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Imsilly
February 15th, 2011, 03:46 AM
Hey all.Please tell me what you think of me by my following characteristics:
Firstly,I'm an Asian male,17 years old.
175cm in height,64kg in weight.Im medium in size,well build.
I'm not an active person in my school,I don't take parts in school sports events.I'm not good at football,soccer,basketball, nearly all the games I suck at.I'm not good at running or jumping either.
Only sports I play are golf and fencing.
I'm not good at socializing,don't really fit in with much people;can't fit in with the cool people as I dont talk much,can't really fit in with the nerds as I'm neither clever nor we share any similar interest.

I basically suck with my studies,(failed my additional maths and my accounting,the rest of the subjects are fine though)
I suck at sports and I suck at socializing so I don't really have tons of friends.
I tell jokes and crap around with new people as I'm nervous,When I'm not hanging around I have a serious look on my face which probably makes some people think I'm stuck up or something,but actually I'm nervous inside and I don't like showing emotions.
People who think they know me say I talk crap all the time making me not trusted.I also don't talk much during lessons.i also dont talk much to girls so some people think I'm gay,which I'm clearly not.
I tend to care what people think of me alot so that really makes me nervous when I'm with people as I don't want to scare them away nor do I want them to think I'm sort of annoying hence this makes me quiet when I'm with people.
Deep down in side,I'm actually a really nice guy who is actually trustable and kind.I'm also a caring kind of guy and I take care fo my good friends well.

Honestly guys,do I stand any chance with girls?How can I be more sociable and make more friends without making a fool of myself by talking crap and telling jokes?How can I make myself "open" to girls will find it easy to talk to me without me trying to start a conversation with them first?
How can make make more friends an be more friendly without smiling like an idiot?
Thanks for the advice in advance,sorry I typed too much,must have been boring reading it.

Fushigi
February 15th, 2011, 03:54 AM
first thing is just be urself!! u dont need to do such things just to have friends/girlfriends coz ... there will be people that will accept u who u are and what u are... just be urself... im sure u will meet the right person at the right time... :) hope it helps

Imsilly
February 15th, 2011, 04:29 AM
first thing is just be urself!! u dont need to do such things just to have friends/girlfriends coz ... there will be people that will accept u who u are and what u are... just be urself... im sure u will meet the right person at the right time... :) hope it helps

Thanks,but i have a slight problem...I don't know how to be myself!
I keep changing myself whn I'm with different people,I've been doing it for so long I'm afraid I lost the real me.

Quahog
February 15th, 2011, 04:39 AM
Act the same with everyone. You shouldn't have to act different just to please someone. The person should like you for who your truly are. You will do fine.

You have a better chance of meeting someone if you just be yourself. If the person doesn't accept you, then move on. There will be others. But don't feel as though you have to be someone you are not just to please someone.