I'd rather fall in chocolate.

[iCookie Jar]

I've got a problem. Admittedly one that everybody will face at some point in their life. I'm in love.
We've known eachother for a long time, but for a few years we lost contact, because, the thing is, he's three years younger than me. I'm now 16, and he's only 13. He knows me, but we're not massively close, we say hi when we pass one another in the corridor.
1. Is it socially wrong to like someone his age at the age I'm at?
2. Do I let him and other people know?
3. Do I make a move, even though he might not be gay?
4. Is there something wrong with me?

Thank you for your time. Xx

[Severus Snape]

1. Is it socially wrong to like someone his age at the age I'm at?

Socially yes, I won't judge though.

2. Do I let him and other people know?

At this point I would say no mate. :(

3. Do I make a move, even though he might not be gay?
That's your call, but think it over carefully

4. Is there something wrong with me?

No, not at all. but look at it from his perspective. I'm 19, three years older than you. Would you feel intimidated or uncomfortable if I made moves on you? Your response to that question should help you determine if you move forward.

Thank you for your time. Xx

My pleasure, I hope everything works out. it can be hard

[mr.sexy_bomb]

well i am 16 and my boyfriend is 18, we are 2 years and 3 months apart and it works

[Dalman]

well i am 16 and my boyfriend is 18, we are 2 years and 3 months apart and it works

There is relative small difference between 16 and 18 but a huge diffetence in the age difference of 13 and 16. I think it would be a difficult situation if you start to date him.

[Fact]

well i am 16 and my boyfriend is 18, we are 2 years and 3 months apart and it works

There is relative small difference between 16 and 18 but a huge diffetence in the age difference of 13 and 16. I think it would be a difficult situation if you start to date him.

Precisely. 16 and 18 is less trouble - you're both maturing, well into puberty and have understanding of how relationships work.

To be honest, 13 and 16 is a horrible age gap to have in your current situation. There's a fair chance that the guy you like will change a lot whilst maturing, which would make a relationship pointless and any sexual activity extremely awkward/illegal (depending on where you are in the world) and could be considered perverted.

If I were you, I'd grit my teeth and deal with it. Try to let this one go - you've got plenty of time to be worrying about relationships in the future without inflicting yourself upon someone who is much younger (mentally) and who you're not even share would like you due to their sexuality.

[Donkey]

I've got a problem. Admittedly one that everybody will face at some point in their life. I'm in love.
We've known eachother for a long time, but for a few years we lost contact, because, the thing is, he's three years younger than me. I'm now 16, and he's only 13. He knows me, but we're not massively close, we say hi when we pass one another in the corridor.
1. Is it socially wrong to like someone his age at the age I'm at?
2. Do I let him and other people know?
3. Do I make a move, even though he might not be gay?
4. Is there something wrong with me?

Thank you for your time. Xx
So let's point out some potential problems in this situation and analyse what the best cause of action would be to take given this information, and comparing it to any reasoning why you might want to go ahead and make something of this.

It's hard, but he's probably not gay. Remember only about 3-5% of the population are actually homosexual, and while this figure is for adults and the percentage of teens questioning their sexuality will be much higher, the chances of him being romantically or even physically attracted to other guys are slim. And given the small chance that he did, what's to say he's interested in you? Tread very carefully.

If he's mature enough to handle a relationship, understand the repercussions and feels strongly about you then you should go ahead. Don't expect it to be easy though, while it may not matter what someone's age is, most people will take the view that in general younger people are likely to be less mature and older people are more likely to use them for easy targets. This is mostly true, which is why it's so important this guy is mature.

You will probably receive a lot of backlash if you tell anyone, and it may make preexisting relationships with friends or family awkward if they disagree with the situation you are in. I wouldn't let anyone know if you can help it, if you ever get into a relationship with him. Just try to keep it quiet, not because you are doing anything wrong but because people will assume you are doing something wrong.

As for letting him know, I'd study his sexuality carefully before saying anything. Maybe if you came out to him that'd be a start - if you haven't already? You could bring up the subject of sex and sexuality casually, he'll be beginning to explore it himself and might be interested in talking to you about it anyway. If he's interested in you, I'm sure the conversation would eventually sway towards a direction of emotional sexual attraction and the tension between you two. He might even discover some feelings for you he didn't knew existed. Remember if this bit doesn't work, and he is totally straight, leave it. You'll only hurt your friendship with him.

And finally, there's nothing wrong with you. It's totally normal to have crushes on all kinds of people, often the weirdest ones. You just have to remember that if they're not gay, you shouldn't pursue it. Every gay guy has a time in their life, I'm sure, when they fall for a straight guy and things can't and won't work out. If that happens, you'll get through it.