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georgiamay
February 17th, 2011, 10:43 AM
So last night I was having a "chat" with my parents about some shit I'm not going to bother going into, and my self harm came up. My dad asked me if I was still doing it. Every inch of me was screaming at me to just lie and say I haven't done it since last time they found out, but I knew he'd check me if I said I hadn't. So I said, "yeah."

I was expecting them to freak out, and demand to see them. But I just said, "look, I'm in therapy now, I don't really want to talk about it," and they were ok with it. My step mum even asked me if I had a clean blade, whether I washed it, and whether I wanted her to get me some disinfectant. I have to say, I was shocked.

It wasn't all good though. A few minutes later my step mum said, "if I was stuck up in that room as long as you are I'd be slitting my wrists too." I got angry at that, I just wanted to scream, "No, I've never cut my wrists, ever, only my legs and arms, stop stereotyping." Instead I just ignored it.

After that, she said, "You're turning into a typical chliche teenager! You're always in your room, and you self harm!" Yes nicola, because it's such a typical thing for a teenager to do isn't it?

I'm not sure why I'm posting this tbh... Just thought I'd say, parents aren't that bad. They might not understand, but after my therapist told them not to get involved with my self harm and stuff, they've stayed out of it.

Charleigh
February 17th, 2011, 01:07 PM
Oh hun. Your parents probly feel like your cutting is out of their control and they feel as if though they cant stop you, but make sure you arnt using any un-clean objects to harm yourself with. Also, they probly dont really know how to react, and they want to deal with it in a different way. Im not too sure on that one :l

Im here if you ever need anything hun
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FullyAlive
February 17th, 2011, 01:58 PM
I'm not sure why I'm posting this tbh... Just thought I'd say, parents aren't that bad. They might not understand, but after my therapist told them not to get involved with my self harm and stuff, they've stayed out of it.

I'm sorry I can't decide if you're happy about this or not? Personally I would be they sound like they're trying their best. At least you don't have to talk to them about it and they are respecting what your therapist said, that's good news right?
The whole stereotyping thing your step mum does, well I'm not sure but next time she says anything about cutting your wrists, keep the tone light but correct her? Unless she would respond badly to that.
And the comments about spending lots of time in your room is she being serious about this? Would you be able to ask her if she would rather you spend more time downstairs? Then maybe you could spend an extra half hour or so an evening with your parents? Unless of course you don't like them, then that plan would fail.

Hope everythings all ok :)
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