Stop being selfish!

[Nevermore]

So my mom keeps approaching me about my cutting. Honey, I hate you hurting yourself those scars will be there in the summer! She won't leave me alone even when I need my space away from everyone. Now this doesn't mean I'm going to cut. I told her this. I've explained my reasons, opened up completely to her, and of course she still doesn't understand. I don't expect her too. Now yes she cares, but the reason behind it isn't care or love, it's selfishness. She doesn't want to be embarrassed by me in the summer. It's how other's perceive her and her parenting. It's not about oh honey, when you hurt I hurt, but people are going to think I'm a horrible parent! So I"m going to be a leech to make sure you don't ruin my reputation. I'm sorry but this sincerely pisses me off. >.<

[Ambrosia]

Most parents do that. If you became a parent and your child did something like that one of their thoughts will be scared people are going to blame you. But, of course, most parents are able to hide those thoughts and go with the more genuine ones of "Sweety when you hurt I hurt." You have to see it from her point of view just as much as your own. She probably is scared for you, deep inside, but you have a point. She IS being selfish. Well, openly selfish.

Maybe you need to point it out to her. Explain that you like her actually paying attention to you but that it doesn't change the fact that you are indeed a teenager and do need your personal space. She probably doesn't understand that, as most parents feel the need to be overbaring even when it's NOT NEEDED. If she doesn't get the point find her a nice webpage that explains it in nice small words that parents can understand(lol) and print the darn thing out for her and throw it on her spot on the couch! Maybe then she'll get it.

Her selfishness probably isn't very apparent to her. She thinks she is helping, as do most. If it doesn't come across her mind then you might have to grin and bare it. :(