Obession with someone..

[CubbySimba]

So I once had this long distance relationship, with a guy. We met on a forum, and we started talking on Yahoo Messenger. When he said that he loved me, I was happy because I loved him back. So, we started dating. But there were a few problems with this; I was jealous whenever he would talk to another girl, I would over-react when he would go out and say he saw a hot chic somewhere. I know that guys will do that and be guys. But deep inside of me I thought that it wasn't right for him to be checking out other girls. I'm not sure if this is right in a relationship.. should the man only check out his girlfriend, or can he check out anyone else? >_< Anyways, I got very angry with him, but I loved him very much. We were so in love and I am still convinced that he is my soul mate even if we aren't dating anymore. We dated for at least almost a year...and when we broke up it was hell. :( I cried and cried, I couldn't stop crying... yet I continue to look at his FaceBook pictures and wish we were together again. It has been one year since we broke up. I taked to him about this over MSN, and neither of us can get over one another. Is this normal... or should I just move on? :what:

[Bluesman]

Normal to check out other girls... from a guys standpoint we can't really help it. However it's not normal to be saying that you're doing it to your girlfriend, that's just wrong. And if neither of you can get over eachother then why don't you just get back together?

I mean for me it's like I'll notice other girls but none of them make an impression... I see and I forget.

[Craig1995]

I think you should get back together with him. :)

[Contra]

From what you said, I think you really love each other, so you should get back together.
About the checking out other girls part, you shouldn't worry, boys, moreover, teenage boys, are like that, our hormones are raging and we can't help ourselves from looking at other girls, that shouldn't be a problem. In fact, I don't know why a lot of couples break up or have problems for men checking out other women, or the other way around, it's just checking out, like when you find a celebrity attractive, it's not betraying.

[purplebreez95]

hunny you werent over reacting and its not normal for a guy to be telling you that he was checking out other chicks, well i mean it is if he's a complete jerk. and i agree with bluesman who happens to be my bf.. that it is normal for guys to check out girls, they just cant help it there brain is set on auto pilot... and about the whole soal mate, break up crying thing, hun weve all been there and its probably just better that you move on so you dont have to deal with the pain there will be a guy out there that is closer in distance that will be able to mend your broken heart and make you happy again...