Not Good Enough

[love music]

I'm in a relationship, and i feel like he's only with me JUST to be with me. We've kind of dated before and it didn't end up very well. I was the rebound to him, plain and simple. Well now i know i'm not the rebound, but i still don't feel like he likes me. I spend alot of the time trying to figure out how he feels, but he doesn't really help me. I ask what he wants from me, his answer 'idk.' Always 'idk.' I need an answer! I want to feel needed, appreciated, wanted. I don't ask for much. I don't ask for gifts or constant attention. I just want these feelings that should come with a relationship. I really like him. Quite a bit. Which is why i've waited this long to be with him. And when we're together, i'm really happy. We are so good when we're in person together. But when we're just talking on the phone or texting, that's when it gets bad. I just feel like i'm not good enough. I dislike feeling like that. I've always felt that way and have tried so hard to satisfy people, make them happy with me. But i have no clue what to do to make him happy. Why can't i become good enough for him? I try so hard. I guess i'll just have to try harder....

[Charleigh]

Hun, instead of putting yourself on him more, try backing off and giving him space. Maybe he is reacting that way because he likes the attention and thinks you will chase after him more. But, now just back off and act as it he isnt there, dont ignore him though. If he smiles, just smile back and be friendly ONLY if he says hello.

Keep your distance and see if he comes running.
Good luck hun.

[love music]

ive tried that =[ all he does is not talk to me and accept the distance. i dont want to end this with him.

[Quahog]

Maybe it's time to question your relationship with this person. Maybe it's time to realize whether you want to be with this person or not. If you have to question your relationship, then odds are, the relationship isn't going good. You have to realize, if you are having all of these problems, is the relationship really worth it.

You said you have broken up with him before, so maybe it's just time for you guys to go your separate ways. Sometimes, relationships don't always work out.

[LittleMonsterMike]

You should never ever feel like that in a relationship trust me i know i've been where you are. You don't need to settle for anything less then perfect there's nothing wrong with you there just something wrong with your relationship.

[KylieEatWorld]

A large amount of guys are not affectionate by nature. So it could be that he cares for you deeply he just doesn't know how to show it. Don't break up with him because of it. Give him some space and only talk to him if he talks to you first. If you can go a week, you can go without him and he can obviously go without you in which case, dump him. But he might just have something going on in his life or have subconscious thought that showing affection isn't important right now. You don't want to come off as too clingy. Guys tend to dislike that. But do be yourself.

[love music]

To everyone that commented-
thank you for giving me some advice. this guy ive crushed on for a while, so i want to try and make this work. but i really think i need to make a decision soon because feeling this way is ripping me apart. thank you for listening to me.