LucienLachance
February 16th, 2011, 08:08 PM
I'm an introvert, I should say. I have Social Anxiety Disorder, but it is not severe. I only have 2 friends, they are not very close.
Introversion and Social Anxiety (diagnosed SAD), I would say, are synergistic and in turn socially crippling. I do not feel like I have the full right to say this, because I did not fully have the will to become social. When I decided that I should get into a somewhat intimate relationship (I never had a girlfriend, I had female friends, and am not looking to make any guy friends I think males are all stupid in one way or another), however, I realized that these to things may be legitimately tough.
I spend most of my time alone. My parents hate it. My teachers think I'm depressed. I do not think either opinions are warranted, is it that introversion is obscure?
I am not socially retarded, I always respect others space, belongings, and opinions.
Whatever it is, I am really quiet now. The ignorant have called me 'antisocial' (the word they were looking for was asocial, hence anti- against, a- without), but the best way to describe me is a person that is nervous in a crowd (leaning back and forth, head down), or with 3-4 people a person that stares into empty space and does not converse well. I like to think that I can at least talk intimately, but unless I'm interested I will get fatigued after 3 sentences.
I don't really like this. I am usually an anomaly. Attracting unwanted attention, or being 'that guy'.
The most nonconstructive thing right now would be to label myself a victim. I am an attractive male, seriously, if I could function socially I would live a happy life. I don't want to be a commercialized asshole, but I don't want to be forever alone. I want to fulfill that niche, the lack of social skills.
So here are my problems:
- When I talk to strangers, my mind sometimes draws blank and I say the wrong words, sometimes I don't make very much sense.
- I smile in social situations, sometimes I have to cover up my mouth. I have little control over that.
- I can't construct a conversation. eg:
(other person) "How long you been playing for?
(me) "Well I stopped for a while and became more focused on bass for 5 months..."
(I basically don't answer the centralized question)
So how can I get over these things? If you only have one idea, please answer anyway. Any help is help, I'm still waiting for SAD counselling.
Thanks in advance.
Introversion and Social Anxiety (diagnosed SAD), I would say, are synergistic and in turn socially crippling. I do not feel like I have the full right to say this, because I did not fully have the will to become social. When I decided that I should get into a somewhat intimate relationship (I never had a girlfriend, I had female friends, and am not looking to make any guy friends I think males are all stupid in one way or another), however, I realized that these to things may be legitimately tough.
I spend most of my time alone. My parents hate it. My teachers think I'm depressed. I do not think either opinions are warranted, is it that introversion is obscure?
I am not socially retarded, I always respect others space, belongings, and opinions.
Whatever it is, I am really quiet now. The ignorant have called me 'antisocial' (the word they were looking for was asocial, hence anti- against, a- without), but the best way to describe me is a person that is nervous in a crowd (leaning back and forth, head down), or with 3-4 people a person that stares into empty space and does not converse well. I like to think that I can at least talk intimately, but unless I'm interested I will get fatigued after 3 sentences.
I don't really like this. I am usually an anomaly. Attracting unwanted attention, or being 'that guy'.
The most nonconstructive thing right now would be to label myself a victim. I am an attractive male, seriously, if I could function socially I would live a happy life. I don't want to be a commercialized asshole, but I don't want to be forever alone. I want to fulfill that niche, the lack of social skills.
So here are my problems:
- When I talk to strangers, my mind sometimes draws blank and I say the wrong words, sometimes I don't make very much sense.
- I smile in social situations, sometimes I have to cover up my mouth. I have little control over that.
- I can't construct a conversation. eg:
(other person) "How long you been playing for?
(me) "Well I stopped for a while and became more focused on bass for 5 months..."
(I basically don't answer the centralized question)
So how can I get over these things? If you only have one idea, please answer anyway. Any help is help, I'm still waiting for SAD counselling.
Thanks in advance.