Should I tell him?

[Love.Hate]

Okay so I really like this guy, he likes me too (he has told me so).
But every relationship I have fails because they find out about my SH, do you think I should tell him I cut now? Because either way I'm fucked, it will just be a little less heartbreaking if he let's me down now, I suppose. What do you guys think?

[FullyAlive]

I think you should tell him, be honest about it, however try not to make to big a deal of it, otherwise he might get freaked out. Make sure you explain calmly and I'm not sure but you should refrain from showing him the cuts to start with, it depends how bad your scars look. I hope it goes well and he understands, I know how it feels for guys not to understand. My ex broke up with me when I told him coincidence? I think not. But if he's told you he likes you then he should like you whether you cut or not. You're such a nice person, I hope it works out!

[adudewhodoesdudes]

I think you should tell him, I found out about my current girlfriend's past (cutting and suicide attempts) before we were together. You just have to talk to him and tell him why you do it and hope that he understands. If he really does like you for you then he should understand as long as you are open about it. He may ask you some questions and it may take some time but eventually he should understand. Just be open and everything should be alright. I hope he understands you and it all works out.

[Weeping]

In my opinion you should probably tell him. And be prepared to show him and tell him a bit why you do it, cause such things may come up from his side. If it doesn't, of course you don't need to. Just try to be open about it!

I hope it works out well! And I'm here for you if you need more advice or something, or if it don't turn out very well.

:hug:

[Fiction]

I think you should tell him. He may feel lied to if you wait until you're together to tell him, and if you're going to work as a couple he'll accept you whether you do it or not.

[Gravemind]

You should tell him. If he can't accept you for who you are, then he's not right for you. If he likes you, he should like the whole you, not just the good parts.

[Lost n not yet found]

I totally agree with brian if he cant accept you for who you are then he definately isnt worth it :) good luck hun your a strong person you can cope with anything

[The Dudeh]

I honestly think you should tell him. As a guy, I'd like to know that the girl I liked trusted me enough to tell me. But keep in mind - if you don't think he's trustworthy enough, don't tell him :)

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou guys. I might tell him, i have a word document already written.
Just a case of being brave enough to do it. Or if he is actually worth it..
idk just yet.

But thankyou :D

[AnyWayYouSliceIt]

If you tell him, tell him in person.

If you think he'll understand, tell him, definitely. But I think you should also remind him, when you tell him, that cutting isn't *all* you are... it's just one small part of you. So when he looks at you, he should still see the same Fran, not just some faceless cutter, you know?

And if he doesn't understand, he's a douchebag who's not worth your time. And there is someone out there who will understand, if you only have patience finding him.

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