Self-Esteem

[Kaya]

Ok...so, I have a pretty low self-esteem. I don't want to be a negative nelly all the time. So..how do I make myself better? I mean...I don't want to do positive-affirmations everyday. I don't want to lie to myself about stuff, but I'm tired of constantly being upset over the same things over over again. I made a friend of mine upset with me...she eventually stopped talking to me because I "annoyed her". HELP :eek:

[insanity]

awh >.< I know exactly what you mean... Im going through the same thing at the moment, we can fix it together V.V there will be a way through it somehow, it just gonna be something that will take awhile... :S good luck hun.

[FullyAlive]

I know it's hard I have pretty low self esteem too, and I'm not very good at the positive affirmations either I have a hard time coming up with things to say :/ my teacher would like to refer me to a behaviour counseling service for teenagers with severely low self esteem, which apparently I have because I participate in self destructive behaviors. Is there anything like that you could do?
If you ever want to talk :) xxx

[Kaya]

Thanks guys...I don't understand why there isn't anything good about me. Except that I'm caring and compassionate...but sometimes that gets me into trouble.

[Nevermore]

I know you said you don't want to do the positive affirmations, but what if they worked? With every negative list two positives about yourself or any situation. I know it sounds stupid, I laughed when given the same advice. However I've known people personally it works for. It may be lying at first, but perhaps later on you'll believe it/think it. I know how your feeling. I think I"m the most repulsive thing on the planet. I hate every atom I'm made up of. However doing small things can make one feel less repulsive and more appealing to our own eye. Simply painting your nails, putting on make up, a perfum you barely use, or wearing your favorite, or new clothes. It'll make you feel better whne going out with friends. Sure it's not giong to take all of the anxiety away, but in the end it does help a bit.

See your caring and compassionate those are two things that are wonderful. Just realizing that is a step in the right direction. There are lots of good thigns about you.
I hate my hair and eyes with a passion. However when my bangs cooperate (which is rare) I feel much better then when they decide to do their own thing. Recognize your good and bad days. Say things like, "Wow! my hair looks great today! It cooperated." I know this may seem incredibly stupid, but for me I hate me like I said. I think I'm repuslive, however at least it's better then being extra repulsive when my hair doesn't cooperate, so take it like that. I hope I'm making the least bit of sense.
There are loads of things good about you. Kayla, you may not believe me when I say this, but you are buetiful, I wouldn't say it if I didn't htink it, I"m not one to lie. There are a lot things your good at I'm sure, wheater it's school or perhaps your really good at math, or guitar, or maybe even football. Find your talent and engulf yourself in it. You love to draw? Then draw! It will make you feel better about yourself, definately not at first. Rome wasn't built in one night, and neither will building your confidence.
If you recieve compliments from people don't put them down, even in your head. Think of it this way, they've got no other reason to compliment unless they mean it. If they wanted to hurt you or make fun of you, trust me, people will do it. People are usually more okay with hurting people then boosting one's confidence, so take those compliments! They truly mean it.
Pm or message me if you ever want to talk. <3333

[Kaya]

Thanks. I suppose I can try it.

[Nevermore]

Yay! :) <3

[Kaya]

:] I just don't wanna tell myself lies each day..

[FullyAlive]

They wouldn't be lies, just things that you don't see. Everybody else sees it and knows it's true. I know it's hard to accept but eventually you'll get there xxx

[Kaya]

How long is eventually? I'm tired of feeling like this...

[FullyAlive]

I'm sorry I don't know I'm still there myself :/ I'm hoping it's not too long though!

[Kaya]

I hope it works out for you,

[FullyAlive]

As I hope it works out for you :hug: xxxx

[Love.Hate]

I know how you feel all too well. I had to do the positive-afflirmations everyday (well i was supposed to) but its hard.
So when i told my counsellor i was struggling with it she made me write down everything i didnt like and take it step by step. Like first off focus on one of your negative points, everytime you see yourself in a mirror tell yourself how you like that one part of your body. Even just liking one thing kind of helps your confidence and self-esteem.
Good luck <3