had started, but also because it made me realise that you don't need to hurt yourself to feel something. In some ways it's brought me closer to people and further away from those i didn't actually want to be associated with. Sure there are days where i say 'damn i wish i didn't start' but if i didn't i wouldn't have realised the potential that i could actually reach, that probably won't even make much sense to you though o.O.

[Kaius]

If it wasn't for my self harm i'd have never have met some of the most important people in my life. I'd never have met the people keeping me alive, and self harm as kept me alive at time. Although I wonder without this addiction, would I have needed "keeping alive"?

Pretty much this. Though I think if i didn't turn to self harm when I did I'd have probably done something more destructive/life threatening.

[enjoying_my_insanity]

i really dont regret it, for me it never got very bad but even if it had i doubt i would regret it cuz i try my hardest to live without regrets

[Ambrosia]

I don't regret it but I also don't praise having started I guess I'm 50/50 as well. I'm riding the fence between the two. Unlike all of you I've never met any "cool people" over my self-harm but I have helped a lot of people. Because I've dealt with self-harm for so many years I see myself as a bit more "experienced" with it then a lot. When I find someone who has just started I help them stop it while their ahead(And can still stop it quicker then those of us who have done it a while). I don't regret starting just because of the fact that I see it as sacraficing my own skin to help save a bunch of other peoples.

I do regret it because I know I will one day have to explain these scars to my children.

[Roses_Are_Yellow]

Well, it's 50/50 for me. I don't regret it because I found VT through it and it has taught me many lessons. It's hard to explain, but now I don't judge people who do self harm anymore, because I can (sometimes) relate to how they're feeling. But like Lexi, I regret it because one day if I have children, they'll probably ask me about the scars. I'm just afraid that THEY would start harming themselves...

[1_21Guns]

No, why? Because regretting it isn't going to undo it.
I wouldn't know most of the people I do now, a lot of things wouldn't of happened without it, and I certainly wouldn't be this strong without that fight. I have a huge scar on my leg, nothing covers it, one day, I'm going to be fucked up because I can't hide it anymore. But y'know what? That's okay. Because I've always believed things happen for a reason, and whatever comes of this comes of it. I tired to kill myself before I started self harming, inevitable in a way. I don't think I'll regret having to tell my children, I want them to be brought up to understand the things others can't, without them having to experience it for themselves.

[TRexbait]

None at all, and not because "it's allowed me to meet new people"
While I acknowledge that it isn't healthy and don't recommend others do it, I view self harm as any other sort of addiction with adverse side effects. Smoking, drinking, etc. I find it odd how society can accept that some people can be addicted to certain things that have been shown to kill them, while rejecting and making it seem unnatural to be addicted to something like hurting oneself. Don't mean to sound ignorant, but that's just my view on it.

[Nevermore]

I regret getting addicted. hehe But don't regret the scars, unless I'm around my parents or a doctor. I hate what I do, but I don't regret what I've done.

[-Silence]

I regret all of it. I wasted so much of my life on this shit.

[charlotte945]

I do regret it but like you said i'v come so far and proven so much to myself because i used to cut. So its like i regret having to cut myself just to be able to prove to myself that i can get through it.

[Indecision]

Noo way. When I told someone about my Self-Harm, he's now become one of my closest friends. Okeh maaybe I regret doing it on my arm as it's blatantly obvious to my family (although they still don't know) but I really don't regret it, I found who I was within it.

[Charleigh]

Regretting wont change anything.
I aint proud of my scars or who I am. But I certainly wont change my scars or who I am for nobody. I am the way I am. I used to be a cutter, now im Charlie. Ok. Charlie does some stupid shit, and some unbearabley sensless shit. But. We all make mistakes in our lifes. All make fucked up decisions. We just have to live with it. And move on.

[Immortal Love]

Yes, I do regret it. I don't like to wear short sleeves because the scars show up so vividly on my skin. I also regret it because I feel that I can never stop. But along with regretting it, I don't because I've actually gained many friends because of it. Ones that care, and some that used to cut. I don't feel as alone as I used to.

[Craig1995]

I regret it. Completely.

[beag_amhain]

i dont regret it, my scars remind me of things that i have gone threw that if i didn sh i wudn have made threw, their like a reminder of how strong i can be wen i need to

[foreverbroken37]

i dont regret it because these scars remind me that the past is real.. but then i do regret it.. i just wish i didnt do it so bad my scars are huge

[Aiyslyn]

Honestly, I don't.
I certainly don't recommend it, it's made my life a living heck. But at the same time, in some ways I've changed for the better.
I'm more understanding, more tolerant, I've grown closer to the friends who know about it, I've met some awesome people, I'm a little bit stronger and able to help people better.
But I know that it is in no way a good thing. At all. Not trying to promote it or anything, that's just my honest opinion.

[TheFountainGoddess]

I regret letting it take over my life, but no I don't regret self harming. If it wasn't for self harming then I wouldn't be able to see the world differently. I'm a different person because of it, and I like the way I am now. Even if I do self harm.

[SilentlyCrying]

It's funny, because I've always thought about the first time, the last time, and everything in the middle. If I hadn't self harmed, it would have avoided so much drama, teasing, pain, annoyance, and a bad relationship with everyone around me. But I don't think I would have realized what the other side of the bench was like. I was always the perfect one who had never ever done anything wrong, got straight A's, and what not. But now, I'm just a regular teen. So I guess what I'm trying to say is, I wouldn't trade a minute of it.

[anonymous53]

I don't regret it one bit. It reminds me that what happened has happened.
If I hadn't cut I most likely wouldn't be here today, it was the one thing keeping me alive, as messed up as that sounds. If I had the same choice, I would do it again.