Attention seeking

[drac]

Hi,

As some as you guys here on VT know, I am gay. I came out to a few friends - now fiends - on Friday. They think I am attention seeking. I know I am gay and I tried explaining this to them. Two were understanding but the rest were just saying "You faggot" and "Hahahaha! You're gay!" I didn't mind that as I was expecting some homophobia as seen I go to an all boys school. Some just take it over the line though. Some even thought I was attention seeking. That just made me distraught. Before I came out to my best friends, I used to self harm and had a few suicide attempts but VT wasn't needed (sorry :whoops:). But after that, I got better. Now, I just think I am going to slip back into it. Thanks for nothing fiends. I am still friends with the 2 understanding ones but the others I have instantly blocked out of my life.

Thanks for reading VT!!! :D

[Quahog]

Well, you just have to ignore those types of people. You can't change what sexuality you have. You can't change who you are. You're not going to be someone who you are not. I just hope that you just stay away from those types of people, and as long as you understand that you made the right choice, I guess everything is going to be alright for you. I really don't want you to hurt yourself over things like that. Just keep in touch with your friends, and remind yourself that you can't help being you.

[Fourth Dimension]

Fuck the haters

[nick]

Give it some more time for people to adjust. It may be that the initial reaction of some of your friends will give way to better tolerance and understanding once they get used to the idea.

[Fruit_Tart.]

I agree with Vibrant. You're who you are and there's nothing you can do to change that. If somebody has a problem with that jus think, maybe say, "fuck you I don't need your opinion." As time goes you'll find a lot of people that won't like you and it'll be best to avoid them. Friends, true friends, will also come. Don't think about harming because it won't solve anything. Good luck with everything. :)

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[drac]

Thanks all of you. I've had a chat with one or two of them that I tried to block out of my life, One is starting to understand but the other isn't getting through his head. I am not looking forward to my social ostracization when I go back to school after my half-term.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

Hmm there isn't much you can do, just live life, it gets better.

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[Infidelitas]

Ive always said that if your friends dont like you for who you are, they are'nt true friends. As hard as it may be, you have to let go of them and start living the rest of your life as a gay man. I dont know whether you know it, but I came out about six weeks ago, and its been so much easier since then.
Im sorry that your friends have taken this so hard, but the have to take the good from the bad. We can both now look forward to meeting the right guy. There will be people that will accept you for who you are, but there will also be people who will make your life a living hell. You'll also find some people asking why you dont like girls (ive had a few of those)
I do wish you the best of luck, and remember "Don't worry, be happy". If you ever need to talk about it, please feel free to pm me :)

[drac]

Thank you to all whom have posted. I just fear for next week when I go back to school. I'm not looking forward to my "outcast" reputation. Irish people (in general - no offense), are not very understanding of GLBTQ subjects. Some people in my school have actually said, "If my child turned out to be gay, I'd kill it." Bigoted people.

[tyler007]

Be strong and keep your head up...

[thatweirdguy]

drac i know how you feel irish people are more against the glbt community than other nationalites which made coming out hard. still it gets better so dont worry about going back

[Sosaku]

I don't really know about being judged and hated, not yet anyway, because at my school, we live on campus(high school) always with each other, but its for smart people. They think about everything, some are conservative/homophobic, but they aren't aggressive, they just dont like the gay jokes/gay acting mainly. Some of the homophobic people are friends of mine, but they accept me as a person, NOT a gay person. they are proud of me that i AM who i AM. They feel bad when i'm having a bad day. They know me, not about me. They are real friends, you need people like this, people that will know YOU, not ABOUT you. (If you need to talk, just e-mail/message me)