Mum you are....

[green]

My mum is being the biggest fucking bitch on the god damn planet at the moment. seriously today she comes home and asks me how my swimming carnival went, I tell her that i went in the 50m butterfly and the relay and she asks what about all the other ones. I say that i didnt know what events were going on because the loudspeakers there a shit and you cant hear anything on them. so she goes off her nut and goes on about how she hates people who "dont participate". She goes upstairs then basicly shouts things out like "I dont even know why I try to get you to do things" and "Waste of my money". I am so fucking sick of her constant bitching about how terrible her life is. If its so god damn terrible because of me and my sister just divorce dad and leave! I mean my god she only goes on about how her fucking life has just gone down the plug and that were the reason she has gained and cant lose weight. No one can do anything about your life but yourself. Now i can bet that tommorow shes gonna be like " im sorry i shouldnt go off at you like that im just really stressed" then she will do it again in the next few days. I am sick of it! Im done trying to please her and be the son she wanted. If she doesnt like it she can fuck off and leave me alone. I just dont care anymore. For four years ive had to put up with my mum and sister fighting and I always get caught in the middle. If you have a problem with my sister mum dont drag me into it. Ive always been the one who sits on the end of her bed and comforts her when shes having a fucking mental breakdown. Why doesnt she appreciate that.

Sorry for the rant im just so angry right now. Does anyone have any tips on how I can deal with this.

[Wicked_Syn]

Why are you telling us? You should bitch at her. If she pisses you off so much, why don't you just yell at her? And if you hate her sooo much, maybe you should emancipate your self. Or really, you should give her a break. She could have some medical issue that she hasnt had checked into yet. Be grateful you have a mom at least. There are some people out there who don't, like my friend.

[green]

its not that I dont aprecciate her Its just that im tired of her taking her problems out on me. I love her but she just goes off at me for the smallest things.

[Donkey]

How about you be a little more thankful for her presence and think of all the work that she does do for you. Bringing you into this world could be one of them, providing a household, a meal every night, money for clothes could be some. Just be fucking nice to her and actually help out a bit, for Christ's sake. Not so hard. I expect she's doing it because you're stressing her by doing fuck all.

[green]

I do everything she asks of me! I am not my sister, I actually clean up and try and help her. Its just the for the past year whenever ive tried to help she always tells me to go away cuz im in her way. Also the reason im posting this is so I can get it off my chest and not be angry about it. So that I dont yell at her and make her even more unhappy i suppress my feelings and let them out other ways.

[Wicked_Syn]

its not that I dont aprecciate her Its just that im tired of her taking her problems out on me. I love her but she just goes off at me for the smallest things.


I'm not trying to get on your back at all. I don't know your situation. I'm just saying though, because I used to think my mom was just out there to get me and stuff, then I realized she's trying and she has her own issues to deal with.

[Wicked_Syn]

I do everything she asks of me! I am not my sister, I actually clean up and try and help her. Its just the for the past year whenever ive tried to help she always tells me to go away cuz im in her way

Did something major happen in the past year? Like a death, divorce, or something else? She could be going through a depression.

[green]

The only real thing that I can think of is either the fact that she and my sister are fighting which has been going on for years or because of her weight, but the weight thing has been around for a while and shes never been like this before.

[Donkey]

I do everything she asks of me! I am not my sister, I actually clean up and try and help her. Its just the for the past year whenever ive tried to help she always tells me to go away cuz im in her way. Also the reason im posting this is so I can get it off my chest and not be angry about it. So that I dont yell at her and make her even more unhappy i suppress my feelings and let them out other ways.
You might have to do a little more than cleaning up to help a woman who is clearly suffering from severe stress. Starting a good relationship with her (in the right way,) doing other jobs like cleaning the car, making a meal or just finding your own work so you can cover some of the extracurricular things like swimming that you do.

As Zach (whatever) says, it could be something else though. I still think it'll help if you do a little more.

[green]

Ive been trying to find a job for like 4 months, I try to help her as much as i can but i either do it wrong or i did that instead of somthing else she thought was more important. I actually have a really good relationship with her usually its basicly been the past month that shes been really laying into me. I realise you probobly think im just some brat who thinks my mum is there to clean, feed me and get me money but im not. Infact I hate having her have to do things for me. But theres only so much independence I can get myself when I cant find work anywhere.