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love is louder
March 18th, 2011, 09:10 PM
Hes going to have to know at some point i guess and trying to hide it is making more stress and effort than its worth
i know the answers are going to be "if he truly cares about you he'll be there for you" and shit like that but what im asking is if you think he might be more open to it than others.

Iv looked and there is no evidence that he does it
i just get the feeling that he might be more open to it than others or he has clicked on to me doing it and not said
He must know something, he would be pretty dumb not to
the only other thing is he listens to death metal and likes a lot of dark films and shit
(not saying that is connected to sh at all just saying he might understand)

but the thing is i dont know if all my hunches are in my head or not!
i need help

adudewhodoesdudes
March 18th, 2011, 09:55 PM
As long as you explain to him why you did in the first place then there is a fair chance that he will understand why and not get upset or angry at you. I am not sure whether or not he will be more open to it because when I found out last year about a friend, I understood because she explained why she did it and it didn't change my opinion of her.
If he has caught on he could be scared to talk about it because he may not understand so make sure you just explain everything to him. You are doing the right thing in telling him because he should be one of the people that understands you really well.

I hope this helps you and hope everything is ok between you two.

UnknownError
March 19th, 2011, 07:25 AM
Just say it straight out. Don't mess around the outside or it gets harder to say. Also if you start to mention it, don't suddenly decide half way through the conversation that you don't want to tell anymore. He'll get suspicious.
When I told my (ex) girlfriend she took it well I guess. Was a bit awkward for a day or two but things were normal-ish.
Good luck. :)

love is louder
March 20th, 2011, 03:41 PM
Yea iv kinda totally backed out!
i hate deciding to do something and thinking its a good idea
then waking up and the thought of it actually making me feel sick!
im pretty much fucked either way you look at it but atleast this way he thinks im normal and everythnig good-ish
:(!