Help Please! Advise needed!

[blackout123123]

Well, I have accepted for a while that I am bi. Now, I'm happy with myself, and completely satisfied. I have actually come out to 4 of my friends which have really accepted me and have not treated me differently, so that's great, :)

But now, after much thinking I have made the decision and I feel ready to come out to everyone I know. I know this is a big step, but I feel confident with myself and ready to take it.
I was wondering though, how I should approach it. Only one of my major friends know, and I wanted to tell the rest of my 'group' in person...However I have not gotten the opportunity to. After telling them, I plan on posting a status on Facebook coming out to the rest of my friends. But I don't know anymore, I'm one of those people who REALLY cares about what others think about me.

What do you guys think about this? I would greatly appreciate your advise or input. (sorry for such long post, and for any bad wording :whoops:)

[Quahog]

I think you should first of all, come out when you feel most comfortable. If you want to wait a few weeks, or even a few months, you can. But regardless you shouldn't be afraid of what your friends or family will think. I'm sure they will support you, and be there for you. If your friends stop talking to you, they weren't really good friends to begin with. I'm very proud of you for accepting yourself, and wanting to do this. I wish you good luck. :)

[chris_carter8]

only if you are comfortable with it. if they are truely your friends they wont treat you ANY different. good luck dude.

[blackout123123]

=] thanks! I know I shouldn't, but I've been this way for a long time... I DO feel comfortable and ready, its just the nerves and anxiety once I actually want to do it that holds me back. Then there is the issue of this guy I like, who's also bi, but I dont know if I should tell him. He has a different personality and I dont know and dont want to lose the great friendship I have with him by making it awkward, not telling him I like him though. It's just that his personality is "different" and I dont understand him at times...

[Sosaku]

OMG dude, congrats!!!(future, i forsee it lol.....>.>(awkward silence) uh....i'm an empath, oh wait, lol wrong psychic...i see the future!! lmao...ok, i think i'm on a "no sleep high...great....))

um, anyway, good luck I know when i came out to my mom, i was sooo scared i began crying, good thing we were in a car at night lol...but i had my close friends texting me, telling me good luck, of course, i'm at a school, where our GSA is kinda really highly respected and the people not in it, are the couple that are homophobic, or the ones whose parents forbid them to join lol, very open minded people, but we are a family at my school, seeing as we live together that is...anyway, good luck, since you are friends with this guy, it'll be easier, but just gradually let on that you are bi, then (not a real suggestion) get him drunk, and tell him you like him and see his reaction, since drunk people dont lie...lol, ignore that....my inner meanie is speaking there....but besides the drunk part, that's about right, just ask, u can even use hypotheticals, or say that some guy said he likes you, and would like to know how he would react....if its a good reaction, then wait about a day or so, and tell him you like him...

[blackout123123]

Thanks guys! I'm not that nervous, but I need to find the time to do it really... I really dont know about him. He has a different character and personality, which I dont understand at times, I just dont want to make him feel awkward (without telling him i like him) He's like one of the first people I have actually felt physically AND emotionally attracted to...I really like him and he doesnt realize it, he puts a smile on my face everyday we talk and are around each other, and I dont want to alter the relationship we have in a bad way...

[Sosaku]

I know how you feel, there is this guy I like. Well I had this dream, wierd but funny dream lol, and he was in it, he wasn't the ONLY person in it, but everyone acted as though he was, well i put it on facebook, because i was there, and i was beginning to forget it...there was ABSOLUTELY nothing sexual in the dream...but he called it creepy...I think he is straight, but then again, i think he is bi-sexual. I'm not sure, but he knows i like him, or so people say, because its SOOO obvious...but idk. He's been recently hurt, and i just want to be his friend because he needs one...and people read into stuff WAY too much...

Wait, idk how that will help, (think i needed to rant lol) :

Does he know you are bi? If not, that can get a conversation started, maybe he feels the same for you. ???

[sieg]

If you care about what people think, then only come out to the ones who will like you no matter what.
Invite all your friends to the movie and tell them after the movie. that will probly work

[blackout123123]

Does he know you are bi? If not, that can get a conversation started, maybe he feels the same for you. ???

Well, no, he doesn't know. He recently broke up with his boyfriend and has been depressed lately :( and I just feel like comforting him...
I actually think I will tell him soon, I want to, it could be possible he feels the same way, but I guess I will never know if dont try and tell him...

[itsthat0n3kid]

dude it will be fine. if they are your reall friends they will accept you for who you are. if they dont then maybe they arent your realy friends.
good luck and congrats on finding yourself.:]

[Sosaku]

thats great! I really hope it works out!! You can pm me and talk if you need, I check this site every day, because class gets boring lol...i WILL respond even if i have to do research to get your answer lol

[Wicked_Syn]

Like everyone else is saying, when you feel comfortable and up to it, that will be the best time.

I am bi also, but only two of my friends know. I told them at the end of 8th grade and all three of us go to different high schools now, so we don't talk. But when I told them, they really didn't seem to care. One friend slightly lost a bit of communication and the other one was still there. I am currently choosing not to come out to anyone else because for me, I really see no point in it. My bisexual status is basically like this:

I only seek to have a relationship (Romance/sexual) with women

BUT I am far more sexually attractive to men

So I really see no point in letting my friends and family know that I prefer sex with a guy.

The one thing you need to know is that there are going to be people who are going to treat you like shit because of this. To best cope with it, just prepare yourself. Read lots of coming out stories, but once you get through that point, things will perk up A LoT for you.

WHatever you choose, I wish you luck!

[smitty35]

No that wasn't a long post at all compared to others....Anyway, I think you should go for it. I think you have the qualities of coming out. And the way you are gonna do it is good to. It let's all who you want to know, well I guess know, lol.