Bothered by kissing.

[Magenta]

So I've been thinking about this a lot lately. I'm really bothered by kissing. I met my boyfriend playing spin the bottle at a party (haha, I know) and he was my first kiss. Luckily, he has nice kisses. But it was just that once. I just don't see the appeal in it and honestly, I'm always really nervous he is going to try to kiss me. I don't like people kissing me. Not family, anyone. I hate it when my dad tells my to give my grandpa a kiss on the cheek goodbye. I hate it when my parents kiss me on the head.

I just don't want to kiss him. I don't know how to tell him. I don't mind physical closeness. I like hugging him and such but kissing? Blech. What do I do?

I'm also a huge hand sanitizer nut, hate touch dishes that other people have used, etc. I think that may be why it bothers me, putting my mouth anywhere near someone else.

He just knows a lot about my mental health and how there's a lot of stuff that prevents me from getting close to people and I don't want him to be put off by this.

[nick]

I think its something that we all feel nervous and embarassed about at first but that we just need to learn to relax and to get used to it. Kissing someone you love is not at all like when you are expected to kiss an elderly relative which is just revolting.

[Magenta]

I've kissed my boyfriend a couple times though. I just have an issue with it. >_< I find it embarrassing because it's one of those issues that even thinking about it causes me to shudder.

[nick]

Are you receiving any counselling for the hand sanitising, that could be OCD.

I dont want to seem mean, but I think you will struggle to hold down a relationship with anyone if you are unable to kiss. Not necessarily on a first date or anything, but it would be very hard for someone that loves you to be unable to kiss.

[Magenta]

No, it's not mean at all. That's what I'm worried about. I was thinking I might be overreacting but I'm glad to hear it from someone else.

Also, I'm not OCD about it, it's just a really strong aversion to anything that involves sharing of saliva or germs and gah. >_<

[kevinjk]

dont be bothered, be comfortable

[scuba steve]

You could just be a "Germaphobe" but with the kissing thing, it just sounds bizarre, this is more than likely one of those things your just going to have to get over in order to have a somewhat typical relationship lets say. So maybe just try doing it more often? I'm honestly suprised you wouldn't like it.

[Magenta]

Should I try to talk to my boyfriend though?

[Fact]

No, it's not mean at all. That's what I'm worried about. I was thinking I might be overreacting but I'm glad to hear it from someone else.

Also, I'm not OCD about it, it's just a really strong aversion to anything that involves sharing of saliva or germs and gah. >_<

That to me sounds like a typical OCD characteristic. Naturally I'm not a medical professional or anything so don't take my word for it, but it just sounds like a mental issue you have.

As Steve said, perhaps you should try kissing more often. That way you'll get more used to it and maybe it'll help your fears and doubts about it.

[Tspan21]

Why are you so bothered by kissing?

[Magenta]

It's just... I don't mind touching anyone or being touched but not when the mouth is involved. It just bothers me so much. It makes me uncomfortable and I don't enjoy it.

[Tspan21]

It doesn't seem weird or anything, a lot of people are this way.

I think with you it is about boundries

[Magenta]

I'm not sure. I guess it will work itself out.

Also, hit the edit button rather than double posting. :)

[KylieEatWorld]

I was the same way. Up until around the time I turned 14 I thought the idea of kissing was revolting and that anyone who did was that just gross. But then I began to grow an interest in boys emotionally and the social pressures that told me I had to get a boyfriend and kiss him set in I got my first kiss out of the way and it wasn't really all that bad. I still think I should've waited for someone more special to come along. But trust me when the right person comes along you'll kiss somebody special and it won't be gross to you anymore.