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SometimesThere
March 19th, 2011, 03:28 AM
I have this friend. She has been a friend of mine for a long time (since I was about three years old), but lately she has become mean towards me and another friend.

The girl is a bit of a social climber, and she's always been trying to become friends with the people she sees as "popular". This at the expense of me and other friends, who she views as social rejects, probably. Whenever we are talking in front of these "popular people" she'll shush us, or give us dirty looks. Or instead, she'll completely ignore us. And I know that she talks about us behind our backs (I was told this by another person, and I'm fairly sure I can trust this person).

I've told my older sister and she told me to just ditch the girl. However, this doesn't sit right with me. For one thing, if I did that I know the girl could stir up a lot of trouble in return (she wouldn't be beyond telling a teacher I'm bullying her, or telling her mum to have a word with me).

Would it be better for me to just end the friendship? Or should I just remain "friends" with her?
esolis50
March 19th, 2011, 03:45 PM
i say you should try talking to her. invite her out to dinner or something and tell her how you feeel. not in a mean way, but in a loving caring friendly way. telll her how things have changed and let her know how it is afecting you. if she is a true friend, she will understand and the two of you will work it out
Azunite
March 19th, 2011, 05:47 PM
Talk to her, first open the conversation as a tease like "I'm gonna kill you if you treat me in front of the people like trash :P" then she won't understand what is going on and then try to tell her the situation but take things slowly.
SometimesThere
March 20th, 2011, 02:38 AM
i say you should try talking to her. invite her out to dinner or something and tell her how you feeel. not in a mean way, but in a loving caring friendly way. telll her how things have changed and let her know how it is afecting you. if she is a true friend, she will understand and the two of you will work it out

Talk to her, first open the conversation as a tease like "I'm gonna kill you if you treat me in front of the people like trash :P" then she won't understand what is going on and then try to tell her the situation but take things slowly.

Hmmm.... I never thought about talking to her. I'm not the sort of person who's good at those sort of things, but I'll try. The girl I'm talking about can cause a bit of drama when she wants to, so I hope she doesn't create a scene over it. However, both of you are right in saying that's what I should do. I'll get to it some day soon :)

Thanks!