Getting rid of triggers.

[ShatteredWings]

I'll never forgive him, but I want to move on.

My only consistent one is someone touching my back. It varies in severity, when it's bad you can't brush against my back and I'll freak out if the cat decides to curl up there. When I'm doing good, it'll just be don't put/leave your hand there.

To be blunt, it pisses me off. I don't like not feeling OK with NORMAL touch. Yes, understandable waryness but I'm older now I can intelectually tell the difference between "this is wrong" and "Just a friend" and act on it now.

Anyway. Anyone know how to, yaknow, deal with it?
TBH I want to be normal, somewhat.

[1_21Guns]

In all honesty I don't know a specific way of dealing with them, however what I've found helped with triggers is facing them (although it can be kinda messy for a while), it's a lot of psychological stuff that makes you vary and react, you kinda just have to not keep your guard down while you get used to it, if you have a friend who knows about what's happened see if you can slowly get yourself to tolerate it

[HeroesAndCons]

Deep breathe or clench ur fists

Hun, You are normal dont think your not

[Syvelocin]

I agree with Natalie. The best way to get over it is being exposed to it, but it's a difficult way.

Mine is just men in general, I have trust issues. Unless I've been close to a guy for a long, long time, or trust them with my life, which is very few men, touching me in any way is a no-go. Hugs, holding hands, even handshakes I don't really like. But of course I full-on freak out if a guy hugs me, even if it's just a friendly one-armed hug. And God forbid it would be anything worse than that.

I'm getting better with friends, because I'm trying to grow more comfortable by hanging out with them more. Strangers, I still have a huge issue with however.

[Quick_Sylver]

Is it more people or objects?

Either way, all I can suggest is being triggered, then someone safe kneeling behind your back, thus, they're "protecting you" and lessening the fear. Make sure its someone you genuinely trust though.

[ShatteredWings]

In all honesty I don't know a specific way of dealing with them, however what I've found helped with triggers is facing them (although it can be kinda messy for a while), it's a lot of psychological stuff that makes you vary and react, you kinda just have to not keep your guard down while you get used to it, if you have a friend who knows about what's happened see if you can slowly get yourself to tolerate it
yeah I can see how that could get really messy really fast. But at the same time, work.
I know it's all psychological, hence why it annoys the fuck outta me :P
A few friends actually know...


I agree with Natalie. The best way to get over it is being exposed to it, but it's a difficult way.

Mine is just men in general, I have trust issues. Unless I've been close to a guy for a long, long time, or trust them with my life, which is very few men, touching me in any way is a no-go. Hugs, holding hands, even handshakes I don't really like. But of course I full-on freak out if a guy hugs me, even if it's just a friendly one-armed hug. And God forbid it would be anything worse than that.

I'm getting better with friends, because I'm trying to grow more comfortable by hanging out with them more. Strangers, I still have a huge issue with however.
Heh. I get that. I'm also not a huge fan or large groups either, but that's an entirely different issue.
Damn exposure. I see how it would work. That doesn't make it any nicer a though -_-

Is it more people or objects?

Either way, all I can suggest is being triggered, then someone safe kneeling behind your back, thus, they're "protecting you" and lessening the fear. Make sure its someone you genuinely trust though.

Definitely more people. Sometimes things/animals, but only if I'm already 'off', ya know?

Thanks though guys.