I wanna have sex, Im 13

[Bandeed]

Hi, Im 13 im probally half way through puberty iv even started shaving month ago, anyways I really wanna have sex. I wanna get a girlfriend that i like sexually and emotionally and when were both ready i wanna have sex with her. is that wrong? Im friends with this girl and we are both sorta physically attracted to each other, and I might ask her to go out and maybe later into the relationship i wanna have sex with her. Is that bad? I know it seems like Im too young though Im quite mature, and Im definietly fairly developed.

[AWSMGUY]

I'd wait a few years. You can by physically ready, and want to do it, but emotionally, no matter how mature you are, you are not ready.

You could probably do it, and have an alright time, but afterward, it will cause so many problems etc. There are so many thing you would want to do at 13, but if you don't want to end up in a bad way, please wait. I can't stress that enough.

If you do though, make sure it's safe. But I strongly say to you, that you should wait.

[adam1995]

Hi, Im 13 im probally half way through puberty iv even started shaving month ago, anyways I really wanna have sex. I wanna get a girlfriend that i like sexually and emotionally and when were both ready i wanna have sex with her. is that wrong? Im friends with this girl and we are both sorta physically attracted to each other, and I might ask her to go out and maybe later into the relationship i wanna have sex with her. Is that bad? I know it seems like Im too young though Im quite mature, and Im definietly fairly developed.

It's not wrong to want to have sex at 13. It would be odd if you didn't. It is probably (in my opinion) wrong to actually have sex at 13. Despite what you think, you're not emotionally prepared to be sexually active at 13. Neither is your possible gf. So my advice is to get over it and jerk off as much as you want for the next few years. Cheers:)

[Bandeed]

My friend at school thats 15 has done so many stuff with his girlfriend. They have had sex alot and blowjob's and even 69er and stuff iv even caught him once getting a hj from his gf at school. Im abit jealous D: and he's only 2 years older than me

[John Marston]

Hi, Im 13 im probally half way through puberty iv even started shaving month ago, anyways I really wanna have sex. I wanna get a girlfriend that i like sexually and emotionally and when were both ready i wanna have sex with her. is that wrong? Im friends with this girl and we are both sorta physically attracted to each other, and I might ask her to go out and maybe later into the relationship i wanna have sex with her. Is that bad? I know it seems like Im too young though Im quite mature, and Im definietly fairly developed.

Wanting to have sex at 13 is not wrong in any way at all. It's very normal and common, in fact. You may think you're mature and developed enough to have sex at your age, it may even be true, but are you mentally developed enough to make that decision yet?

My friend at school thats 15 has done so many stuff with his girlfriend. They have had sex alot and blowjob's and even 69er and stuff iv even caught him once getting a hj from his gf at school. Im abit jealous D: and he's only 2 years older than me

But that 2 years can make all the difference. I know you may be jealous but maybe wait until your at least 16 to even try an have sex with a girl. What if you forget a condom, and you still have sex, or your condom breaks (even though that is highly unlikely it can still happen)? Are you ready to deal with a pregnancy, at your age, that the girl may not want to abort. Even at 16 theres still a risk that you're most definately not reading to take on any responsibility over a pregnancy. I know you may want to but perhaps you should just wait until you're old enough to make the right decision instead of 'rushing' things. Imo, you're too young to have sex.

[Bandeed]

Wanting to have sex at 13 is not wrong in any way at all. It's very normal and common, in fact. You may think you're mature and developed enough to have sex at your age, it may even be true, but are you mentally developed enough to make that decision yet?



But that 2 years can make all the difference. I know you may be jealous but maybe wait until your at least 16 to even try an have sex with a girl. What if you forget a condom, and you still have sex, or your condom breaks (even though that is highly unlikely it can still happen)? Are you ready to deal with a pregnancy, at your age, that the girl may not want to abort. Even at 16 theres still a risk that you're most definately not reading to take on any responsibility over a pregnancy. I know you may want to but perhaps you should just wait until you're old enough to make the right decision instead of 'rushing' things. Imo, you're too young to have sex.

I see, but I dunno I just want tooo so bad its weride. Is getting a blowjob and stuff also bad at my age?

[John Marston]

I see, but I dunno I just want tooo so bad its weride. Is getting a blowjob and stuff also bad at my age?

No, not at all. Sex is the thing you want to stay AWAY from at your current age. Anal sex, imo, still stay away from it. Bj's/hj's? Meh. Go for gold with them.

But don't get your heart set on this, because the girl, or whoever, may not want to participate.

[MariettaNate1995]

If you didn't want to have sex at 13 then I'd be more concerned. You're probably not ready for it emotionally though. I know I wasn't. It was physically great but emotionally a little too much.

Hold off for a few years, find a girl that you really do like, date her for a while (several months at least) before you have sex. Fool around with her, etc.

[MadbOi]

you just feel like everybody else does but you should wait a few years before you have sex

[kylek97]

nutin wrong with wanting 2 have sex... who doesnt?? guess its just a matter of if the girl wants 2 also and if u think ur ready

[Craig1995]

There's a legal age in most countries for a reason.
Although it's not wrong to want to it probably is to actually do it at 13

[Donkey]

Alright, I suggest you read this post OP because I wrote it for you and I actually have experience in the matter. I lost my virginity when I was 13 and I don't regret it, I learned a lot and it wasn't bad for me. The fact is that I knew what I was doing in terms of contraception and who I was having sex with. I believe firmly I was mature enough and, as a result, there were no negative results of the casual sex that I engaged in.

This isn't to say go ahead - you have to consider yourself, and your girlfriend, VERY carefully first. There is no reason not to have sex at age 13 (except law), however there is reason not to have sex if you are not mature enough and this does really go for most 13 year olds. In fact the mere fact that you are asking strangers on the Internet whether YOU should have sex shows you aren't really mature enough to make these decisions for yourself - perhaps you're not quite ready.

Here's an extract from the boys' puberty guide (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=88729):

Sexual urges are present in puberty and can be stronger than in any other point in life so it’s something that you should consider very carefully. If you have a partner and you have reached the stage where sexual activity might become a part of your relationship, there are many things you should consider before jumping in.

1. Are you emotionally ready? How will it affect your relationship with your partner? Are you educated on everything you need to know about sex? Are you ready not to consider yourself a virgin?

2. Are you physically ready? Can you literally have sex, or would doing so be uncomfortable for you?

3. Is it safe? Are you protected with condoms? Do you fully understand contraception? Are you using it correctly? Do you know what you’re doing enough to make sure you physically don’t damage yourself?

Yes, sex is pleasurable but just make sure that you’re not diving into something you’re not ready to do. Also remember there is a legal age of consent in most countries. It's very important to make sure you trust the person completely if you are under age. Make sure you both want to do it and are comfortable, especially if you are the older person.

More than anything, these are the points I suggest you consider most carefully and ones that I, in my experience, had to think about most:

- Are you completely aware on how to have sex, what the procedure is and what you can expect to happen? DON'T GET YOUR EDUCATION FROM PORNOGRAPHY. Porn is nothing like sex in real life and is not a good way to learn how it will be. In reality, sex is messy, gritty, sometimes painful and usually unexpected.

- Talk about it with your girlfriend. Is this the right thing for you both and will it help your relationship as much as it will help your sexual urges? Casual sex is great, but you still have to be ready for it and understand how a virgin's vagina is going to react to your penis for the first time - expect some blood and your girlfriend to be in a fair bit of discomfort.

- What forms of contraception are available to you? Do you know how to put a condom on properly? If you don't, my biggest tip is to leave a large (you'll know how big) space for both your penis to pass in and out of and for the semen to get to. If you don't put it on properly and do this wrong, it is very likely your condom will break and you will have to seek some form of emergency contraception. This is not fun - it's especially not fun 3 weeks in when your girlfriend could be pregnant and refused to take the pill, believe me.

I'm not going to lecture you about the law - you're not going to get in to trouble and I doubt you really care. Just make sure you're aware of the fact that unless you're in a country like Spain, you'll definitely be under the age of consent. The only case where this becomes an issue is when your girlfriend is significantly younger than you - if she is much younger you could get into serious trouble and possibly even charged for sexual assault, I'm not sure you'd consider dating a girl so young though.

These are the most important things. I was a mature 13 year old, and could manage things properly for yourself. If you're the same man, it's up to you, but the vast majority of the time I would suggest for most people to give it a while and make sure they know as much as possible with as much research as they can do.

The Channel 4 website has some great further information on sex and what you should expect as a first-timer. I suggest you have a good read through it with your girlfriend if you do plan to go ahead. Check it out here: http://sexperienceuk.channel4.com/

And after all this, just remember that sex is something to be cherished and ultimately enjoyed. Once you've passed that barrier of having sex, you'll worry a lot less. It's just making sure that you're able to pass that barrier successfully and that you know the risks with it to ensure that you do it all right - it's no fun if things go wrong.

[Bigdude]

Ok well I'm 13 and I really want to have sex with a chick! But 2 things, 1 I don't have a gf, 2 I'm not even close to getting one..but I watch porn sometimes and it just make me want to do it more. But I have my eye on this chick. So what the hell am I suppose to do:

[CaliKiDD]

your way to young its just the hormones your not physically ready and deff not mentally you say you want to now but after you will feel like crap jus wait

[Bigdude]

Well I know it's not horemones because trust me I know what they are and are like, it's just, I've been to alot of party's, gettin drunk chicks tops off kind of party's, and I've walked in on alot of stuff....but like just seein dosent just make me wonder but want to just do it!

And I'm like about half way thre u puberty.

Please use the Edit button instead of double posting.

[shartalot17]

nothing wrong with it.

[Vkid]

are u mature enough to handle the emotional feelings and or stress that comes with sex?

what if things are awkward after and u regret it...what if she does and it ruins the friendship?

what about if one of u gets a std, or other health complication?

can u support a baby by urself? do u wana be a father at age 13? are u willing to take that risk

even with condoms/birth control no method id 100% effective...

do u want to have you first time with somebody u kind of like at age 13? or do u wana wait a few years till u can have a real relationship

imo u shud stick to jacking off

[cboy91]

It'd be... really weird and not normal if you didn't want to have sex but, I know what you mean. I just had to tell myself that I was too young, and I had to rely on my ethics and such. Just jack off more and that want will lessen, get with a girl you like and wait... and you could fool around with her like hj's and bj's but I would seriously wait for sex, maybe the fooling around would lessen the want as well.

[smitty35]

No there is nothing wrong with WANTING TO HAVE SEX AT 13. But, personally, I think there is something wrong with actually having sex at 13. I suggest that you really wait. It's just those silly hormones that make you have this desire. I wouldn't go out and do something you would regret later in your life.

[chris_carter8]

dude, it all depends on you and your possible gf's emotional status. if you both want to and feel that you are ready, wait a couple years, then go at it. but please wear a condom..

[Bigdude]

Ight I get what u guys mean, but like gettin hj's n bj's isn't wrong for u to do as long as you don't get "into" it

[Davistheskier]

You sound sort of conceited, talkin urself up like that JK, but anyways there are only 2 possible directions that you can go into. you either have sex with her or dont have sex with her. If you think ur ready, Go for it

[hollisterboi95]

No there is nothing wrong with WANTING TO HAVE SEX AT 13. But, personally, I think there is something wrong with actually having sex at 13. I suggest that you really wait. It's just those silly hormones that make you have this desire. I wouldn't go out and do something you would regret later in your life.

Sorry ive been quoting a lot but I agree with these ppl. What if u do have sex and something goes wrong in which you'd have to be a 13 year old father... Yeah I dont think you'd want that so just wait a while, I went through the same thing and its just the hormones. The feeling will soon go away.

[Sean the Griffin]

I'm 13 and in no danger of having sex with a girl (have't even kissed one). Sometimes I think i would like to just to see what it feels like but even if I got the chance I'd be too scared in case something went wrong, like a condom breaking and she got pregnant and had a baby and I can't even think about that.

[itsthat0n3kid]

only if you are emotionally ready. but make sure she is too. have fun!

[absdude]

just wait

[hollister_]

I'm 17 and stull a virgin, I'm too scared of becoming a parent. look at the failures on 16 and pregnant. you want to end up like them?

[screammonster123]

no matter how far you are into puberty your only thirteen so you shouldnt have sex
its not bad to think about it...
its not wrong to think about it ethier...
and if she isnt comfortable with even a h/j or andything like that just masterbait to her or something of that nature

[xZach]

Im 14 and I have a gf that had sex once , and she wants to have sex but i dont know if i should

[Wicked_Syn]

Read some posts on here and maybe you'll find an answer your looking for.

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[User Deleted]

no, dont have sex, its ok to think about as has allready been said

[SylvioUltima]

Everyone had great responses. I just turned 14, and my horimones are RAGING. Your not ready, Trust them.

[CWteen]

yeah man just wait awhile . you dont want something to go wrong and end up with a kid at 13 do u? just see if you can get some handjobs or BJs

[jrl1996]

I'd wait a few years.

[VerizoniPhone]

Wait a while. There's no rush. Just be very Carfull

[MusicManic]

You should deffinitely wait a couple years. I know you think you are ready, but trust me, you aren't. Plus if your gf declines and breaks up with you she go and tell everybody. Make sure both of you are in a really serious realtionship before you start.

[richboy]

Dnt do it I ruined my life of havin sex wen I was 13 just wait

[donkeymkong]

DON'T DO IT!! sex before marriage only leads to problems. Are you planning on marrying this person? probably not. How would you like explaining to your future wife about having sex when you were 13? just don't do it. My advise is this: Keep your pants on!

[jason_smitty]

It's not wrong to want to have sex at 13. It would be odd if you didn't. It is probably (in my opinion) wrong to actually have sex at 13. Despite what you think, you're not emotionally prepared to be sexually active at 13. Neither is your possible gf. So my advice is to get over it and jerk off as much as you want for the next few years. Cheers:)

I agree with this. Wait until your really ready.

[lolman iron]

Patiense is the worst pain in the world. Everyone needs to be patient. :(

[anonymous.john]

You're always going to physically want to have sex. That's how you're programmed. And brother, if you can find a girl and you'll promise us all you'll be safe, go for it. Flap those wings and fly, m'boy.

P.S. Do make sure the girl is emotionally ready for that, you don't want to ruin someone's life.

[Rayquaza]

DONT HAVE SEX. Your not ready to become a father and also you dont wanna lose your virginity at this age.

[kai99]

Wait a few years