Dumped and not coping :(

[murniv90]

I was dating a girl for 4 months. I loved her very much and she claimed to love me too. This past sunday certain things came to light that led us to break up.

She claimed that she was telling me to do certain things, such as my application for college and talking to certain people that were annoying me and a bunch of other things. Aparently I would just gloss over these things and not do what she'd suggested. This bothered her.

I have struggeled very badly with depression over the last year and this has been a blow to me as i have been happy for the past 5 - 6 months or so.

Im all over the place at the moment and know that im not alone. Even though its been only 3 days I do feel better. Im being very smart and not talking to her but I want to, even though this is a bad idea.

I feel right now like i will never get anyone else. I dont want her back but I want someone. I dont want anyone right now but i'd like to know that it could happen again for me.

Sorry to make you read whats basically me just bitching about being sad. But Im just not coping very well and dont feel like I can show how badly this has effected me to anyone I know.

[Paladino]

Youll get over her, it will take time but you will.

[Ambrosia]

Youll get over her, it will take time but you will.

As horribly straight forward as that is, it's true.

You're still really young. And you will get over it at some point. Young love is just that: Young. Love. It comes and it goes and it changes over time. It's young, just like you are. And your mind is still adjusting. One day you'll wake up and realize you were freaking out over nothing! It wasn't that big of a deal. Your mind just processed it that way.

Break ups are some of the hardest reoccuring thing in everyones lives. You think you found someone amazing and BAM it just...hits you. Like a truck. And she obviously wasn't that amazing person if she got mad because you have your own mind. Hello? Remember? You can think for yourself? If you don't want to then you don't have to! That's her own problem and GOOD FOR YOU for not letting her force you!

It's okay. (:

[murniv90]

Heres a big question i need help with though. Ive not talked to her at all since it happened. And ive made it impossible for her to be able to. So it has to be up to me to get back in touch. She made a bg deal about remaining friends but i said no, not at the start anyway cause I couldnt.

But what im wondering now is whats the harm in talking to her. I feel comfortable enough talking to her without it being a romantic thing but i worry its too soon and the only reason i want to talk to her right now i cause i miss her and what we had :(.

Should i get back in touch, bear in mind its only been 3 days

[KaelKaos]

You need to have the line between friend and girlfriend clearly established in your head before you go and talk to her. You need to realize that you're getting back in touch with her to salvage the friendship, not the relationship. If you go back to her trying to get what you had before, all you'll end up with is unnecessary drama. So all in all, I think you should get back in touch, if you are ready to except that you two are just friends now.

[Iceman]

I loved her very much

Now how old are you?

[MariettaNate1995]

It hurts really bad at first but it will dull over time. Experiences are what makes us who we are. Make the most of it, learn from it, grow from it.

[murniv90]

Now how old are you?

Im 20.

[Eagle63]

I'm 13. I just had a breakup too. It was last Monday. Now im happy-go-lucky and a free man!! Always gotta look on the positive side. If ur still not coping well, go out and have a good time with your friends.

[Ambrosia]

Im 20.

My point exactly.

You're twenty. And you have so much love ahead of you it isn't even funny. Embrace it is a chance to find new things!

[Iceman]

My point exactly.

You're twenty. And you have so much love ahead of you it isn't even funny. Embrace it is a chance to find new things!

And the fact if your 20 your not supposed to be on VT.

[AWSMGUY]

The more you push yourself to move on, the quicker you will stop feeling the pain.
It can be really tough buddy, but it will take time, but soon, you will be fine.

[MyRedHeadWorld]

It gunna take time and as much as you think theres no one else, theres always more then one person out there for everyone :) Just stick to single for a while and stay close to those you trust like your friends & Family, maybe stay away from her for a while and then over time you'll have a new gf, she'll be a good mate of yours and you'll be happy
:) Hope I helped :S x

[love music]

sometimes its not easy, but as humans we date quite alot. your young. you will definately date again, and will probably have a better relationship. just think of it in the bigger spectrum. youve only lived about 1/4 of your life. what about the other 3/4?