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[Matt Matoran]

So I have this really close guy friend who I've been really attracted to for the last year. He sits on me a lot and the last time he did I got a huge boner because I was really excited and it poked up against his ass and he didn't move. I always hug him from the back and press up against his back and ass whenever I do.

Last week we were talking and he asked me what I would do if he "turned out to be gay" and I basically said that I would feel a lot more comfortable around him (he doesn't know that I am attracted him or that I might be gay since I've had two girl friends in the past). This week, he asked out a girl who he said wasn't that attractive two weeks ago. When I found out, my heart actually just sank and I didn't know what to do when he told me.

I still think he might be gay and that he asked out this girl to probably see if I liked him or not... What do you guys think I should do? I really really like him and he's so attractive to me!

[Contra]

You should talk to him about his and your feelings. That way you'll know if he is gay or not and you can do something about it. Even if he's not it doesn't matter, because you sound more curious than gay, and that is just a crush, most likely. Don't sweat it!

Good luck :)

[Lifeguard18]

So I have this really close guy friend who I've been really attracted to for the last year. He sits on me a lot and the last time he did I got a huge boner because I was really excited and it poked up against his ass and he didn't move. I always hug him from the back and press up against his back and ass whenever I do.

Last week we were talking and he asked me what I would do if he "turned out to be gay" and I basically said that I would feel a lot more comfortable around him (he doesn't know that I am attracted him or that I might be gay since I've had two girl friends in the past). This week, he asked out a girl who he said wasn't that attractive two weeks ago. When I found out, my heart actually just sank and I didn't know what to do when he told me.

I still think he might be gay and that he asked out this girl to probably see if I liked him or not... What do you guys think I should do? I really really like him and he's so attractive to me!

If you're really close to him, then I would tell him about your esexuality and see what his reactions are. He also could be using her as a cover up. But don't just assume that.

I've been in these kinds of situations too and they are not fun. He said what would you do if I turned out to be gay, that to me sounds like a huge huge hint saying something about his sexuality.

Maybe you two should sit down one time and talk a little bit about it and see what happens.

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[sieg]

he may be trying to cris angel mind-rape you, you should mind rape him right back by getting a fake gf. thats what i would do.

[Matt Matoran]

Yea, I think talking to him about it might be a good idea. I think he might be testing to see if I am jealous to see if I like him or not...

he may be trying to cris angel mind-rape you, you should mind rape him right back by getting a fake gf. thats what i would do.

Haha. Dude, yea! The thing is that I have been attracted to girls until like right now and I have had two girl friends in the past. My friend never asked me about them, come to think of it... He always tried to avoid it...

[Quahog]

If he is gay or not, why is he messing with your mind like that? He is doing too many mind tricks. I would talk to him about it, regardless of what his sexuality is, because if you are to be together with him, he can't be doing all of this foolishness. There is trust involved, right now, he isn't being very trustworthy with you. I wish you luck, and hopefully by talking to him, you can get to the bottom of it.

[Fushigi]

just tell what u feel ... even if he will ignore u at least u told him what u really feel ... and i know u wont regret it because at least ur not hiding something in urself.. just tell him before its late just be ready on what possible things will happen there is always a risk on everything one of the best thing we could do in life is at least we try... if he will resist u just deal with it.. thats life sometimes we succeed .. sometimes not ... and i hope he will like u as well coz the best thing in the world is to be loved by the person u love the most.. :)

[Donkey]

Let's be honest here: there are no two ways about this, either you tell him you're gay or you ain't getting any. If you're not willing to come out to him, there's nothing you can do really. All I'm saying is that it sounds like he might be gay, well very much like that, and that he suspects you are too. I don't think that there'd be an issue if you told him you were gay as he seemed pretty casual in asking you what you'd do if he was. I'd just come out to him and then see where it takes you from there - not a lot can go wrong really, and you could gain a lot from it.

You're just going to have to build up the courage to ask him. Good luck, bud.

[Matt Matoran]

Hey, thanks for all the replies everyone! Yea, I think I am going to tell him today when he comes over for skiing tonight. I really hope I say the right things to him so that he doesn't take it in the wrong way and gets scared away. Honestly, I'm just hoping that it all works out in the end and we can be together!

Any last-minute advice would be greatly appreciated!

[TeenageDream]

Hey, thanks for all the replies everyone! Yea, I think I am going to tell him today when he comes over for skiing tonight. I really hope I say the right things to him so that he doesn't take it in the wrong way and gets scared away. Honestly, I'm just hoping that it all works out in the end and we can be together!

Any last-minute advice would be greatly appreciated!

No matter what happens, be true to yourself, and be honest and you'll have always be okay.

[tyler007]

Hey i hope it went really well. Sound like both of you are great guys

[Infidelitas]

Ive been there before ( not quite sitting on each other ) Ive had feeling for people I know have girlfriends, but i cant do anything about it.

I say you tell him about your feelings, that might be the push he needs to come around if hes gay,

Goodluck! :)

[Matt Matoran]

Hey, so just as an update, the two of us had a sleepover over the weekend with a bunch of other friends. He wanted to sleep next to me, so that's what we ended up doing.

In the middle of the night I woke up and found us spooning (me being in the back) and that my hand was on his dick (on the outside) and that his hand was on mine, but I just fell asleep because I didn't think too much of it. I woke up again and wanted to wake him up because I wanted to talk to him about what just happened so I was rubbing his chest and he started being like "mmm, more" in a sleepy voice (I think I might have been rubbing his nipples accidentally). In the morning he was very very happy and really energetic.

I don't know if he was awake for any of what happened (I think he was) or if that was just his reaction to moving around in his sleep, but I was wondering what this all means?

[sieg]

you should definately call him out on it, sounds to me that he's into you

[tyler007]

Thank awesome and i agree sound like he send you signs too.

[Matt Matoran]

Haha, yea! I'm very excited about what happened, but that doesn't change the fact that he still has a girl friend... I want to get with him and do all the stuff like kissing and hugging and just having a good relationship with him. How should I go about telling him what happened and how I feel? I'm kinda scared that he will say that I touched him during the night and freaks out because that's not what happened at all...

[tyler007]

I think that you should take it slow, and if he has a girl friend, you cant change that.
I think that you wait a bit, have more sleep over, and just hang out with him and other friends. I think that if you tell him you want to kiss him and have a relationship with him, that well scare him off.

[smitty35]

hes definately into you, mabye he was just testing you by telling you he is going out with a girl to see your reaction. i dont think he is really going out with her.

[Matt Matoran]

Yea, he is actually going out with her (it's Facebook official) but they haven't kissed or even hugged yet... He claims that they hold hands in school, but according to his wall not many people even realized they were going out until he told them... So they must not be that intimate with each other...

I'm hoping that he really feels the same way about me that I feel about him... I'm afraid that he's just being this hyper and happy and acting like this because he just got a girl friend instead of because he might like me...

We've told each other that we loved each other many times before, but I don't know if he actually had any feelings behind what we said (like I did) or if he was just going along with the friendship...

[mr.sexy_bomb]

I honestly think you should tell him how you feel

[ikhasgkfjh]

I agree with Axel. If your comfortable enough and you feel its the right time. Tell him your feelings about him. By the sounds of it he wouldnt mind if you told him how you really feel even if he's straight. The best of luck to you. If you need any more advice or help. Let me know. :)