New to the Forum. Need advice

[Bimmerhead]

Hey the names Matt and im 18. I live in Hemet California and love it here! I have been having relationship issues as of recently. I started having sex at 14 which is a little young. I have had many serious disasters when it comes to relationship so I tend to keep girls on a strictly physical level. Sex but nothing more. I love some aspects of that but I decided to get back into the dating game 6 months ago. Generally when im getting to know the girl the same questions always get asked by her. Are you a virgin? How many times have you had sex? how many partners? I believe in being up front and honest when a girl asks a question like that but shortly after I get the look like 'oh geez your gross' Some of them ask me if I have diseases! WTF? Basically what im asking is... Should I just lie at first as to not scare them off? Or just stay the course? Thanks for the advice.

[Deadlykills]

Don't ever lie if you want a good relationship. Just tell her you need to talk and tell her not to freak out, and that she needs to listen to you first before she says anything else so you can better explain things to her.

If she freaks out and breaks up with you, then she is not for you.

I wish you goodluck, and remember, don't lie to any girl you're gonna be in a relationship with, it just makes everything worse and they begin to gain trust issues.

[SimplyTom]

You just need to be yourself, and if they dont like what you say to their questions then they aren't the right girl for you. I hope you find the right someone soon and i wish you the best of luck in finding someone

[Bimmerhead]

Its not so much that I want to permanently lie to them but maybe im just looking for a way to avoid those questions until they get to know me. Its always a first date thing generally which doesn't give a lot of time to know me. If I say its personal they might get weirded out too. like. Oh wow thats never good when a GUY says that!

[Fact]

Basically what im asking is... Should I just lie at first as to not scare them off? Or just stay the course? Thanks for the advice.

Absolutely not. As a girl, if I went dating and a guy lied to me about his sexual history, I doubt the relationship would go very far. You're 18, so you just need to man up about your past now and concentrate on finding a girl that doesn't mind your sexual history - don't just get a girl you want by lying when she might not really want you.

[The Madness.]

Don't lie. If you lie at the beginning, it'll lead to a bad relationship and they won't trust you. Some girls just want to know.

I wouldn't get offended if girls ask you if you have any diseases. They're trying to stay safe. You can't blame them for that.

[AutumnDae]

Its not so much that I want to permanently lie to them but maybe im just looking for a way to avoid those questions until they get to know me. Its always a first date thing generally which doesn't give a lot of time to know me. If I say its personal they might get weirded out too. like. Oh wow thats never good when a GUY says that!

If it's really a first date and she's asking that, you could avoid the questions by saying "I'd rather not discuss this on our first date, it's a bit too much right now." or something. But that doesn't mean lie about your sexual history.

[Fact]

If it's really a first date and she's asking that, you could avoid the questions by saying "I'd rather not discuss this on our first date, it's a bit too much right now." or something. But that doesn't mean lie about your sexual history.

The only problem with that though is it's like leading a person on. If they're that bothered to ask, why waste their time by lying to them? I'd rather know when I ask rather than being left waiting not knowing where I stand with a person.

[AutumnDae]

The only problem with that though is it's like leading a person on. If they're that bothered to ask, why waste their time by lying to them? I'd rather know when I ask rather than being left waiting not knowing where I stand with a person.

I suppose. However, I'm also not the type of person to ask that on a first date either, so who the hell am I giving advice in this situation? :P