Rant about father

[brandon.t]

My father left when I was about 5 so I never really had one growing up, when I was about 12 I kind of wondered what it would be like to actually have one (because I could not remember my father). Mom always described him as a no good drunk that never payed child support so I guess she kind of made my hate him. My mom got a boyfriend a while ago and sure he is nice but it feels like something is missing.......I guess it's not the same as having an actual dad....I went to see my dad a while ago and he was everything mom described....he was actually a drunken loser....and I guess that hate for him and seeing his drunken ass made me promise myself that when i have a child I'm gonna be a he'll of a better father then he ever was (and that a promise I'm gonna keep)

[Glitter]

Brandon,

I can totally relate to where you are coming from. My dad left when I was four, and passed when I was 11. I am 18 now and still find it difficult. I don't know what it's like to have a dad. However, I work with what I have. I surround myself with people who do care about me, and do love me. I think that would be helpful for you as well. No one is going to fill the void of your father. No boyfriend will. I think it's great you are making a promise to do better for your kids. I think that it takes pain, and grief to learn valuable lessons for the future. You learn things based on your own, and others mistakes. Hang in there, it gets easier. <3

Hope this helped!

[Quahog]

I'm very proud of you for sharing that with us. It must have been real hard for you to grow up without a father figure. You had all these what if/who if/why does, memories in your head. You only went by what your mother described him as. But you still wanted to meet your father. When you finally got to meet him, all of the things your mother had mentioned, turned out to be true. I just want to say I'm sorry that you had to go trough that, In some ways I can relate.

I really appreciate that when you finally have children one day, you will never be like your father. You are not going to be an alcoholic father, you are going to love your children, and be there for them. Things are going to get better for you. It's up to you as to whether or not you want to talk to your father, but it's going to be fine. In some ways, your mother made the right decision keeping you away from him, he probably would have not been a good influence, but I am so proud that you don't want to be that type of father. Thank you for sharing that.