sooooo school

[HeroesAndCons]

So the school found out i was cutting

I was writing Coping Poertry and it slipped out of my bag

i had to go to the social worker and they made me get a body exam to make sure there was no fresh cuts

Luckly i eased and lied my way out of it cause i was so nervous and i was shaking and about to have an anxiety attack :(
i told them i stopped a year ago (lie)
and luckly my skin heals fast and they said they look a year old
I WAS SO EMARRASSED
the nurse was touching them and everything
I felt so violated by that
they called my mom and they had to tell her i was cutting which she already knew

I was so mortified

[Ambrosia]

Schools shouldn't do that. I mean, I understand the whole "safety" thing but it's completely wrong. We should be allowed to tell when we feel.

I'm sorry this happened to you! ):

[georgiamay]

This school thing annoys me so much. I get that if you're in danger, your parents need to know. But for me, I was never in danger. I've been doing it for over 3 years, I know my limits, and I've never gone over them or gone "too deep". I actually got worse when the school told my parents. I got a lot more creative in terms of where I did it.

I can see why they do it, they just need to take it case by case.

I'm sorry you had to go through that, it must have been horrible!

PM me anytime, I'm always here. :hug3:

[Syvelocin]

I really don't think schools handle it correctly. That body exam, fuck, that's not necessary. They didn't do that with me. When an anonymous source told my school counsellor, she made me show her my arms, that's it, and whenever she was alerted I did it again she would call my parents. What that did, when they had known I was doing it for a couple years at that point, I have no idea, but every time she made me spill that I had recently cut myself again, she called them.

Schools seem to freak out too much. I personally think, with how many kids go through self-harm, eating disorders, depression, even bullying, they need someone trained in that to talk to the kids, not the counsellor who deals with graduating, schedule changes, and discipline.

Hope you're okay hun
:hug:

[HeroesAndCons]

I still feel horrible
i feel like my scars have been violated
they didnt need to touch them
thats what made me feel violated
they are my peice of mind not theirs
they had no right to touch them

[FullyAlive]

I agree with everyone else, schools do not handle it properly, when the school told my mum I got dramatically worse. They put me in a horrible situation. However certain people in school have done a lot for me since, so I can't complain too much. But considering how many students are affected by self harm they should have more trained and knowledgeable staff, you should have to make do with the teachers who don't know much.

I also understand what you mean about people touching your cuts, my teacher did that to me when I was found out, I did not like it, they are private and feel way too personal to have practically strangers touch. Even now I'm a lot, lot closer to her I don't like it when she asks me too show her let alone touches. Although I don't mind it when people I'm close too touch them, my ex boyfriend sometimes did in affection and this I can cope with.

But schools should be more careful and respectful when they make you show them and touch scars and cuts. It's a lot more personal than i think they realise.

[walsh6131]

So the school found out i was cutting

I was writing Coping Poertry and it slipped out of my bag

i had to go to the social worker and they made me get a body exam to make sure there was no fresh cuts

Luckly i eased and lied my way out of it cause i was so nervous and i was shaking and about to have an anxiety attack :(
i told them i stopped a year ago (lie)
and luckly my skin heals fast and they said they look a year old
I WAS SO EMARRASSED
the nurse was touching them and everything
I felt so violated by that
they called my mom and they had to tell her i was cutting which she already knew

I was so mortified


Lady-Red,


The school was not in the wrong at all it is a policy they must follow which is set out by the government they need to do this with the amount of cases saying schools don't do anything and is set under the child protection law they need to follow it . You would feel very mortified as she was entering your own personal space and can be very worrying that you have been discovered, But it would be useful for you to continue to speak to the School Duty Social Worker as their only to 'Help' you not make your life worse.


I know this may of not helped really but
All The Best
James W:)

[Fiction]

I really think the way school deals with such things needs to change. My school know I self harm, but it wasn't them who found out so i've never had to talk about it with them or anything.
I self harmed at school a few days ago and totally freaked out when I later looked at my sleeve and saw it covered in blood. If only schools didn't have to tell your parents about such things I would have been able to go to the school nurse, get it sorted properly. Instead I ended up scaring my friends by them seeing me fucking up in the head. Seriously if only schools dealt with it better these things wouldn't happen.