Peoples Perceptions

[Love.Hate]

OMG.
I hate people..
This is the conversation i had tonight.. What do you guys make of it?


Girl: Fran, get over it bab. Its stuipd. Cutting means you want to kill yourself. That's why people do it. But its pathetic and immature.

me: Well i failed with killing myself, so i might as well if it makes me feel better then surely its not that bad im not stopping for good just yet, but i have cut down alot.

Girl: If you really wanted to die. You'd be dead or been hospitalised. Or trying other ways. Just get over it and get help.

me:I have a counsellor and a pshychologist. There isnt a fat lot more i can do, im trying but its hard. :/

Girl: It never makes people feel better. It makes it all worse, not that bad. You crazy, its the worse thing I'm the world.

me: No its the second worse, dying is the worst.

Girl: Its not hard at all fran, I was addicited to it, more than anyone and I stopped. Because immature kid noo it just pathetic and immature.

me: Well im sorry, but it makes me feel alive. And it does make me feel better, so i must be immature, i dont care.

Girl: Well you should care, its time to grow up fran! Your not a kid anymore x.

Me: i know.. :/

Girl:So grow up and stop.

Me: Im trying!.

Girl: Its easy, I stopped straight away.

Me: Well i have tried and tried. Im on day 17 without atm and its getting harder. Im really trying hard now.

Girl: You shouldn't need help xx.

Me: I dont want help, im being forced to have it.

Girl: Nobody needs help. Its easy to get off.

Me:I hope so.
Girl: It is.

By the end of it i was so annoyed,
i just told her what she wanted to hear so she would get off my case.
I mean really? She did it for about a month.. is that enough time to really get addicted.. Im not sure. But either way she has wound me right up. I mean right at the start she told me to get help, now nobody needs help? URGH!
She doesn't have the faintest idea does she.
Am i over reacting?

[FullyAlive]

No in no way are you over reacting! I would have snapped long before the end of that conversation!
You're right I highly doubt she was addicted but even if she was just because it was easy for her that doesn't give her the right to insult you.
If anything she's the immature one, she thinks she understands self harm but clearly she does not.
I know it's hard but try not to let it get to you, she's clearly misinformed, continue getting that help don't let her put you off, she knows nothing.
:hug:
Btw day 17 that's great Fran keep it up xxxx

[Love.Hate]

Im glad im not the only one that thinks that, Thankyou :)

And yeah im going to try to get to three weeks.
Hopefully :D

[Ambrosia]

That whole conversation even erked ME! I would have slapped her before she even made it to the middle of the conversation! I highly doubt she was addicted to it either. Anyone who can stand there and tell you that you are acting like an immature little kid who DOESN'T NEED HELP but oh, yeah, they were once addicted to it to! needs to be slapped. You're not overreating. She's just...I dunno. Confused.

[kidkizzet]

You're not overreacting. I was really pissed off after the first few lines. Like Lexi, I probably would have slapped her early on in the conversation. She obviously hasn't a clue about cutting and it's unlikely that she was addicted.

And well done on 17 days, you're doing great! :)

[Fiction]

She obviously was never addicted. Ignore her.

[Severus Snape]

From the perspective of a non cutter -my perspective- it can be difficult to understand the addiction. That leads people to be judgmental and come to the wrong conclusions. Of course, that's the wrong way to handle it. I just try to be supportive and try to understand the problems cutters face.

[RAWWR]

Tell me where she lives and I will come sort her out ;)
People like that bug me SO much. Just reading that pissed me off.
She obviously wasn't addicted and doesn't understand self harm at all, and if you ask me she isn't a real friend.

[HeroesAndCons]

she is a poser and she dont understand
thats how i pecept it

[Mike321]

You didnt over react at all
I very much doubt that she was addicted to it, and quitting is never easy.
She clearly doesnt understand how your feeling or what its like.
Dont let what she said get to you, ignore her, your better than that.

Your doing great though, keep going!

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou guys, it means alot.
Yeah today she was looking at me in school like I was scum or something.
I really don't understand people, either way I'm ignoring her :)

[MadManWithaBox]

Its clear she doesn't understand, not really. But at the same time, its a difficult thing to understand if you don't experience. Her way of putting that it though, is wrong, she's clearly being ignorant.

[Kaya]

Like you said, the best thing to do is ignore her. In know way did you overreact..and as long as you aren't doing it for attention ,then no, you aren't immature.

[Love.Hate]

Thankyou, this really wound me up at the time because i think she used to do it for attention.. idk. Im not going to judge, but everything you have all said is really useful and i do appreciate it :)