foster parents

[Izzybella]

warning a bit of a rant

my foster parents have some of the stupidest rules. its not all their fault some of the rules aren't made up by them but they are the ones that have to enforce them so I still get pissed at them for it. Like its already hard enough to move to a new town, move in with complete strangers, go to a new school, and try to make new friends and it feels like no matter what I do they are against me.

How i am suppose to make new friends?
Friends are not allowed over at the house because of "confidentiality of the other kids in the home" but I can't go over to friends house unless everyone who lives there has a background check done by my caseworker and then still I might not be allowed over.

I get its for safety and all that bs but that doesn't mean it still doesnt piss me off. I cant even go anywhere and do anything. i can't go to school events or dances or any of the bs without putting in a "request for funds" to my case worker at least three months in advance and then its just going to get denied anyway.

sometimes it just makes me want to scream I mean its not my damn fault I am in foster care yet I am the one that has to deal with all this bs and guess what my parents are doing? w/e the fuck they want! my bio mom just keeps having more kids and doing w/e she wants. she gets food stamps and all that bs and I cant even get money to go homecoming!!

/rant

[Quahog]

Well, at least with your foster parents, you are in a better environment. Have you ever talked to them, and your case worker, so that there is agreements as to things you can do. I'm sure that if you behave at school, and at home, they will allow you to have more freedom. Being able to go to dances, being able to hang out with your friends. But I don't your case details, and it's up to you as to whether or not you want to explain them, but foster parents, are just like being with your birth parents, I'm sure if you compromise with them, things will work out. Even if they do say no, and say you're not allowed, they have the right to say that. They only want to make sure nothing bad happens to you, so they have to make those kinds of choices.

But just come up with agreements with them, talk to them. Don't fight with them, and I'm sure things can go better for you.

[Izzybella]

yeah I know. I do really good I mean I dont get into trouble besides I dont always do my chores or clean my room but I get all A's and like a couple of B's. Its not because of my behavior or anything its cause there isnt even money to let me go to dances cause of budget cuts or w/e and I know a lot of the rules are for my own safety I totally get that but that doesnt mean i cant get mad about it.

I tried to talk to them and explain to them that I just want to feel a little normal and be able to do things other kids my age do I even had my therapist help me tell my side but they just said they dont make the rules.

dont get me wrong I have had some pretty messed up home where the parents didnt care at all and I am greatful that i have ones that actually care about me but sometimes i just get frustrated with all the rules when i do everything I can to stay out of trouble i could just go and break the rules and i dont cause i understand why there are in place it still just gets me mad cause i feel like i am being punished for something i didnt even do wrong