Help please? (pansexual vs. asexual)

[LilMissMia]

I am confused and im not sure if it is just a phase or the beginning of a long term thing. Okay well let me start off by saying, in the 2nd grade I decided (found out, whatever you want to say) that I was a lesbian. I stayed a lesbian until about two years ago when i realized that I was pansexual. I was attracted to every gender, esp. transgenders. Well if you know me, you would know how much of pervert i am ( sex is just a normal thing to me). So recently (about a month or two) I have been slowly losing my attraction. Like, I am just not attracted to really anything anymore, (guys, girls, etc.) Not even transgenders. Not even my girlfriend. I just have no sexual interest for any gender. That is the best I can explain it. And I am just wondering if anyone can relate? I just want to know if this is a phase, or a permanant thing? Agh, I'm so confused :/

[ackmedsgirl666]

mhmm im not rele sure what to say here hun
sounds like ur going through a rough patch... i know how u feel. i went through something very similar... just dont worry im sure you will eventually figure out who and what you are..
just dont rush urself honey :)

[Quahog]

No it's not a phase, many people identify as asexual. Whatever sexuality you have, you have to be comfortable with it, and accept it.

[Sebastian Michaelis]

hell i go though this every few months, gay to str8 to bi to asexual, it truly is mind boggling.

[Dunce]

This is same with me. I know somebody here basically just told you its not a phase and that you're asexual, that loads of people are. Actually, asexuality is not that common. Or, at least, people identify as asexual because they dont want to have sex, not because they arent into anyone.
It could well be a phase, I know some people(and have heard of loads of people) that have gone through dry patches. It's pretty normal. Then again, if you actually are asexual there's nothing to worry about, because its only natural :)
I'm going through the same thing. First I was straight, then I found out I liked girls, now I'm into neither. But, every so often I find someone I like, regardless of gender. To me, you sound like me. But give it time :)

[sieg]

maybe your depressed, if there are things going on that is depressing you that could be the cause of your loss of interest

[Syvelocin]

I've never gone through a period where I wasn't attracted to anyone. I've gone through and still am going through asexual periods, but not complete asexuality. That is, panromantic asexuality. I just don't like sex :P

I've always been attracted to people, back when I thought I was straight, when I thought I was bi, even now when it seems like I'm only attracted to girls. You just have to give it some time. I'm still cycling even though I'm 18. It'll take a while, though I'd say by the time you're 20-30 you should have a good picture on your sexuality, but even then people have difficulties (for example, Portia de Rossi, she was already married to a guy when she realized she was a lesbian).

[LilMissMia]

Thanks everyone, you are really helpful. I guess it could be any of these things mentioned. I'll just give it time, and I hope I figure it out. I just feel bad for my girlfriend :/

[smitty35]

I think it may be a little more than a phase since you said that it happened in 2nd grd.