Bi curious or Bi sexual?

[xbrionyx]

I have a boyfriend and a secret girlfriend. She knows about my boyfriend and doesn't even mind. I'm not sure if I am bi sexual or bi curious but she just makes me so happy (:. She makes me want to get up in the morning and I've been thinking much more about her than my boyfriend recently. I think its because i've known her for years and we are so similar and have been through thick and thin. I haven't known my boyfriend very long (3 months) and I don't like my girlfriend in a sexual way... I just love her I think..but I am very sexual with my boyfriend and I do care about him a lot and things. I dunno anymore , I'm really confused but I'm not too bothered cause I haven't been this happy in ages, all because of her <3

[Zazu]

Firstly, the usual clichéd fact that it's perfectly normal to go through your teenage years and feel attracted to the same sex / to experience some general confusion about your sexuality. In both males and females, hormones start to kick in and work during puberty, which never have before, which can bring an absolute shit storm of emotions and feelings which you might not have thought you would experience. It could be that you're just doing what most of us did and starting to explore your sexuality (which doesn't necessarily have to involve the actual act of sex) and feeling that you're in love with with someone of the same sex or it could be that you are in fact gay / bi.

You should never feel any pressure to label yourself as anything, especially if you're still young. I'm guessing that you'll still have a fair few years to go through all of the experimentation in terms of same sex sex and feeling emotions for those of the same sex. Just sit back, relax and enjoy the ride (another horrible cliché). There's no knowing what your sexuality is until everything has completely settled down imho.

In terms of the actual feelings you're having for your girlfriend, have you considered that it may possibly be that you're both just incredibly close friends? You say that you've both known each other for a long time and have gone through a lot which points out to me that it could just be a very strong bond between both of you. I suppose this does kind of bring up the question of 'what is love' and 'between whom should it be present', but, either way, it sounds quite normal. Perfectly possible to love separate people in the same / different ways.

The only real niggle I can come up with with this is that you're not being totally honest with both of your partners. Whilst I support open relationships, I also think that people should be completely open and honest with the people they are in relationships with. It might be worth considering why you haven't told your bf about your gf and if you maybe should.

As I said, just try to relax and enjoy it as much as you can. Wait until you come out the other end of puberty and you should have a bit more of an idea where you stand.

[sieg]

maybe your girlfriend is just your bestest friend ever and your boyfriend is your boyfriend

[Apollo.]

You could be either Nate your girlfriend is just a really good friend. You could be homoerotic

[smitty35]

Im thinking you are bi.