Questioning my sexualitiy

[DogTricks]

Now this is pretty lengthy, but please bare with me as I could really use the help. I am a 17 year old male, and for a good while now (1-2 years) Ive been questioning my sexuality. I know for a fact i like women, as I have had gfs and whatnot. but my question is; could I be bi? The following may sound silly and/or obscene, but its part of it; for a while now, Ive run some "tests" and come to the conclusion that lesbian/gay graphic content turn me on faster than straight content. Straight content does turn me on, it just takes a while. and when I masturbate to either or, I reach climax faster with the same-sex content. Now what I am wondering is; am I getting turned on faster by the same-sex content because it is different, and it is taboo; or because I am attracted to the same sex? and does it take longer for me to reach climax with straight content because of the whole "women like men who can last"? I know a lot of this can seem farfetched, or weird. But put yourself in my shoes. Ive never been emotionally attracted to a guy, and the only thing that is making me wonder whether I am bi or not is because I am turned on by gay content. Please, be as helpful as you can. This situation is driving me crazy. And if you made it this far, thanks.

[ackmedsgirl666]

well i cant rele say that you are infact bi....
pretty much anybody gets turned on by any type of sex whether it be same sex or not... first off.... do u physically want to try stuff with guys or do u just enjoy watching same sex porn cuz truthfully we cannot decide ur sexuality. only u can

[Lights]

Pornography preference really doesn't determine sexuality.
Being bisexual means that you find women and men equally attractive, but from the way you've described things, you certainly prefer women. You haven't ever felt emotionally attracted to a guy before, but you have felt that sort of attraction to a woman.

In the end, only you know how you feel about guys. I think if you were bisexual, you wouldn't have to question your feelings so much because you would just know. That's my two cents anyway.

[Dalman]

I am not sure if you are str8 or bi, but I can say that you should pursue being scientist. You seem to solve problem in a scientific manner. Good luck with both discovering your sexual identity and your successful career.

[Donkey]

Hi DogTricks.

Perhaps there's a bit more to sexuality than you're taking it for - I wouldn't make any hasty decisions judged by pornography alone! Remember that to be bisexual, you have to be not only emotionally and physically attracted to girls, but also emotionally and physically attracted to guys too. If there's no emotional attraction to guys there, you're not bisexual. Now you've wiped off that sweat on your forehead, you may still be left confused.

As for homosexual content being more of a turn on than heterosexual content, and you're including lesbian pornography in that, I wouldn't put it down to anything more than a fetish. Many people are more interested in watching same-sex pornography, and a hell of a lot of straight guys watch lesbian porn. I wouldn't worry about that. Perhaps you want an explanation of why you are enjoying gay porn though - it's coming! (no innuendo intended, of course)

During adolescence, teenagers go through a long and draining process of some very strong hormones which cause mood swings, anti-social behaviour, bad judgement and perhaps most excitedly a huge sex drive. That huge sex drive, and those new and powerful hormones, leads to many teenagers experience same-sex physical attraction, and experiencing a degree of curiosity about their sexuality. Don't tell me you didn't take a few sneaky peaks in the locker room.

What does that mean in terms of sexual attraction to men? It means that you should wait it out. Your hormones will calm down as you approach your early twenties or the very latest teens. At this point all of those homosexual feelings fill fade away for straight man, or for bisexual or gay men they will remain. It's a different story for everyone, you'll know in a year or two. Now, we already know that you're not bisexual as there's no emotional attraction, but it's important you know that most men will experience same-sex attraction at some point in their lives to different levels.

As a final note, don't feel the need to label yourself - sexuality is a personal thing, and something that you don't need to shout from the rooftops about. Don't feel as if you have to be "straight," "bi" or "gay." These are all just words, and for many a word won't be enough to really describe how they feel. Often if you put a label on it, all you're doing is opening yourself up to homophobia - so no need. You're a human being, not a homo being!