she came out

[ackmedsgirl666]

so me and my gf were talking today... we were talking about roles if per say she wanted a male/female relatonship like one of us plays a guy
she said she would try.... but then she also came out saying she is indeed transexual and wants to get a sex change
i do not like this... i am not against it its just that i dont want her to ruin her perfect body to become a man
i love her a ton and i want her to be happy
i just dont know if this is the best choice for our relationship.....
so um what should i do?

[TravM]

so me and my gf were talking today... we were talking about roles if per say she wanted a male/female relatonship like one of us plays a guy
she said she would try.... but then she also came out saying she is indeed transexual and wants to get a sex change
i do not like this... i am not against it its just that i dont want her to ruin her perfect body to become a man
i love her a ton and i want her to be happy
i just dont know if this is the best choice for our relationship.....
so um what should i do?

Wow. This is truly a difficult situation, not gonna lie. You have to support your wants, desires, and feelings as well as hers at the same time, so you know you have to take that into consideration.

If the prevailing choice is that you want to be with a woman (you seem to be a lesbian or bi-sexual so I'm guessing your more attracted to that), then you must lay it plain with her. You're probably not gonna be able to make her stay the same because she'll stay the same only if she wants to. So with that understanding, she should know that she can't keep you from staying with her without being someone she doesn't want to be.

Maybe ask her what her ultimate decision would be on whether to get a sex change or not if you're not okay with it. After that is when you should be able to make your choice. I hope this helped, I try.

[sieg]

do you want her to be happy? or do you want her and you to be happy? if i were i would tell her wait a little while longer before she does something like that as hormones are still active even in your late teens. but ultimately in order to make her happy you'll have to let her go through with it. I hope everything works out for you two.

[Quahog]

You need to accept that she is probably transgendered, and she probably doesn't want to be the sex that she currently is. If you still are puzzled, you can talk to her, and figure out what the root of the problem really is. Ask her if she is really serious about going along with it. Just accept her, and support her. If your friend isn't happy the way that she currently is, wouldn't you want to accept or support her with that type of decision?

Once again, you just need to really talk it through with her, and really just show that you have her support, and maybe tell her your reasons, and listen to hers, and I'm sure it is all going to be worked out.

[ackmedsgirl666]

she is continuing to take this way outta proportion
i can't handle it
i love her the way she is and i don't want her to change
i don;t wanna leave her either
.....................

[ShatteredWings]

you do not know how tempted i am to fix the title kenzie.

if your partner is ftm, then that's who he is and you CAN'T CHANGE THAT.

yes, you could still stay with him. but the 'i don't want her to change' bullshit won't fly very long. it's pretty unsupportive and really won't lead to a good relatoinship.

it's not 'out of proportion'.
living in the wrong body is STRESSFUL. it's hell. living in a female, hormonal body when you're MALE does not quite work out [i am not putting down girls in male bodies, but i can't speak of that from experiance]

Also, i personally take huge offence at "ruin her perfect body". It's not ruining it, it's fixing it. To what he wants.

Kenzie, you should know this by now.
I mean really...

[ackmedsgirl666]

you do not know how tempted i am to fix the title kenzie.

if your partner is ftm, then that's who he is and you CAN'T CHANGE THAT.

yes, you could still stay with him. but the 'i don't want her to change' bullshit won't fly very long. it's pretty unsupportive and really won't lead to a good relatoinship.

it's not 'out of proportion'.
living in the wrong body is STRESSFUL. it's hell. living in a female, hormonal body when you're MALE does not quite work out [i am not putting down girls in male bodies, but i can't speak of that from experiance]

Also, i personally take huge offence at "ruin her perfect body". It's not ruining it, it's fixing it. To what he wants.

Kenzie, you should know this by now.
I mean really...
i take rele great offense to what u said man
not rele cool cuz she is still going by she but just with a guys name for now and shes just dressing like a guy