Long distance is a female dog

[Hatsune Miku]

I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 11 months now. It is rewarding, but a total bitch at the same time. It's hard and it hurts. Lots of shit has happened in the past 11 months. Some lies on her part, we talked it all over. Everythings good now. But theres one thing that always bothers me.

It's when we don't talk. Shes usually busy. Weather it be making Kandi (bracelets) out with a friend or the family, or just doing whatever. When we don't call or text I get a sudden burst of extreme sadness. I know it's because I'm really dependent on her. I don't have any actual friends. I'm always home, doing things by myself, and because of it I'm really clingy to her and I always feel like I need her. Is this a bad thing? Shes said that I don't need to be so clingy, that she needs her space and I understand. She still wants me to be clingy though, she thinks its cute. Just wants me to tone it down abit. So I do. But I get extremely sad after awhile, and I dunno what to do. Suggestions?

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I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 11 months now. It is rewarding, but a total bitch at the same time. It's hard and it hurts. Lots of shit has happened in the past 11 months. Some lies on her part, we talked it all over. Everythings good now. But theres one thing that always bothers me.

It's when we don't talk. Shes usually busy. Weather it be making Kandi (bracelets) out with a friend or the family, or just doing whatever. When we don't call or text I get a sudden burst of extreme sadness. I know it's because I'm really dependent on her. I don't have any actual friends. I'm always home, doing things by myself, and because of it I'm really clingy to her and I always feel like I need her. Is this a bad thing? Shes said that I don't need to be so clingy, that she needs her space and I understand. She still wants me to be clingy though, she thinks its cute. Just wants me to tone it down abit. So I do. But I get extremely sad after awhile, and I dunno what to do. Suggestions?

I used to be similar with my boyfriend at that stage. We've been together 3 years now and it doesn't really get any less painful until you find something to do for yourself with other people. Once you do that, things seem to ease off a bit. I say with other people, because if you're on your own, chances are you'll still be thinking about her even if you're doing something completely different.

You need to find some 'actual friends' if you're going to preoccupy your brain, or get really good at preoccupying yourself. You said that your girlfriend is always out doing simple things that keep her away from you, why not fill in that time with some activities of your own?

About the clinginess, she's told you what she wants, so try your best to listen to her. If you don't, she'll just get annoyed, and that will make your pain when she's away doing other things even worse, then you'll be more clingy and she'll be more annoyed, etc. etc.

Bottom line is this: find something to do, and listen to her as you are doing. If you do that, you should find that things become easier eventually.