first time having sex

[mike590]

I'm 13 and me and my girl friend want to have sex and we tryed and she says it hurts can anyone help me

[Donkey]

It's bound to hurt the first time for a girl, that's the way it is. She'll bleed a little, too. You really need to research this more thoroughly, ensure your maturity and your decision is the right one before you go into sex at your age. Like, you seriously need to understand what you're doing - not only how to do it, and the risks, but also contraceptives. Do you know how to use condoms? They're harder to put on for your first time than you may imagine, and you need to do it right.

I suggest you see a family planning clinic and get some condoms for free. Then, research it on the Internet lots (have a look at the Channel 4 website for teen sex stuff, there's a lot of great information). Discuss it thoroughly with your girlfriend so you both understand what you're doing and when you feel completely ready, then you make the decision whether to go ahead or not. There is also the question of legality, you must be 16 to have sex in the UK but you won't be prosecuted for it unless your girlfriend is significantly younger than yourself.

Don't feel pressured - sex isn't "cool", it's merely a part of adult human life that we take enjoyment from. Having sex won't make you look better, or feel better. Sure, it's fun, but only when you know what you're doing and take the necessary precautions to ensure that you are not only safe but get the best experience possible out of it with the best possible person.

[nick]

It will hurt if her hymen is intact, penetration by an erect penis would break the hymen and cause a little bleeding and soreness. Its also necessary for her to be properly wet and lubricated as a result of taking your time over the foreplay. If she is too young this may not work properly in the same way as a young boy might have trouble getting an erection. If you attempt to enter her before she is ready its very inconsiderate and would be uncomfortable for her.

Beyond that we are not allowed to discuss techniques. As Jon says you are still very young, make sure that you are both ready for this step and understand what you are doing.

[smitty35]

There is always SOME pain for a girl the first time, accompanied with some blood, why do you think they call it: "pop the cherry"? And personally I think you are way to young to be having sex with a girl. If you get caught you will get in a lot of trouble with your parents, but not so much with the law even though it is illegal.

[mike590]

Thank you

[FBNIL97]

your too young for one thing, and because its her first time its obviously gonna hurt

[cboy91]

It hurts the first time if she's a virgin, or if she hasn't broken her hymen. She'll bleed and it'll be sore. You definintly need to know what you're doing before you do it, if you got he pregnant it could be bad. Get condoms and learn how to use them properly, and make sure you talk about it before you do it again.

[greg95]

I'm 13 and me and my girl friend want to have sex and we tryed and she says it hurts can anyone help me

try use lube, it slides better, and less rubbing ;)

the thing is if she still hurts, dont insist ;)

[Vkid]

it is crazy to have sex at ur age! u both cannot possibly be ready to handle what comes with it

[love is louder]

try use lube, it slides better, and less rubbing ;)

the thing is if she still hurts, dont insist ;)

i am 19 and it still hurts me! and almost every time
but lube really helps as long as your gentle

[tpzy94]

yeah theres an easy way to fix this..Dont have sex! your 13 you have more than enough time seriously

[high-school108]

yea like what every body else said i will hurt the first few times but after that it will feel good for the girl

[Bimmerhead]

Geez I thought I was young at 14! Let me give you some advice from someone who was also an early bloomer in this regard. Wait! For me after I had sex I wanted it more. So I was all over banging any girl I could. wait 3-4 years when you mature a little bit. u may think your ready but your not. In the long run this could affect relationships.

[hollisterboi95]

Same age I lost my virginity, my gf said she hurt too I think it's because they're not really used to it and since it's their first time they are probably really tight and not ready for something like this quite yet.

[jonjon77777]

u popped her cherry, hurts but gets great

[BigG]

I'm 13 and me and my girl friend want to have sex and we tryed and she says it hurts can anyone help me Yes it can hurt the first time because the female sex organ isn't used to foreign objects such as the penis.

-BigG

[Orpheus]

Be sure to do a lot of foreplay first to get her wet an ready. After she does it a couple of times she'll want it as much as you do. but one thing, if you have a really big cock this might not work and you may just have to wait. In that case, you should try to go with an older girl.

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[Wicked_Syn]

your too young for one thing, and because its her first time its obviously gonna hurt

I agree. You seem to not care at all. You seem to only want it just so you can brag about it....No not cool..

[iamniokekun]

Solution: Don't have sex. You're 13, man. With all due respect, you're fresh off the playground... so-to-speak. Of course it's not my place to tell you what you can and can not do, but I would advise against it.

And the reason it hurts is because she's still a young girl, her body is still developing, yeah sex is going to hurt the first time regardless, but she is wayy to young to be having sex - and it's different for girls than for guys. Emotionally and physically.