Fear of success..

[MrZero]

I don't really understand it but I have it...Whenever I realize I might be doing well at something I completely fuck it up, thus i can't ever get good at anything. On good days it's a silly sort of contrast like dribble the whole other team only to completely miss an easy shot(not that i really play sports these days but the point stands), and i just shrug it off and make jokes about it.

But on bad days after i screw something up i completely give up on it and am depressed for ages, there's this feeling like i can't do anything right... which ultimately seems to be the case. It's not just games ofc but everything, does anyone know how to get past something like this?:confused: am kinda stumped, any help appreciated :lol:

[the wasabi]

nobody's perfect.
sorry it's a cliche but it's true. just because you're bad at something the first time doesn't mean you suck at it. just keep trying it, and eventually you'll get better. which brings me my next cliche.....practice makes perfect.

as for things you've already done and then mess up at it. it's just a bad day or days. no one can always be good at something...sometimes we mess up and just have get right to where we were before and aim to keep excelling.

instead of thinking of the things you didn't succeed at, think of the things you have succeeded at. make a list, put it in your room or something and focus on those things. Whenever you are doing something, think of it as trying to add it to your list of success rather than fearing of failing and doing bad.

believe in yourself and know you got people who are here to support and got your back.
you can do anything you aim.

hope that helps....

[MrZero]

It does help :yes:

But it's not fear of failing i think, it's more like i expect to fail and it comes as a shock if i ever do something well so i get nervous and screw it up.

Here's a more specific example, a while back i was making some sweet coffee'ish drink and i was playing around with the shaker which i did all the time back then, didn't think much of it. My friend who was there was impressed by what i was doing and said something -> next 5 seconds it slips of one of my fingers and flies straight into the mirror :D :D and splat! And I've not attempted that since...