I really need some help..

[Heisen8erg]

Hey guys. Ive been having a huge problem lately. You see, me and my girlfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago and i still have feelings for her, and i found out she liked my "Best Friend". Now i have no problem with this, and my friend and i were talking and i told him she liked him, and that i still liked her. He said okay and he promised me nothing would happen between them, and i didnt believe him, so i questioned him about it. Once i did he got so mad hes like, "WHY DONT YOU BELIEVE ME?! WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?!" So i just said okay i believe you and that was settled. So one day, they went to the movies together, and when they got back i found out they were dating, so i called him to ask about it. Every time i talk to him i try to tell him that he lied to me and it made me upset, but all he says is "Oh well".

Now the thing that really pisses me off about this is that he knew i still had feelings for her, and he went ahead and dated her, and plus when i said i thought they would go out, he got so defensive, and then he goes and turns his back on me. Idk what to do, like i said every time to try to talk to him about it just says "Oh well" or "Deal with it". I know he doesnt sound like much of a friend and your probably saying i should just say fuck him but he has been my best friend for over 6 years, and i dont wanna loose that. I just wanna know what kind of friend lies to his friend and then gets so mad when he questions him about something he knew he was going to do..

What should i do..?

[sam_rock1516]

well i may not be an expert at this whole dating with another guys best friend thing but all i can say is to leave it at that... cause the way your describing it he obviously is not a good friend anymore and he won't do anything to make you feel better... so just move on there are plently of fish in the ocean kid i am sure you will find the right one... and maybe one day your best friend will wise up and figure out how much of a dick he has been to you and you might get her back but for right now i would let it rest for awhile.............. well tht pretty much sums it up just relax for a while be paticent you will get the girl. love will take its toll and find you again. and about your best friend just wait he will soon relise one day that he should have been nice to you in this sort of situation. just try to keep his friendship and ,you know, say good things cause what goes around comes around just be as nice as you can be. and also seek out for a new gf or girl tht will be your friend... there are a lot of people out there.... i understand you don't want to loose a good friend a gf but sometimes you just need to let go and seek for a better one. :) i am here if you need anymore tips or advice ;) peace and love to all

[TravM]

Hey guys. Ive been having a huge problem lately. You see, me and my girlfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago and i still have feelings for her, and i found out she liked my "Best Friend". Now i have no problem with this, and my friend and i were talking and i told him she liked him, and that i still liked her. He said okay and he promised me nothing would happen between them, and i didnt believe him, so i questioned him about it. Once i did he got so mad hes like, "WHY DONT YOU BELIEVE ME?! WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?!" So i just said okay i believe you and that was settled. So one day, they went to the movies together, and when they got back i found out they were dating, so i called him to ask about it. Every time i talk to him i try to tell him that he lied to me and it made me upset, but all he says is "Oh well".

Now the thing that really pisses me off about this is that he knew i still had feelings for her, and he went ahead and dated her, and plus when i said i thought they would go out, he got so defensive, and then he goes and turns his back on me. Idk what to do, like i said every time to try to talk to him about it just says "Oh well" or "Deal with it". I know he doesnt sound like much of a friend and your probably saying i should just say fuck him but he has been my best friend for over 6 years, and i dont wanna loose that. I just wanna know what kind of friend lies to his friend and then gets so mad when he questions him about something he knew he was going to do..

What should i do..?

You say that you don't want to lose a friend of 6 years. Think about it like this. Did you like the girl enough that it would be best to drop everything with him if she dated him? I can get your understanding of not wanting to lose a friend, so you have to think about how important both of them are to you. On the other hand, I just don't see how why someone you would call a "good friend" does something like that once you have confronted and told him that you liked her. That just doesn't seem like a good person to be friends with if they're going to disregard you like that after promising to do the opposite. If losing the girl to him hurts you bad enough, maybe just don't hang around him too often. If you think you could get over the girl and still be friends with him later on, give it some time. If not, then I can't see why someone you call a friend would be that way and why you'd take it. I can't see myself personally associating with people that would do something like that.

[maseavs]

Yeah, I guess it comes down to how much more you really want to put into the friendship...and how many more times you want to try to bring this up. On the other hand, I don't know if you'd be able to just ignore all that's happen and forget that part of your history. Maybe decide for yourself what else you're willing to do and follow through with it. Maybe see how much he is willing to put towards your friendship or if it's just 1 sided...just my 2 censt worth. Good luck to ya...

[Fact]

Hey guys. Ive been having a huge problem lately. You see, me and my girlfriend broke up about 2 weeks ago and i still have feelings for her, and i found out she liked my "Best Friend". Now i have no problem with this, and my friend and i were talking and i told him she liked him, and that i still liked her. He said okay and he promised me nothing would happen between them, and i didnt believe him, so i questioned him about it. Once i did he got so mad hes like, "WHY DONT YOU BELIEVE ME?! WHAT KIND OF A FRIEND ARE YOU?!" So i just said okay i believe you and that was settled. So one day, they went to the movies together, and when they got back i found out they were dating, so i called him to ask about it. Every time i talk to him i try to tell him that he lied to me and it made me upset, but all he says is "Oh well".

Now the thing that really pisses me off about this is that he knew i still had feelings for her, and he went ahead and dated her, and plus when i said i thought they would go out, he got so defensive, and then he goes and turns his back on me. Idk what to do, like i said every time to try to talk to him about it just says "Oh well" or "Deal with it". I know he doesnt sound like much of a friend and your probably saying i should just say fuck him but he has been my best friend for over 6 years, and i dont wanna loose that. I just wanna know what kind of friend lies to his friend and then gets so mad when he questions him about something he knew he was going to do..

What should i do..?

Your prediction is correct. 6 years is a long time - people's loyalties and principles change as they age, so it's likely that your friend doesn't value you as much as you value him if he'll get bitchy over some girl he wants to date. Perhaps giving him some space and not bothering him about it any more will make him realise what he has done. Alternatively, it could drive a rift between the pair of you, but that just confirms that his mindset has changed and he's no longer a friend to you.

A friend wouldn't take advantage of your situation as he did, so I'd think carefully about what to do with him in the future.